Posted on 06/14/2010 1:48:57 PM PDT by savedbygrace
A few days ago, my wife suddenly, without forewarning that I ever detected, told me she is leaving me. The details are not important, only that I recognize it was mostly my fault.
Our grown daughter is leaving home about the same time. Within three weeks, I will be alone, with only my Golden Retriever as a companion. I'm calling on God, and he is answering, but in this physical world, it's only my Golden.
Heartbroken, deeply wounded, ashamed. That's me.
I'm hoping to receive words of advice and counsel. I'm a born again, spirit filled Christian, so I'll respond more readily to Christian-based advice and counsel, but I'm ready to accept whatever you have for me. I'm needy.
Head up....your not the first to be treated in such a way.
Been there, done that.
Remember, it was HER choice, not yours.
Women have all the power in a relationship.
Time to recover your power.
Best of luck to you.
very sorry to hear this.
I think some people were just not meant to be alone, therefore, lots of divorces...always looking for something and its right inside of them...solitude can be a beautiful thing.
Also, do not try to reconcile. Once it is done, never, ever go back. Ask William Hetherington how that worked out for him.
Ecclesiastes 3
A Time for Everything
1 There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under heaven:
2 a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
3 a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
4 a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
5 a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain,
6 a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
7 a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
8 a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.
9 What does the worker gain from his toil? 10 I have seen the burden God has laid on men. 11 He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the hearts of men; yet they cannot fathom what God has done from beginning to end. 12 I know that there is nothing better for men than to be happy and do good while they live. 13 That everyone may eat and drink, and find satisfaction in all his toil—this is the gift of God. 14 I know that everything God does will endure forever; nothing can be added to it and nothing taken from it. God does it so that men will revere him.
15 Whatever is has already been,
and what will be has been before;
and God will call the past to account. [a]
No chance at getting your wife to agree to counseling?
You know, sometimes people take a few minutes to vent or expose their being. There’s no need to beat him up over it. No doubt he’ll get his life straightened out. Where’s your compassion?
#60: Thanks, I’ll pass it on. I don’t judge him or blame him, but he has shared some of the things that were wrong. She, however, has not handled it in a way that was healthy, either. I am very proud of him. He is back living with me, but he’s learned so much the past several months, that he is a different man from the one who left home 2 years ago. I am very proud of how he is handling this.
Talk to a therapist of some kind and explore what the issues were in the marriage so you can avoid making the same mistakes. Don’t get remarried for a long time.
If he was the innocent victim of a callous woman, he'd get my compassion. But he isn't, and he told us that right up front. I save my compassion for innocent people who get screwed, not for those who do the screwing.
Threads like this are just more proof that few real conservatives remain on FR.
Today upon a bus I saw
A lovely maid with golden hair
I envied her - she seemed so gay-
And oh, I wished I were so fair,
When suddenly she rose to leave,
I saw her hobble down the aisle;
She had one foot and wore a crutch,
But as she passed, a smile,
Oh God, forgive me when I whine,
I have two feet - the world is mine.
And when I stopped to buy some sweets,
The lad who served me had such charm
He seemed to radiate good cheer,
His manner was so kind and warm.
I said, “It’s nice to deal with you,
Such courtesy I seldom find.”
He turned and said, “Oh, thank you, sir!”
And then I saw that he was blind.
Oh, God, forgive me when I whine,
I have two eyes- the world is mine.
Then when walking down the street,
I saw a child with eyes of blue,
He stood and watched the others play;
It seemed he knew not what to do;
I stopped a moment, then I said,
“Why don’t you join the others, dear?”
He looked ahead without a word,
And then I knew: He could not hear.
Oh, God, forgive me when I whine,
I have two ears,- the world is mine.
With feet to take where I’d go,
With eyes to see the sunset’s glow,
With ears to hear what I would know,
Oh, God, forgive me when I whine.
I’m blessed indeed; the world is mine;
If you were one of my buddies I would tell you to quit whining, go out and get laid, come home, pet your dog and enjoy a quiet moment. Go to the fridge and drink milk out of the carton, belch...go sit down in your favorite easy chair and pass gas.. But I don’t know you so I won’t give you that advice....
Use the past for learning and information.Learn from your mistakes.
If it's over then straighten your act out, be a man and move on to experience life adventures that are waiting for you (www.PlentyofFish.com). Don't get serious to fast and don't drown yourself in a new relationship before you learn to swim in the ocean.
I am sure this wasn’t meant for me. :-)
See, that's two votes for "another dog."
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