Posted on 09/10/2014 10:11:00 AM PDT by NKP_Vet
This week, the entire country erupted with outrage after watching the video of (former) Ravens running back Ray Rice knocking his then-fiancée unconscious in a casino elevator. I wont link to it here. Im sure youve already seen it. If youve watched ESPN for any five minute span in the last 48 hours, youve likely been treated to the footage 17 times or so.
As youre probably aware, when the incident happened several months ago, the league, the Ravens, and the New Jersey criminal justice system initially determined that it was minor enough to warrant either a light punishment or none at all.
Then on Monday something changed, and now Rice has been fired from the team, indefinitely suspended by the league, and admonished by every famous athlete, media member, celebrity, and politician in the hemisphere. As usual, a giant game of Im More Outraged Than You! has broken out all around us, with Keith Olbermann taking the prize by calling for the expulsion or resignation of the NFL commissioner, the senior vice president of the NFL, the chief counsel of the NFL, the GM of the Ravens, the president of the Ravens, the judge who presided over the case, the prosecutor, and the assistant prosecutor. Next, presumably, wed go after the prosecutors secretary, the secretarys housecleaner, and the housecleaners pet gerbil.
So, what changed, you ask? Well, to be specific, nothing. Nothing at all. We already knew that Rice struck a woman so hard that she lost consciousness. Weve known that for months. The only difference is that today we can see it happen on video. The footage is disturbing, but its also exactly what anyone with five functioning brain cells would expect it to look like. If you werent calling for the NFL to be disbanded, Atlantic City to be demolished, and Ray Rice to be publicly flogged before this video leaked, Im not sure why youd be calling for it now. Unless, of course, youre the type who looks at the trending topics on Twitter and calibrates your outrage accordingly.
In any case, put the medias theatrics and the NFLs incompetence aside, and youre left with, perhaps, some reason to be encouraged by the reaction to the Ray Rice drama.
The public at large has been pretty well ticked off about all of this from the very beginning. Go back to February or March of this year and you probably heard your coworkers, neighbors, friends basically any normal person, anywhere in the country insisting that Rice ought to face swift and harsh punishment for his heinous crime. Sure, a few knuckle draggers here and there might have defended his actions, claiming that his fiancée had it coming or some such nonsense, but the majority view was, is, and always has been extremely opposed to Ray Rice and his shameful deed.
Why?
It seems like a stupid question, I know but why?
Is it because Rice is a famous athlete and should be a better role model? Yes, but athletes quite frequently do things unbefitting their alleged role model status, so why the shock and exasperation over this? Is it because Rice is a strong, physically imposing football player and his victim was so completely outmatched? Yes, but sports stars get into fights in bars and clubs relatively regularly, and nobody ever stops to compare the weight classes of those involved. Is it because Rice and his victim were supposed to be in a loving relationship? Yes, but a man is also in a loving relationship with his brother (though not in the same way, one would hope), yet I doubt Rice would be enduring this degree of backlash had he punched his male sibling in the head.
So what is primarily driving this storm of righteous and wholly warranted indignation? Simple: Ray Rice is a man and his victim is a woman. Take away that one detail, and nobody would be talking about any of this.
There is a clear double standard or at least a different standard applied to men in these situations, and there should be. We all, or most of us, seem to have arrived at a consensus on this.
But why?
Why do the genders matter here?
In this day and age, when we cant seem to come to an agreement on any ethical question at all, why do we remain so predominantly enraged at the idea of a man beating a woman? With all of our progressive sensibilities and our evolved understanding that there arent any inherent differences between the sexes, why do we explode with so much ire when a man lays his hands on a person who is not a man?
I suppose if you ask the average Joe or Jane to explain their feelings, they might offer up some vague sermon about how no human being should ever hit another human being, and all violence against anyone is unacceptable.
Its true, of course, that unjustified violence against an innocent person is always wrong and never excusable, but why do we all feel such a particularly strong disgust at this kind of violence?
We speak so fervently of the equality of the sexes; we talk about how men and women are the same and chivalry is outdated, but we still see something exceptionally disordered and perverse about a man striking a woman. We can tell that its different from a man hitting a man, or a woman hitting a man, and we treat it differently, just as we should. Thats not to say that these other forms of violence are acceptable just that theyre different. We all know it.
