Posted on 12/03/2014 12:22:08 PM PST by Morgana
I am a victim of incest; one of the “hard cases” for abortion. I was raped by my father when I was fifteen years old. It was not the first time, nor would it be the last. However, this time, I became pregnant.
One night, I became very sick and my parents took me to the hospital. (I believe now that they knew I was pregnant since they took me to a different hospital than normal.) The emergency room doctor discovered that, along with a very bad case of the flu, I was 19 weeks pregnant.
My father flew into a rage, accusing me of all sorts of things, and demanding I have an abortion. The doctor informed me that I was pregnant and asked me what I wanted. I had seen the “Silent Scream” in high school religion class and knew that abortion was murder. In spite of the pain and guilt I felt, knowing who the father of the baby was, it was far better to have a baby than the alternative – to kill it. I refused to have an abortion.
My father flew into an uncontrollable rage and demanded that I consent to the abortion, or that the doctor do it with or without my permission. The doctor refused because of my wishes. My father demanded that an abortionist be found – regardless of the cost.
Within one hour, this man arrived at the hospital, talked with my parents and decided to do the abortion, without speaking to me. I refused and tried to get off the examining table. He then asked three nurses to hold me while he strapped me to the bed and injected me with a muscle relaxant to keep me from struggling while he prepared to kill my baby. I continued to scream that I didn’t want an abortion. He told me, “Shut up and quit that yelling!” Eventually, I was placed under general anesthesia and my child was brutally killed.
I was told that an abortion would solve my problem, when it was never really the problem in the first place.
I was told, “Your parents know what’s best,” when they obviously were only concerned about their own reputations.
I was told, “You make the right decision,” when I was never given a choice. More importantly, where was my baby’s choice?
I grieve every day for my daughter. I have struggled to forget the abuse and the abortion. I can do neither. All I think of is, “I should have done more, fought more, struggled more for the life of my child.”
My situation may not be common, but I know it’s not unique either. The emotions and problems I’ve had to deal with as a result of my abortion are common. The trauma of the rape and abuse were only intensified by the abortion. The guilt of knowing my baby is dead is something I will have to live with for the rest of my life.
I was violated and betrayed over and over by my father, who God created to love and protect me. I was humiliated, hurt, and yes, violated again by the abortionist.
Why do even pro-lifers talk about making exceptions for abortion in cases of rape and incest as if that is a way to have “compassion” for the mother? Why is this the only “loving” response to the situation? I have talked with pro-lifers who consider my abortion acceptable, under the circumstances. I want to tell people, “If you really want to be compassionate, give this mother the opportunity to choose life for her child. If you really love the mothers who have been victimized, don’t let them be exploited again by someone who will make a profit from their dead child — a memory that will haunt them for the rest of their lives.”
The next time you hear of the “hard cases,” please remind people that every crisis pregnancy is difficult for the mother. If you believe these cases are hard, you’re correct — they are extremely hard for the mother. But if you choose abortion, it’s an impossible situation for the baby. The mom needs love, support and understanding, not the pain of allowing herself to be violated again in order to kill her child. Regardless of the circumstances, regardless of the pain involved, that helpless, innocent child has no voice, no defense, and no chance, unless we offer real love and real compassion to the mother.
My abortion was over five years ago. God is still healing me, but it has been a difficult fight. I hesitated to write to you because, although I’m actively pro-life, very few people know my story. It’s still very difficult to share with people, however, I wanted to encourage you in your uncompromising stand for life.
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” (Psalm 147:3) God bless you.
Originally published in The Post-Abortion Review 2(1)
Winter 1993.Elliot Institute, PO Box 7348, Springfield, IL 62791-7348
Additional material is posted at www.afterabortion.org
Satan also quotes scripture. You might want to avoid treating the Bible as something you can spout quotes from to justify wickedness.
Do you think it is okay to abort a baby in cases of incest as long as it isn’t on a Sabbath? Or is it okay on the Sabbath in your mind also? Is this a “good work” in your mind?
If you are going to advocate any abortion, don’t do it on a pro-life site, and don’t do it quoting the Bible.
Good gracious. I go for a shower and come back to vitriol and accusations of Satanism. Nice.
I stand by what I said. It is NONE of my business how this woman, other women, other men, or YOU choose to live your life. It’s between them/you and GOD.
Nice name, btw. Suits you.
I doubt you even linked what I said in post#3 to what started this whole direction of the discussion.
Context is everything, FRiend.
........”it reads too much like an archetypical story”................
I agree.
All this young woman had to do was tell the doctor who the father was.
The story was published in 1993. Given this, it would mean the abortion happened in 1988, and the author would now be about 41.
I agree with everything you and others have said about dear old dad needing to be locked up, but I wanted to make sure people were aware that this crime happened 26 years ago.
I read your comments, the responses of others, and your responses back.
The context is that the woman in the article was forced to have an abortion. And you came back with a response justifying a pro-choice position in cases of incest.
You claimed SHE did not get it. The truth is that you don’t.
When someone attempted to correct your faulty understanding of sound judgment from the Bible, you justified yourself and attempted to split hairs over the meaning of the passage they cited.
Regardless of your incorrect understanding of the passage, you are still justifying a pro-choice argument on an exclusively pro-life forum.
You may want to rethink that before you find out the hard way.
I would have had dear daddy’s ass in jail!
“accusations of Satanism”
I merely said that Satan quotes scripture. That is not the same as calling you or anyone else of being a Satanist.
The point is that just because you “counter with” another Bible passage does not justify your arguments. You ought to be less flippant about how you throw around scripture.
As far as my name goes, you obviously never clicked the link to my profile and do not have a clue what it is about or what it means.
But go ahead and double down on your foolishness and see where it gets you.
You CLAIM your comment is just about this situation being none of your business, but that is not all you said. You said she does not get it.
Get what? Why we need laws allowing abortion for incest victims?
I should have known better than to post on one of these threads. No matter what is said someone always manages to twist it to mean something else.
I’m done here.
Behind the visions of my unfinished, ended life, I see the figure of the Unlearner, not standing as he did that day upon the sands, but receding, becoming larger, more and more remote, till he is like that space which lies beyond aught we can ever think of, and he seems to say: “Thou shalt attain at last, but so much must first be done”.
My father forced my sisters and myself into incestuous relationships. As soon as I graduated HS I left and moved to NYC to go to nursing school. I never returned to live there and when my kids were old enough, I explained to them why. Also why we rarely visited my parents. I know it hurt my mom, but she knew what was going on and didn’t intervene. I can say that I love my parents, but I still have no desire to live close by even though they are in their late 80s. I was grateful that no pregnancy came from any of this. It was difficult explaining to my husband before we married, and kept me from marrying several other guys I dated, whom I felt could never be told the truth.
I understand those who might want to abort, to not have to face the shame every single day. But this girl was right to demand that she not be aborted. Her father, mother, and doctor will all have to face God one day. I don’t want to be in their shoes.
My heart goes out to you.
I cannot begin to even put myself in your shoes and imagine the pain and horror of what you went through.
Thank God for his Grace and Care for us especially after we go through things in our life that are so unfair.
Very sorry to hear of what happened to you and your sisters.
Did you ever report him to the police?
One wonders how often these cases happen and just how many the abortion doctors are willing to shrug off, looking the other way.
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