xsboy is VERY susceptible to guilt and me bawling. have you tried that tact?
Oh yes...I think it keeps him slightly in check...he doesn't like to hurt me...which is why he sneaks instead of telling me "up yours"....
Problem is is the KACTeen uses the bad stuff to reenforce the image of him at a bad boy...and I can't stop him from it. This makes me so horribly frustrated that it gnaws at me. When his birthmother and sister were killed in a traffic accident when he was 8, he was sitting in his sister's seat, and he's got bunches of survivor's guilt...
It's only the love I have for KAChubby that is keeping me here...and perhaps the knowledge that after he turns 18, if he wants to self destruct, it's his right...and that that day is only 1 year, two months and 6 days away. He will have enough money because of an inheritance and annuity (meant mostly to get him through college) to go do his own thing for four years...we will see if he matures or crashes and burns. But if he does, it will be on his own head.