Last year my middle school aged daughter and I got into an argument when I stated that the reality was that women need to make good choices to protect themselves from being assaulted. My daughter was appalled that I would “blame the victim”. I tried to explain that I wasn’t blaming the victim, but rather stating that all women need to take responsibility for their own self preservation and not just say that men shouldn’t take advantage of a drunk woman, etc. because the reality is that there are evil people out there who will do what they shouldn’t do. Living according to what “should be” rather than what is, is foolish.
She sounded like a feminist poster child. I couldn’t believe it. The conversation got quite heated. Hopefully, some nugget of truth took hold even if she didn’t want to admit it.
I would phrase it:
The world is not a safe place, and wishing won’t make it safe. It’s better to just take intelligent steps to keep yourself safe.
You’ve got enough sense to not be obliviously walking down the street counting a wad of cash, aren’t you?
Tell your daughter she has the RIGHT to CHOOSE NOT to BE a victim!
Just because a guy invites, doesn’t mean she has to say yes.
FWIW, I hope you read the OP. The article has some awesome quotes from Weinstein’s lady lawyer which you could also read to your daughter.
Good luck. It’s hard raising teenagers these days. The culture is against us!