“We also can’t go against the official teachings of the Pope.”
If the Pope is teaching something that doesn’t square with the Teachings of the Church & the Gospel of Our Lord, Jesus Christ this thankful Catholic convert is certainly going against the Pope as best I can. There is precedent for this in the book of Acts. Paul charitably stood against Peter as I recall because Peter was wrong.
Understand that not everything the Pope does is the the supreme exercise of his office. Not only is there precedent for disagreeing with him when he is not doing so, there are procedutes and bounds.
Peter was wrong in his social actions, which in some sense do teach, but are not an exercise of his teaching office. When the Pope is acting primarily as priest or as ruler, he is not primarily exercising his teaching office, so there is much more room for intellectual agreement. When he is acting as someone who needs to process stuff outlaid in an unofficial conversation, the same holds.
So on what basis do you decide if the pope is wrong?
To what standard is he being held to measure him against and make that judgment?