Posted on 12/03/2014 12:22:08 PM PST by Morgana
I am a victim of incest; one of the “hard cases” for abortion. I was raped by my father when I was fifteen years old. It was not the first time, nor would it be the last. However, this time, I became pregnant.
One night, I became very sick and my parents took me to the hospital. (I believe now that they knew I was pregnant since they took me to a different hospital than normal.) The emergency room doctor discovered that, along with a very bad case of the flu, I was 19 weeks pregnant.
My father flew into a rage, accusing me of all sorts of things, and demanding I have an abortion. The doctor informed me that I was pregnant and asked me what I wanted. I had seen the “Silent Scream” in high school religion class and knew that abortion was murder. In spite of the pain and guilt I felt, knowing who the father of the baby was, it was far better to have a baby than the alternative – to kill it. I refused to have an abortion.
My father flew into an uncontrollable rage and demanded that I consent to the abortion, or that the doctor do it with or without my permission. The doctor refused because of my wishes. My father demanded that an abortionist be found – regardless of the cost.
Within one hour, this man arrived at the hospital, talked with my parents and decided to do the abortion, without speaking to me. I refused and tried to get off the examining table. He then asked three nurses to hold me while he strapped me to the bed and injected me with a muscle relaxant to keep me from struggling while he prepared to kill my baby. I continued to scream that I didn’t want an abortion. He told me, “Shut up and quit that yelling!” Eventually, I was placed under general anesthesia and my child was brutally killed.
I was told that an abortion would solve my problem, when it was never really the problem in the first place.
I was told, “Your parents know what’s best,” when they obviously were only concerned about their own reputations.
I was told, “You make the right decision,” when I was never given a choice. More importantly, where was my baby’s choice?
I grieve every day for my daughter. I have struggled to forget the abuse and the abortion. I can do neither. All I think of is, “I should have done more, fought more, struggled more for the life of my child.”
My situation may not be common, but I know it’s not unique either. The emotions and problems I’ve had to deal with as a result of my abortion are common. The trauma of the rape and abuse were only intensified by the abortion. The guilt of knowing my baby is dead is something I will have to live with for the rest of my life.
I was violated and betrayed over and over by my father, who God created to love and protect me. I was humiliated, hurt, and yes, violated again by the abortionist.
Why do even pro-lifers talk about making exceptions for abortion in cases of rape and incest as if that is a way to have “compassion” for the mother? Why is this the only “loving” response to the situation? I have talked with pro-lifers who consider my abortion acceptable, under the circumstances. I want to tell people, “If you really want to be compassionate, give this mother the opportunity to choose life for her child. If you really love the mothers who have been victimized, don’t let them be exploited again by someone who will make a profit from their dead child — a memory that will haunt them for the rest of their lives.”
The next time you hear of the “hard cases,” please remind people that every crisis pregnancy is difficult for the mother. If you believe these cases are hard, you’re correct — they are extremely hard for the mother. But if you choose abortion, it’s an impossible situation for the baby. The mom needs love, support and understanding, not the pain of allowing herself to be violated again in order to kill her child. Regardless of the circumstances, regardless of the pain involved, that helpless, innocent child has no voice, no defense, and no chance, unless we offer real love and real compassion to the mother.
My abortion was over five years ago. God is still healing me, but it has been a difficult fight. I hesitated to write to you because, although I’m actively pro-life, very few people know my story. It’s still very difficult to share with people, however, I wanted to encourage you in your uncompromising stand for life.
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” (Psalm 147:3) God bless you.
Originally published in The Post-Abortion Review 2(1)
Winter 1993.Elliot Institute, PO Box 7348, Springfield, IL 62791-7348
Additional material is posted at www.afterabortion.org
Praying for this young woman, that she is completely healed.
While I am strongly opposed to abortion, I think this woman misses the point of “in case of rape or incest”.
The whole point of that wording is to give the pregnant woman the choice of keeping the baby or killing it.
It’s as ugly as it sounds, but it is not my place to judge.
Ugh, I need a shower now.
Both the Father of this woman and the Abortionist should be put to death for the Murder of that baby.
John 7:24
24 Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment.
If this story is true, the father needs to be in prison. If she hasn’t reported him yet, she needs to now.
And the whole situation at the hospital needs to be reported, too.
A civilized society does not confer to a woman the right to kill her rapist. Why then do we allow anyone the right to kill a child that has not committed any crime? Killing someone for the sins of their fathers is barbaric. Worse still is killing the child without the benefit of a trial.
In this case, I commend the women for fighting so hard to save her child. I weep that she was not successful. I pray for her peace and justice for her attacker (he no longer deserves the title father).
Your quote refers to circumcision (or other Godly work) on the sabbath. I counter that with Matthew 7:1
Judge not lest ye be judged, (2) for with what judgement ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with whatmeasure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.
This is only part of the story. She said she was raped by her own father. Is he in prison because of it? Has she even complained to the police?
This isn’t the 1950s or ‘60s. The authorities *will* prosecute these days. And a jury trial would be incredibly compelling. She was 15 years old when before and after he raped her, according to her. So none of the nonsense about implanted memories.
The statute of limitations for rape is long. Certainly longer than five years.
And here’s the real zinger. The man is a rapist. Until he is stopped do you think he will limit his raping to just his daughter? What if he is in a position of authority over other children?
This story is only part of a story. Until her father is in prison, the abortion is a secondary issue. A rapist is on the loose.
This woman was deprived of a choice (which was gravely wrong); her baby was killed, which would not have been right, even if she had chosen it.
I can’t help but wonder if the “father” would have forfeited his legal ability to make medical decisions on her behalf of her if it had been known that the motive for the abortion was to get rid of evidence of his crime.
We should be skeptical when it comes to reports such as this one that is missing facts. It is most likely a made-up story.
That phrase does not say don’t judge ... it says don’t judge unless you are willing to judge yourself by the same standards.
Not exactly. Christ was confronting those who wanted to kill him. His use of circumcision was only the allegory or analog in that case. The underlying theme was more aptly put as doing what God commands vice what man dictates (as in Pharisee's). The text of Matthew 7 is often misused to prevent judgment that Christians are supposed to do. Jesus was directing his comments at the Pharisee's in the crowd as the context was in ruling as a king or judge, not in discerning righteousness.
Pro-aborts use these “hard cases” to justify all abortions.
As a rhetorical tactic, I’ll “allow” for every weird edge case exception that they can come up with,
and in the extreme cases, leaving them defending aborting a healthy baby the minute before it’s delivered.
If it goes THAT far, I’ll ask why not infanticide?
I agree. It reads too much like an archetypical story, like it’s trying to hit all the notes just so.
Fake but accurate should be the purview of the Left.
many freepers would think this woman is just a plain old liar....afterall, where’s the video?...
The above verse isn't saying not to judge. It is saying not to judge more harshly than you would want done to yourself.
Proverbs 15:21 Folly is joy to him who is destitute of discernment, But a man of understanding walks uprightly.Malachi 3:18 Then you shall again discern Between the righteous and the wicked, Between one who serves God And one who does not serve Him.
1 Corinthians 2:14 But the natural man does not receive the things of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him; nor can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned.
Ecclesiastes 8:5 He who keeps his command will experience nothing harmful; And a wise man’s heart discerns both time and judgment...
Philippians 1:9 And this I pray, that your love may abound still more and more in knowledge and all discernment...
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