as long as grandson knows that she believes it is sinful and she does not agree with it, then she SHOULD attend the ceremony, and even buy them a gift, because if not, her absence will simply reinforce the fact that she is “judgmental” and “critical.”
Also note how that is missed in discussion.
BUT, your presence endorses it no matter what you say. This is the problem of sin. It destroys relationships.
SO...... what do you do?
I have a great niece who is transgender. My mother would have said, “God created a beautiful young woman” REPEATEDLY until the echoes came back. I say it but so far, no echoes.
There is much that is right in what Beggs says here when read on its entirety. However, he seems to contradict himself when conditioning her attendance on prior communication that attending implies approval. I hope I would have the courage both to 1) relate my love and concern for the person and the fact that I have to conclude that what was planned was a grave sin and then 2) explain that attending would be hypocritical on my part as it would seem to endorse what I am convince is morally dangerous and spiritually harmful to him, leaving me no choice but to show my love for him by declining the invitation and seeking to demonstrate my genuine love for him in some manner consistent with what is pleasing to God.