To be frank, I've gone to traditional Mass in NYC and in France & Italy, dressed badly, and have never been given a hard time. Of course, that may be because I don't interact with people. And thankfully, at a Latin Mass, you don't have to do the stupid handshake bit. I also always sit apart out of respect. I have deep admiration for the parishioners at St. Agnes - many of whom appear to be of ethnic origin. Some of them appear quite holy to me in their intense devotion. Never let people interfere with your communication with God! Respect the traditions but do not allow yourself to be pushed around either.
Glad you know Father Rutler! What a guy. I'm hoping to move to an apt. nearby so that I can attend his Masses.
It’s a great neighborhood - certainly changed a lot, but being near that church would be wonderful. I think Fr Rutler is very respectful of people and he is all about the Faith and not about women covering themselves up.
I was a little freaked out because in one of the Old Rite churches here, I actually heard a young man saying that women had to cover their elbows and the backs of their necks because it “inflamed” him too much to see them. I think he needs do a little “custody of the eyes” or maybe even visit a therapist if all it takes to “inflame” him is bared elbows.
Of course, here in Florida, we could stand a little more attention to dress. People literally come in wearing their beach wraps.
BTW, a friend of mine - like most, a former Catholic - said she’d go to mass again if they didn’t have the “handshake of peace.”