Posted on 06/18/2016 11:57:16 AM PDT by nickcarraway
It isn’t a therapy. If she says that all day long, there is no way she treats him good later. The mind doesn’t work that way, to gripe and bitch about how much someone is, and then to adore them when you are with them.
If he finds this out, he should protect and hide all the assets he can and divorce her.
“Dissing your man to other women lessens the likelihood one of them will try to poach him.”
Any woman who bad mouths her husband behind his back to another woman will most certainly bad mouth everyone else she knows behind theirs too.
Apparently, backbiting is no longer a cardinal sin.
Do all of these women work for Manhattan advertising agencies?
I agree.
You misunderstand the strategery with that.
If you praise your man to the heavens there WILL be other women who want ‘some of that’.
I’ve personally seen this in action.
Don’t advertize your man. ... https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=dky2n83VuvY
I swear she'd get ideas from them to bash me about stuff that didn't used to be a problem in our marriage, until one or more of her friends had whatever as an issue in their own marriages/relationships.
She must have felt left out.
One of my sisters ruined her marriage that way. I've been fortunate in that my wife's circle of friends have mostly been in long-term, relatively happy marriages. No, my challenge was her mother, who used to try to meddle in our relationship. Things have been calm and peaceful since the ol' gal shrugged off her mortal coil.
Last sentence says it all.
I have been married almost 40 years to my husband and i will never, ever, get married again if he goes first.
The bar is set 2 high! and frankly while i love him and will take care of him as long as he lives, I’m not looking to find some old guy who needs a nurse, whose adult kids HATE me and worry that i will spend a dollar of “their” inheritance. Or take care of HIS parents, if they are still alive. Been there done that!
( i never complain to anyone about the old man, not even my sisters)
Up to a point, trading war stories is a harmless bonding technique.
And humor sometimes comes with a bit of aggression or hostility toward the “other” who is outside your group. This is why you laugh in the crowd at things you wouldn’t laugh at alone. (And why performers need live audiences.)
But if you feel guilty about it you’re probably crossing the line.
I’m 30, haven’t dated, and have already decided to go my own way.
“Dissing your man to other women lessens the likelihood one of them will try to poach him.”
Actually, learning to cook a good spaghetti, not nagging, never... and I mean never, being disrespectful in front of other people, and occasionally meeting him at the door naked is a better method. (and occasionally doesn’t mean once every year or so)
I don’t consider it whining. They’re all fricken drama queens.
When hubby and I got married he was already an established firefighter and also ran a hotshot crew. I knew the house, the kid, and everything that included would be mine to take care of. He was gone for weeks at a time. Was kind of like being a single parent except every once in awhile he’d come home for a few days to rest and get ready to go to work again. Lol
I’ve talked to some of the newer younger firefighters wives and they all gripe about their hubby’s being gone and how much they have to do while he’s gone. I just shake my head. I once called one of the stations and asked if someone would come mow my yard since hubby had been gone. They sent one of the new guys over. I didn’t tell them that I always mowed it and had worked longer shifts that week and just didn’t feel like doing it. Lol. I hired a gardener after that. I’ve done plumbing, mowed yards, and worked on the air conditioner. These gals now are such wusses.
I’m 33, haven’t dated for a long time, and have accepted that it won’t happen again.
Is it just me or does it seem like a lot of young women are like this?
This is a group she should feel proud to be "barred" from. Putting the desire to fit in ahead of her husband is a huge - but all too typical - mistake.
Actually...it’s the second to last sentence that says it all...I erred.
Same here. Why would I want some old fart to take care of? Done. Anything happens to hubby I will live life to the fullest.....alone.
Here’s the problem: they’re only on their second drink. Wait until a few more and everything will be recanted.
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