Posted on 06/18/2016 11:57:16 AM PDT by nickcarraway
I actually do all of those.
I praise him to the skies to people whose opinion REALLY matters:
His mother and father
his siblings
his male friends.
I solve the problem with bitchy backbiting gossipy female friends by simply not HAVING any female friends. Easier that way. No worries about that anymore. Between house, kids, marriage and garden I simply don’t have time to ‘go out for drinks and gossip’ anymore. I outgrew ‘college’ some time ago.
My ex once said he would babysit. I let him have it. lol
That said, he was a good housekeeper, and cook.
My, now, husband, is awesome. I tell other wives that too. :)
Complaining about the husband to other people is the gateway drug to the hard stuff, ie divorce.
A husband who would succumb to a woman like that? I would want nothing to do with him.
Women who get together and spend any amount of time complaining about their husbands are sad creatures. They’re also boring.
I just don’t say anything about my husband. I think the world of him, but he is no one else’s business.
“I solve the problem with bitchy backbiting gossipy female friends by simply not HAVING any female friends.”
THAT is some wisdom. There are moments when I think females are incapable of friendship per se, only pack behavior and competition.
Don’t take this the wrong way, but it sounds more to me like you’ve given up on trying to find someone in sort of a negative way.
Yes. It’s not you.
I don’t know. It seems as if a lot of older women are.
You ought to hear what men say about their wives when it’s a guys’ night out ...
“Dissing your man to other women lessens the likelihood one of them will try to poach him.”
Or maybe one will think, “I always thought he seemed like a nice guy. If that’s how she treats him, maybe I’ll make a play for him”. Could happen.
You never know about husbands until you know.
And why offer up extra temptation by your own words?
I’ve seen a perfectly good marriage with the husband being one of those I NEVER would have suspected of it broken up by one of the wife’s good friends. The wife was one of the ‘never say a bad thing about my husband to anyone’ women. She’d have been better off just ditching the female friends altogether. Her mouth set her own trap.
I learned a valuable lesson with that situation. I was in my 20’s at the time. Once hubby and I married I kept one female friend. Long distance friend at that. We chatted via phone for a few years and then kids and household duties became such that I didn’t have the time for the friendship anymore and it sort of just dwindled.
Precisely.
I NEVER diss him. To ANYONE. If I have a problem with something WE discuss it.
I do NOT nag him. He’s got a mother already. I’m not his mother.
I DO engage in behind the scenes behavior modification. He dipped snuff excessively for the longest time. It’s unhealthy. My kid brother had a cancerous growth removed from his mouth because of dipping snuff. Hubby and I share a dentist. I went on and on at one of my appointments about my worry about hubby and asked the dentist to say something.
Dentist did so.
It worked.
Parents don’t babysit their own kids, IMO. They raise them. So I never babysat my kids. I simply helped raise them.
Most of the time I say nothing at all. That’s no problem, because there are plenty of women who are willing to fill in for me. Sometimes I simply excuse myself and find someone else to talk to. Once I know who these people are, I avoid them.
I don’t need friends like that.
Women are impossible to please. This isn’t news. :-)
I’ve found myself surprised by WHO exactly are ‘friends like that’ in my half century of life so far.
It’s the ones you’d never suspect of it that are the problem...
As my father used to say (jokingly)...the only thing harder than being a woman is having to listen to how hard it is being a woman.
That may be true, but men are not sheep.
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