The most dangerous place for a chil is in a home with mom’s boyfriend, and sometimes a second husband. STEY MARRIED FOR YOUR KIDS SAKE!!
The actual most dangerous place for an unborn child is in its own mother’s womb. Once born, the rigors of a busted family can come into play. If people realized the gravity of the vows they make before God when they marry, divorce would never even be considered an option. Commitment. “I’m gonna’ do this if it kills me!”
Amen! Stay married and work it out.
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Some years ago, I had to explain to a divorced female friend that her new boyfriend's desire to hang out alone with her 16 year old daughter was not because he wanted to learn to be a good future step dad.
There are huge incentives for women to divorce or live separately from the children’s father. . . spousal support/alimony, child support that often goes WELL beyond age 18, especially in BLUE states.
The pull is almost irresistible; no need to put up with father’s idiosyncrasies when you can divorce him, alienate the children from him and then participate in the biggest wealth redistribution scheme/debtor’s prison/indentured servitude operation; the gov’t sponsored “Child” (Matriarchy) Support Enforcement Agency and “family” courts. This is done by continuing to spread the myth of the “deadbeat dad who walks away from his family” (TM)
My husband hasn’t seen his children in ten years due to his ex-wife pushing him out, poisoning the children against him, then impoverishing him through “child” support. His eldest is 22, middle is 20 and youngest is 16. He is still paying for the middle and youngest although the 20 year old is NOT in school nor is she working. All three children are complete academic failures, drug addicts and are going no where fast.
No kid wants to be a member of a blended family. But that’s no reason to stay married. Get out of that ridiculous legal contract and stay single . Better yet. MEN!! Do not marry!! There is absolutely nothing, zero, nada in it for you. No upside whatsoever.
What if there if there is life threatening abuse?
STAY MARRIED FOR YOUR KIDS SAKE
I tried that. It doesn’t always work. The suffering spouse could end up with depression which leads to cancer or worse. It is not necessary to die in misery for your kids. They don’t want that.
Both partners have to keep the deal and perform at least a bare minimum of decency to the other. Divorce is unpleasant but there is a lot worse.