If she can’t say “No” to either the sex or the marriage, it’s rape. You could rape your wife, you could rape your slaves. This is so because your God was created by Middle Eastern men, and he has whatever values they gave him.
These are modern concepts that, again, atheists and freethinkers did not bring us — Christianity did.
God ordained the death penalty for rape.
Hardly something men who are making up their own religion would impose on themselves.