Posted on 01/03/2010 5:57:16 AM PST by freedomyes
I visited a friend’s home for an evening. I wanted to check my email. I asked the 12-year-old daughter if I could check my email via her bedroom computer. She hesitated. I wondered immediately at her hesitation.
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I didn’t think it was so strange, except that he could’ve waited. Sometimes someone else is already on the other computer(s)
I don’t think it’s so strange, but do think it’s invasive to use another’s computer. Except he or she is like family, so I suppose that’s the difference.
I had a “friend” come over one time and use my computer, and access porn sites. No more!
live and learn, eh?
but not in the particular case posited in this article due to the further explanation of friends over thirty years, etc. i presume you took note of that detail.
Actually, I agree with the previous poster. My family has been friends with another family for about 15 years. I think my husband has had legitimate reason to enter the teenaged girl's bedroom one time. We had gifted her with birthday money used to redecorate her room. We looked at her room together. I think one time I went into the kids' rooms to look for my son's shoes. I've been in the parents bedroom once, to see their newly bought bedroom furniture. We don't generally go in other people's bedrooms.
It's creepy.
then it would have helped others understand your first statement if you had given such detail then. otherwise, it seemed quite ‘quick’ to judgment.
I am allowed to judge, even quickly. Are you the author of the article? You seem awfully defensive about the comments.
Although we don't go in each other's bedrooms, we are very comfortable using each other's computers (which are in family spaces). Take that for what it is worth, I guess.
i am defensive of reality / truth, not the author or any other individual in particular.
happy new year.
Right. I saw the different case. :)
:-)
I can think of a lot of times they would not want any male even dad in their room.
Unmade beds the need to pick up clothes including underclothes that belong in the wash basket.
Yep at times they were a bit messy but that is kids.
The 10 min to clean up room is not bad.
been there, done that. seen that, cleaned up that. been thanked and thanked many times over for they are thankful but not all that tidy — at times, at other times they are.
it’s life.
and i would not have it any other way with my precious brood.
I agree. My best friend, a woman, has been so for forty years. She has never once been in my bedroom nor I in hers.
THis guy goes in a teen girl’s bedroom to use her puter and she has a history of being abused by a pedophile. Her parents should have said no to him, no man in her bedroom.
Best friends doesn’t mean there arfe no boundaries, nor family. I have kids who are reluctant when visiting to use our laptops so we have a “public” computer that they use that has none of our stuff on it.
I mean, my kids in my email would cause family fights. Hah!
you do not understand that context of the article.
sorry if you cannot accept the explanation provided above several times.
Assuming since we disagree that I “do not understand” the context is quite an assumption.
Several explanations of the “contest” don’t change my opinion.
THis person, allegedly a friend of the famiy for many years, goes into a vulnerable teens bedroom and makes assumptions that her reluctance means something.
He then writes about it publicly,,surely his “friends” are a bit disgusted by that.
I think he was using a pretext to get a column and was seeing things thru that prism.
ANd his going into her bedroom to use her computer is creepy in my opinion. ANd no friend would do that to one of my girls at that age.
We disagree,,no need to insult me by assuming my “understanding” is faulty.
you are hopeless.
further, the household involved is not mentioned by name so how could that household get upset over anything?
good night.
I am the father of a preteen daughter. If I'm too slow to judge, I could quickly become a father of a victim.
your quickness is rash.
My quickness is justified!
no further need to give commodious explanations as to the author’s moral integrity.
The first seven paragraphs of this article could just as well follow the title; PROTECTING YOUR CHILD FROM VISITING PREDATORS
suffice it to say that the author and this family have known one another for thirty years, therefore, it would be not out of place for the author to make such a request of friends who are actually extended family over years.
The author failed to mention anything about exact number of years he had been such a close friend of the family. For that matter, he also fails to mention how many times he has been in this 12 year old girl's bedroom or on her computer.
please, don’t be so quick to make a cold judgment as you have done. it is not logical and it is not kind.
Now that I have taken a few minutes to review some of J. Grant Swank, Jr.'s other articles, I have to say I'm shocked that he would take on a subject of this nature so carelessly and with little or no regard to those of us he is directing it to. The first seven paragraphs of his article are anything but ingratiating to a protective parent who doesn't know the author.
happy new year
Thanks, and same to you!
The friend whom I am thinking who visited the house as a long time friend was certainly know to the house, correct? He writes a blog? Surely they know his blog? He writes about their daughter?
Now if they have been friends for years, how could they not know who he was, what he did, and what blog he writes?
If any friend, so called friend of mine, used my family and my daughter for his blog and it ended up posted on the net, believe me he would no longer be a friend.
A betrayal of the hospitality of a home was done for this writer’s blog. No civilized person would do what he did.
And I think you must be hopeless or hopelessly dense not to comprehend that point. Or have very very bad manners.
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