[Jim W N]

Yes...

Before the cross: “…and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us…”

But even better...

After the cross: “...even as Christ forgave you, so forgive others” (Col 3:13).

I don’t forgive to be forgiven, I forgive BECAUSE I’ve been forgiven. :)

[SampleMan]

After the cross: “...even as Christ forgave you, so forgive others” (Col 3:13).

And going to my point, Christ does not forgive me if I'm unrepentant, right? So if I expect a person to be sorry that they raped my daughter, before I forgive them, that seems in keeping with Christ's teaching.