Substance Abuse

Self ^ | May , 12 , 2022 | Founded on Purpose

[foundedonpurpose]

I have had a great life, yet the bottle keeps getting me. Very sad. I am just a man, Is there room on FR for a support group? Would this be a private group or open to the public. My guess, would be privet invite only, we have enough trolls as it is. Jim I would love your thoughts on this. Thanks! Founded

[Norski]

For your consideration:

https://rurecovery.com

Find a local meeting by searching below or call 866.733.6768 |

support@reformu.com

[logi_cal869]

“Not quite,” the recovered alcoholic says. “I’ve been here before, and I know the way out.”

EXACTLY!!!

Love that!

[Jamestown1630]

That’s very good.

[When do we get liberated?]

Been there. Dont waste your time quitting to please others, or yourself. When you hate it, you will quit it. Build a life where you hate alcohol for robbing you of that, or just grow to hate it, then you can quit. Till then, raise a beer, be a good human and enjoy life. You will quit it when you hate it.

[Jamestown1630]

Seems to me that someone who would post about it in this way here already hates it, and is just looking for community.

[hope_dies_last]

Thanks for sharing

[Veto!]

My sister and brother-in-law are on a conference call tonight with a fellow AA member hundreds of miles away to celebrate his 50 years sober.

I come from a family alcoholics, and my daughter and I are the only ones who can have a glass of wine now and then and not want more. My AA relatives told me that an alcoholic has three choices: you get sober, lose your mind, or die. My mother lost her mind, my father and son died, and my sister got sober.

This is very serious stuff and I’m glad to see you are serious about it.. An online meeting with FRiends will be wonderful and if you can find a nearby in-person AA meeting, please go. If there are a few in your town, go to all of them and find the one you like the best. You’ll make good friends and find support at any hour of any day on the phone.

Keep going back. It works.

God bless you.

Veto!
(The Girl)

[Nifster]

Find a local AA meeting that clicks with you

It’s a great life. Been doing it for almost 26 years. Wouldn’t change it for anything

[Mears]

Agree…..41 years here.

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[Nifster]

True words

It’s why it works

[Nifster]

Smart recovery will never work for a true alcoholic. The distance between think a drink and take a drink is too short. Plus liquor is only a symptom not the real problem

[BiglyCommentary]

AA has the wrong approach. With them you are always being reminded that you are broken. You can be made whole and free.

Long article, read it completely.

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2015/04/the-irrationality-of-alcoholics-anonymous/386255/

[BiglyCommentary]

You have to understand that your heavy drinking has changed your body biochemistry significantly in several ways. That has to be dealt with.

[unlearner]

Lot’s of good counsel here.

I’d add, in my opinion, all addiction is driven by feelings of rejection. The opposite of addiction is connection with others. People act on their addictions in order to feel connected or to cope with feelings of rejection and loneliness.

The twelve step programs help many people to get to the bottom of what drives addiction. You deal with guilt, shame, resentment, unforgiveness, worry, anxiety, self-acceptance, etc.

Also, when people meet in a group and open up about their problems, it is amazing (as in miraculous) how often people find the resources they need through others they meet there.

AA, Celebrate Recovery, and others have many chapters, locations, and times they meet. You may find that a particular group does not suit you well, but don’t give up. Find at least one that works for you.

I had a friend who lost everything to meth, alcohol, and sex addictions. He got plugged into several groups and programs and was going to at least one meeting every day. He did almost nothing but work (doing gig economy stuff) and go to meetings for over two years. I watched him put his life back together. He’s turned everything around in relationships, finances, and his personal wellbeing.

I had another friend with a nearly identical story who has not regained what he lost because he was only willing to address the meth addiction. His sex addiction destroyed his marriage and relationship with his children who have suffered tremendously for his selfishness. He is rebuilding financially and may have his criminal records purged soon, but he is not on track to have much of a life because he is not really willing to change and just wants to get rid of consequences.

I have seen, and many others will attest to the same, that there are impossible situations that have been fixed. If you are earnest and take action by following a proven path, you will succeed.

[Ten Beers Gone]

I have been there, friend. The bottle "kept getting me" too. I have managed to string together 12 years of staying sober one day at a time.

There's many great recommendations in this thread. AA does work. I was initially resistant because I thought I did not need anyone else's help to quit, but if that were true, I would have already quit. I was then that I had my epiphany, after many abortive attempts to quit drinking, that I was truly powerless over alcohol and my life had become unmanageable. AA is wonderful because of the support you get from your fellow members, but ultimately, if you put your trust and care into God's hands, you can prevail.

You may hear the term "surrender". At first, it was off-putting to me because I thought it meant you gave up. I wasn't until someone explained that surrender is not giving up, it means you no longer have to fight. Surrender your fight and put it in God's hands.

My life has been so much better since I quit drinking. I taught myself to build guitars from scratch and built two. I earned a college degree at the age of 59. I got re-married to a woman who is my best friend. Your life will improve, too. You can do it. Get to an AA meeting ASAP.

Good luck and Godspeed to you.

[TigerHawk]

EXCELLENT POST!

I admire your post very much. You don’t mess about or waste words.

Keep the Faith.

[Nifster]

Good on you

[jmacusa]

Alcoholics Anonymous. It is the single most successful self-help group in the world. It works because it is one sober alcoholic helping another as only an alcoholic can know, understand and relate another. You can not get sober on your own, it never works. I'm 32 years sober by the grace of God and AA. The program works.

[alexander_busek]

Things one can say to avoid drinking without having to declare yourself as a non-drinker:

My suggestions:

"I have this incredible craving for a nice, long, tall glass of mineral water right now!"

"I'm a vegan - Can you guarantee to me that that whiskey is certified 100% vegan?"

"My father-confessor gave me the penance to abstain for three weeks - this is my second day!"

"Am on an antibiotic regime right now - not allowed to drink!"

"Sorry: Lost a bet. Have to stay on the wagon for two more months!"

Regards,

[Basket_of_Deplorables]

I’m in. For me, AA gave me the tools I needed to get through a single day without drinking.

And the next day, I had those tools, and a few more. Each day, I just got through 1 day. We don’t think about staying sober forever. Just today.

11 years sober. 13 years clean. Literally, one day at a time.

Pm me if you wish. Here for you, buddy!