My understanding was that you mention a person by name...
I think you can see the reason for that: to avoid the sort of behind-their-back ridicule which soon causes a discussion forum to devolve into a Mean Gurlz clique. ("Gurlz" of any gender identity.)
If someone can reduce this to a nullity just by by being coy about naming, the whole goal of reasonable common courtesy vanishes.
We should expect more from each other.