But why?
Why is the situation worse because hes a man and shes a woman? Why does that make it more despicable, more brutal, and more intolerable? Violence should always be discouraged, but we do so with much more urgency in cases like these.
Keep in mind: the fury directed at Rice isnt rooted solely in the fact that he knocked her out. Had she emerged from that elevator conscious and uninjured, Rice would still be persona non grata, and deservedly so. We are repulsed at the very idea of a man beating a woman. We loathe it on principle. We say we are equally as appalled by all other forms of violence, but thats a lie. After all, by my reading of that video, Rices fiancée did attack him first. She walked by him on the way to the elevator and smacked him. Then she appeared to have possibly struck him again inside the elevator.
Any honest person must admit that if the gender composition had been different, but everything else about the incident remained the same, we would not be nearly as upset about it. What if a man had slapped Ray Rice, then got into an elevator with him, hit him once more, then, after Rice retreated to the other side of the elevator, the man aggressively came after him again? Would Rice still be Public Enemy #1 if he knocked the guy to the ground?
No, of course not.
What if Rice and his fiancée switched sides in this? Unlikely, I realize, but follow the hypothetical. What if Rice walked by Janay and smacked her, and then, after some kind of altercation in the elevator, Janay leveled Rice and left him unconscious on the floor? Would we be equally as furious at the woman in that situation?
Not a chance. In fact, people would probably applaud her. And if they didnt applaud her theyd certainly laugh about the whole thing. You know it. I know it. Everyone knows it.
So if men and women are equal and everything is exactly the same, why would the reaction to this scenario be dramatically different if we changed the sexes of those involved?
Theres no use pretending that our reaction wouldnt be different. You wont fool yourself, or me, or anyone. There is a double standard. A different standard. Why?
We might as well just confront this question. Its a scary thing to do, I realize. We dont want to look any closer at this because know that the answer will devastate nearly all of our egalitarian leftwing feminist principles.
Why? Well, finally, Ill propose an answer to the riddle: when we heap extra scorn on the abusers of women, we acknowledge that men and women are separate, distinct, and unique creatures. And we know that to acknowledge our separateness and distinctiveness is to contemplate the possibility that men and women have different roles in society, different duties, different responsibilities, and different purposes.
And, though few will say it anymore, we know that among a mans duties is that ever-important charge to protect and honor women. Men are meant to use their strength to defend women against harm. When a man betrays this responsibility, we act as though hes turned the world upside down, because he has. The man is not just a generic aggressor; he is a traitor. He has deserted his post. He was given his strength for a reason. It is supposed to be a shield for the women and children in his life, but he has used it as a weapon against them.
To use what is uniquely masculine in a humble, serving, and protective way that is the essence of chivalry. We become this expressly furious and impassioned about a mans abuse of a woman because he has so shirked and abandoned his manly, chivalrous duty. That is what drives our response to this kind of thing, no matter how progressive we otherwise pretend to be.
Dig to the bottom of everything ignore most of the modern liberal gender theory rhetoric and you will still find the remnants of chivalry. And if not the remnants of chivalry itself, then the remnants of a desire for it. Despite all of our academic arguments to the contrary, still most of us know, at a deep and visceral level, that men and women are different and this difference means something.
Thats why men should not hit women. Its more than just theyre people. Its also that theyre women, and that distinction is as significant as most of us already treat it.
And then comes the inevitable retort: But women shouldnt hit men!
Yes, obviously.
Nobody is condoning violence against men just by condemning violence against women. Not everything is a competition. Its just particularly and specially important that we instill in our men the commandment that he should never physically abuse a woman. We must plant in him a code of honor that propels him to defend the women in his life.
If men were ever to collectively determine that they can and should use their physical advantages to oppress and subjugate women and children, our civilization (or whats left of it) would collapse. Barbarism and brutality would reign supreme, and our society would eat itself from the inside. Just look at some of the countries in the Middle East and youll have a good idea as to where things can go when the males in a culture decide to act like brutes and tyrants rather than gentlemen.
