"...The dumper isn't allowed to reach out to the dumped after the dumping."
Posted on 01/28/2009 1:39:42 PM PST by Fractal Trader
Q: I have a website and a blog, and I have a stat counter that shows me what IP addresses regularly visit my site. Over the past few months, I've suspected that my ex-boyfriend who I haven't talked to in 4 years is one of the people visiting, but I have no real way of knowing. I just happen to know that he lives in the same town in which the IP address is registered. I want to email him and ask if he's the one. We were together for nearly a decade and the break up was very sudden. I feel like I need to clear the air and see if we can be friends but I was the one who broke up with him. What do I do? iCurious, Boston
A: iCurious, you saved the most important details for last. You dumped him? And the break-up was sudden?
It may very well be your ex's IP address. In fact, I'm willing to bet that it is.
But I live by a rule: The dumper isn't allowed to reach out to the dumped after the dumping. It's the dumped who determines whether a friendship is possible. [SNIP] There are exceptions to this rule, of course, but they're few and far between.
As the dumper, you stay silent. If your ex is ever ready to say hello and be friends, he'll reach out.
That said, iCurious, I do wonder why Mr. IP address is still on your mind and why you're so "iCurious" about whether he's watching you.
[SNIP]
But could it be that you're second guessing your decision to let him go? Maybe when you say "I want to email him and ask if he's the one" you're really wondering whether he's "the one."
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Why do you care? Why would anyone care?
As a frequent internet users, here is my suggestion.
Why dont you post some naked pictures of yourself and see if he responds.
Ummm..., an IP number is from a town that her ex is in? Well..., so are the IP numbers of everyone else in that town... LOL...
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The only way I would say that this is true (that it’s her boyfriend) is that her blog is so boring and ridiculous, that no one else in their right mind would read it, unless it was someone else who knew her and they wanted to get a laugh out of it... :-)
> I just happen to know that he lives in the same town in which the IP address is registered
I think Ms. Paranoid Whackjob still has the hots for her ex. Just because the IPA reads as one community doesn’t exactly mean her ex is reading her blog.
S'pose that means I've been married too long.
Why is this being posted here?
Shouldn’t this be in Breaking News?
So you can never go back and say “Boy am I sorry, I really blew it, please forgive me and give me the rest of my life to make it up to you?”
"...The dumper isn't allowed to reach out to the dumped after the dumping."
Pathetic loser...the ex-boyfriend should consider himself lucky that he is an ex.
Advice to blogger.
He’s just not that in-ternet to you.
I didn’t know there was dumping etiquette, either. When I dumped my boyfriend as a teenager, I was the one who called two years later to start a new friendship. We’ve been friends in the decades since.
But what if you had Mexican food the night before?
That sounds completely bassackwards to me. The one who did the dumping is the one who decided there should be no relationship. If they have changed their mind they're the one who needs to find the courage to try to repair it. If the one who is dumped tries to "reach out" that shows disrespect for the dumpers decision doesn't it?
Useless with out a pic.
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