Posted on 12/02/2010 7:25:10 AM PST by SeekAndFind
It used to be the tell-tale lipstick on the collar. Then there were the give-away texts that spelled the death knell for many marriages.
But now one in five divorces involve social networking site Facebook, according to a new survey by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers.
A staggering 80 per cent of divorce lawyers have also reported a spike in the number of cases that use social media for evidence of cheating.
Flirty messages and photographs found on Facebook are increasingly being cited as proof of unreasonable behaviour or irreconcilable differences.
Many cases revolve around social media users who get back in touch with old flames they hadn’t heard from in many years.
Facebook was by far the biggest offender, with 66 per cent of lawyers citing it as the primary source of evidence in a divorce case. MySpace followed with 15 per cent, Twitter at 5 per cent and other choices lumped together at 14 per cent.
The survey reflects the findings of UK law firm last year showing that 20 per cent of its divorce petitions blamed Facebook flings.
‘The most common reason seemed to be people having inappropriate sexual chats with people they were not supposed to,’ said Mark Keenan, managing director of Divorce-Online.
Friends Reunited faced similar claims when it was launched to help people reconnect with old classmates, but the 23 million plus people now using Facebook in Britain means it is having a much bigger effect on rising divorce rates.
‘Desperate Housewives’ star Eva Longoria recently split from her basketball player husband Tony Parker after alleging that he strayed with a woman he kept in touch with on Facebook.
An American minister also made the headlines recently when he called Facebook a ‘portal to infidelity’ and insisted that his congregation delete their accounts
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Both myself and Mrs. Hoagy have FB accounts and we have access to each other’s passwords, so, should we feel the need to check up on each other, we can. We have never seen the need to.
I keep her apprised on what I do online, and she does that for me. Fact is...she has more criticism of stuff on FR than what I do on Facebook. (She doesn’t like some folks attitude here, but she’s a conservative.)
Heheh, looks hot in there...I of course always wear my pajamas when I'm FReeping...
Amen! If you have a tendency toward “cheating behavior”, give your spouse 24 hour access to your Facebook account!
I'm pretty tech ignorant. I've heard of iphones...that's it. Don't know if you can hide stuff on it as well.
Ain't no way I'm doing anything stupid and screwing this up. ;-)
even if it’s only 1 in 10, it’s still disturbing. BTW,
Facebook won’t play with lynx. (the text browser) So
I don’t go there.
Hiding an apps messages is something you do at the facebook level. When you get one of those farmville things hover over it, there will be an X in the upper right corner, click that, you’ll get the option to hide that post, hide all the posts from that user, or hide all the posts from that app. Chose as you wish.
“So help me if my wife ever joins Farmville I will divorce her. Easiest way in the world to get de-friended by me.”
Exactly!! I think Facebook is the best thing since sliced bread. I’ve connected with old friends that I otherwise wouldn’t have. But I’ve also friended prominent people in the media and politics. I had a great chat two nights ago with Breitbart.
“spouses should INSIST that their mate have access to their compute accounts.”
Is that why you’re lonesome? I don’t think spouses should have access to each others bank accounts.
I find Facebook rather annoying with people sending me invites to join all sorts of nonsense and games.Also if I get an e mail with link that some friend requests when I click it some other feature in FB appears. Not exactly drawn to the hodge podge of nonsense that FB has become. Just one man’s opinion.
I have access to my wife’s email (not that I ever peek) and she has access to all my bank accounts, though she has a separate savings account of her own. She is welcome to look at my email any time she wants, but she is too cyberlazy to care (and apparently a little too secure about her marriage.)
Anyway, I’m glad my wife doesn’t feel the need to rifle through my emails, but I’d like her to feel welcome to do so.
I think that’s a good balance. Money problems cause divorce.(That’s a fact). Not Facebook. It starts with trust in the first place.
If my marriage ends other than by death, I doubt it will be over money. I hope that it does not end, at least during my lifetime. I tell my wife that I want to live one day more than her, so he will never be alone. But that’s just me.
“I tell my wife that I want to live one day more than her, so he will never be alone. But that?s just me”
Wow, that’s confusing.
We may live in Massachusetts, but even Massachusetts didn’t do that back in 1982.
” should be: “so she will never be alone”
LOL! ;o)
A few female friends from HS and later are friends on FB as well as my wife. I almost never hear from any of them. At least one I have to wonder why is still my friend, she is a hardcore 0 lover. Odds are she ignores my posts, what few I make.
That’s ridiculous. Social media is NOT the problem. It is a MEDIUM. It is what is in the heart of the PERSON that is USING it that is the problem. If one is using the mewdia with proper motives and intentions, then NO problems or vices will be manifest. BUt if their hearts are dark and depraved — they can find what they are looking for. Don’t blame the medium, blame the USER.
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