I swear, someone has to! Your father was lucky that there were people there to stick up for him. I used to think doctors, nurses, etc. were there to help, but I’m not so sure anymore.
When my husband’s father passed away, we were in our early 20s’ and it was both our first experience with that type of situation. Had we known then what we knew now, he may still be alive. He had made his greedy sister POA, and the only thing he said was he didn’t want to be on life support, but had no written living will. (He had liver cancer.) His kidneys went into renal failure because of antibiotics this idiot doctor put him on (for no reason!) and his sister refused disalysis because she and the doctor said it was life support. I can see how it could be construed as such, BUT 1. There was no guarentee that he would need it for the rest of his life, 2. that he meant dialysis when he said life support, as most people mean ventilator, and things along that lines. Of course, we were niave, and when the doctor said it was against his wishes, we didn’t question. I’ll always feel guilty for not sticking up for him and I’ve vowed to never let anyone else I care about be killed by the laziness of health care “professionals”.
Liver cancer is serious stuff.
Its pretty much the death knell.
I am sorry for your loss
If your Dad had liver cancer, and in those days, that was pretty much sure death, and the Doc said dialysis was against his wishes, again in the context of those days, he was more than likely right.
Its very hard to accept, and a relatively young man died of liver cancer is harder to accept. There is nothing right about any of it.