Still, plenty of people will contend that the anti-violence message should be more broad and inclusive. We shouldnt specifically and categorically instruct men to keep their hands off of women; we should instead universally tell people to keep their hands off of people. All violence is the same and all people are the same, theyll argue. But let this even-handed pragmatist get a call from the principal informing him that his son punched Susie in the face and broke her nose, and well see if he feels exactly the same as he would if the victims name was Johnny or Billy or Steve.
If he does, then theres something wrong. But he probably wont, because no amount of liberal feminist brainwashing can ever really erase our instinctual and innate understanding that men are not women and women are not men. And whatever else that means, it certainly at least means that it is the mans job to be the protector.
So in the end it seems that chivalry is not quite dead, no matter how hard we try to kill it.
And thank God for that.
As far as I’m concerned this is a matter for law enforcement. Since Mrs. Rice has apparently declined to press charges that should be the end of it. And I don’t say this as a fan of Rice, the Ravens or even the NFL. Far from it, in fact.
The correct name of the game is “I’m Outrageder Than You”.
Please get it right.
I admit that I haven’t been following this story closely, but I get a sense that the response of feminists to this incident has been very muted ... probably because their whole “equality” agenda is undermined by a video of a woman getting the snot beat out of her in an elevator like that.
I see Ray Rice as innocent because after all he was “unarmed” just like Mike & Trayvon.
He could not possibly have posed a threat to her.
Oh! wait ... he knocked her out...
Knocking people out is just a kids' game. Many young, innocent children from poor neglected underprivileged neighborhoods play the knockout game because they don't have access to other pastimes like polo, scuba diving, equestrian activities, jet setting, and so on.
It's just a cultural thing, rooted in an unjust society.
I am always reminded of black men who come out of prison and are new converts to Islam. Why?
It seems to me that the most potent attraction to Islam is the permission to be a bully against women and anyone else who does not agree with you. Islam is a bully religion. There I’ve said it and I am not sorry to have said it. Islam is a religion of male bullies.
If he had an ounce of credibility he would have quit as soon as Lewis was hired.
I am always reminded of black men who come out of prison and are new converts to Islam. Why?
It seems to me that the most potent attraction to Islam is the permission to be a bully against women and anyone else who does not agree with you. Islam is a bully religion. There I’ve said it and I am not sorry to have said it. Islam is a religion of male bullies.
See my last post. Olbermann is full of sh!t.
“Men and women are different”
we already knew that
TIME and Newsweek already reported this years ago.
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I was in a bar once with an acquaintance. He’s a pretty rough guy. This big butch dyke started mouthing off. Pretty much thought she could get away with anything because she was a, ahem, “Woman”. He tried to ignore her, it, whatever. So it walks over and snatches a gold chain off his neck. He starts to get up and she belts him, knocks him over the back of the chair and onto the floor.
He gets us and knocks it completely out with one punch. Lucky it didn’t kill it cause the floor was concrete and she was out before she hit it. The floor I mean. The whole crowd cheered.
How is this any different?
I wasn't taking one side or the other in this debate. But, since you asked, I personally would refrain from decking a woman half my size even if she did try to push or hit me. On the other hand, if she were trying to stab or shoot me, kick me in the groin, etc. then I might get rough.
“Men and women are different”
Oh they are? Tell that to Obamagabe’s Department of Defense, where women are 100% integrated into all combat fields, fields where they absolutely can’t cut the mustard because of their body strength and other “feminine” reasons. But we don’t hear the braindead liberal media raising hell about that, raising hell about a woman dying in combat because she was unable to perform the mission because she’s a woman and not physically equipped to do what men do. But let a man hit a woman and all hell breaks lose because he’s stronger than she is. Hypocritical morons.
I’m against anyone getting punched. Wouldn’t know Rice if I met him on the street. Same standards for everyone.
Where did the phrase “bitch-slap” come from?
Where did the “knock out game” come from?
Also
Don’t we always be talkin bout equality of the sexes?
Mos bruthers gotta keep they pimp-hand strong....nome-sayin?
I was considering the same. Feminists argue that men and women are equal. But when a man hits a woman, that argument gets knocked out of the park.
Yeah in his statement he said he was mentoring Ray Rice. I had to laugh. Was the Patriot’s Hernandez being “mentored” by him as well?
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