Sigh. I find that sad. There is a bit of a cautionary tale in that history you related there.
I have always felt that we as humans have to work to keep our baser instincts at bay, and influences such as a structured society, belief in God, the institutions of marriage and family and such keep us on the narrow path, which requires our constant effort and vigilance to keep from straying.
Once we stray off the path, it is easier to stray even further, which brings us into areas we should not go. Brutality to our fellow man in crime and violence, general lawbreaking, deviant behavior, and generally risky behavior to ourselves. Eventually people can stray so far off that path the abnormal behavior becomes normalized...which is bad for everyone.
I would think being a closeted homosexual would induce a great deal of internal dissension in a person, but I believe that on the whole, socially normalizing behavior that internally we all know deep inside is unnatural and wrong creates a huge amount of cognitive dissonance in people who fully embrace something that, deep down in their heart of hearts, they cannot shake the feeling that it is wrong (even at an unconscious level)
I think we do a great disservice to these people by normalizing homosexuality, and I have always felt that it shows up in the higher levels in the homosexual community of depression, suicide, drug and alcohol abuse, antisocial behavior, and other generally self-destructive behaviors.
That description of Harvey Milk’s journey is not at all surprising.
Once the barriers of God, Marriage, and Societal Norms are removed, it frees people to plumb the depths of the human interior, and I believe that can be a very dark place that leaves a mark on those who see it.
And we as a society are trying to give people of all mental stripes free reign to descend and explore those depths. I don’t believe those behaviors to be criminal, but I believe to remove all barriers to them is destructive, especially to people who aren’t equipped to look inside themselves and deal with it.