Posted on 11/01/2017 9:15:28 AM PDT by Jewbacca
Man Versus Beast
Theres really only one thing a man needs to do to gain a womans respect. He needs to be a man.
The good news is that women want a man. The even better news is that there arent many to go aroundwhich means that if you can be one, youre at the head of the pack.
What is a man?
A man is a multi-storied, burning furnace with a cooling system on the roof. A two legged, upright, impulsive, passion-driven beast with a brain that keeps him in check.
If theres no beastwell, why would a woman want one of those?
If the brain on top is not doing its jobthen what is there to respect?
Which means that being a man is mostly about not being the animal you feel you are.
Men, you get that. WomenI know its hard, but you just have to believe us.
Perhaps a woman can be a woman just by being her natural, human self. Having never been a woman, I cant really say. But I can tell you that a man is someone who is constantly not being the beast that drives him.
The beast says, I want! Now! The man says, Ill decide.
The beast says, Grab it! Its yours!
The man says, Nothing is mine but my own free will. And with my free will, I choose to ignore you.
The beast says, Everything is yours! There is nothing else. Everyone is yours! There is no one else. They are all just objects, there to do your bidding!
And the man says, There is the Creator who made me and gives me life. There are the people with whom I live and put their trust in me. There is the woman of my covenant whom I respect and love. They are not me, I am not them. She is not me. I am not her. I am a man, and regardless of all the fury with which you may burn, I will act as a man.
The Fair Maidens Hero
Who is a hero? asks Ben Zoma in the ancient Mishnah. He who conquers his own desires.
Man is made to conquer. The beast inside a man desires to conquer. But the man cannot conquer a thing until he has first conquered that beast within.
The beast remains a beast, a bull, a horse, a goring ox. The beast may desire, but the man is not a slave of those desires. The man must be the one that tells the beast where it can go and where it cannot, where it can look and where it must not, when it should speak and when it should keep its mouth shut tight.
Indeed, the beast is the father of the man.
For only once a man has turned his back to his own maddening passions, resisted the rush of adrenaline pumping through his veins, ignored the screaming amygdala hijack, and just coldly walked away, only then has he touched that which defines him most deeply, that which separates him from beast and angel, that which makes him most divine.
A woman desires a man.
But if a man does not know what makes him a man, how can she know that he is one?
If a man cant leave space for another, why would she want to stand in his presence?
If a man can't stand up to the fight, why should she respect and admire him?
Many are the men who have never been there. Many are the men who spend an entire life barely cognizant of the power that enables them to become a man.
Because it is not easy to be a man.
The Guide to Being a Man
To be an athlete, you need a trainer. To be a man, you need a guide.
Many guides have been written by many great sages. If youre looking for the most potent Jewish classic on being a man, look in a small book called Tanya. Its also known as Sefer Shel Beinonimmeaning The Book for the Everyman.
In Tanya, Rabbi Schneur Zalman of Liadi, a great teacher and disciple of the Baal Shem Tov, teaches us all we need to know about our beast inside. True, the guide is for both men and women. But once you see the advice it contains, it is hard to imagine how anyone could be a man without knowing its teachings well.
To deny the power of the beast over your heart and mind is the height of conceit. To surrender is the height of foolishness. teaches: To deny the power of the beast over your heart and mind is the height of conceit. To surrender is the height of foolishness.
So that life is an ongoing wrestling match. The beast will never throw in the towel. It will grow stronger each day, devising yet more strategies to escape its reins, taking yet more devious gambits to declare victory over you.
Your principal strategy is to ignore its wails and tantrums. But the beast is stronger than the man. To win, you need a fire yet more fierce than the fury of the beast. You must find the divine fire from beyond that breathes secretly in a hidden chamber within your heart.
That is your mission. That is why you were thrown into this ring. So that each day, with that fire, you will bring your beast as an offering upon an altar of divine light.
No wonder a woman admires a real man. The One who made him admires him even more.
HA!
Doesn’t matter. Still reflects badly.
Sorry, I just responded to the wrong post. Ignore my last one.
LOL, how true. In summary, we can descend to being beasts, but it is our faith and free will that keeps us men.
I can only assume you are looking in the wrong places or are attracted to women based on criteria other than their character and wisdom.
Even though Im middle aged and dont have many young single friends, I can think of several young Christian women who appreciate nice guys, even more who have recently married nice, Christian young men.
They are out there, probably not in bars or the gym, but they are there. I met my husband while volunteering, a young couple we know met at a Christian young adults fellowship group. Shes absolutely beautiful inside and out and her groom is a great guy. He would die to protect a woman, never would hurt one.
Oh and nice doesnt equal submissive and weak. Kind loving men can still be a leader and able to protect.
The article is spot on.
I had a good man, but I lost respect for him due to the very behaviors described in the article. Uncontrolled anger and profane out bursts that escalated as the years went by. It makes me very sad.
A book well worth reading.
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I don’t get it. There are a million good women out there looking for a solid, kind, loving guy.
I would have to guess you are looking in the wrong talent pool, or there is something about you—dress, focus, communication, who knows—that is warding them off.
You ought to ask one or more from the past, see what they have to say.
The only advice I would give is to look to a woman’s family, her background. If the family is strong and loving and welcoming, (and God-fearing), you are likely in the presence of a good wife-to-be.
If there is divorce and trouble and addiction and so on—you will encounter same.
A man’s relationship with his wife will often mirror his relationship with his mother. A woman who loves or hates her father will likely be similarly disposed to her husband.
Just my observations.
How about how to be a woman that men respect. If you dress, act, and talk like a slut, which feminazis are pushing, maybe the sluts are getting what they deserve?
Number one, don’t worry about gaining approval from women.
On a basic level, what women want in a man are a) providence (a house, a car, money) and b) protection.
I don’t think they mind if a man acts like a beast because women would rather have a lion to tame than have a pre-tamed lion. There’s no challenge in that. If the man is violent, that’s okay as long as it’s not violence toward her or her children.
While the rabbi’s advice seems reasoned and wise, he forgets that women are animals too and, like most animals, they care most about their own survival and the survival of their progeny.
Thank you for such an intelligent essay.
Myself, I simply say that there is nothing feminine about feminism.
9pm on a Saturday in September is well after sunset most everywhere, isn’t it?
Thanks for posting!
Bravo! Well said!
Bravo! Well said!
Women in America want a man with $$$$$.
Well maybe just the $$$$.
There are exceptions to the rule, but they are few.
Many good lessons here, thanks. Sadly we are losing many of the institutions and activities that previously taught and represented manliness. This doesn’t bode well.
“Women in America want a man with $$$$$.”
Very true - especially in south Florida and southwest Florida (Ft Lauderdale, Naples, etc).
I’m sure there are other gold-digger hotspots - but this area seem to rise above the rest.
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