Posted on 01/07/2010 9:51:07 AM PST by big black dog
I really really dislike cheap bastards who don’t tip.
They should be banned for life from every American establishment.
They are cut from the same cloth as Hillary Clinton.
Two words, PAY CASH...
98% chance. And I knocked myself out waiting on them, too.
> and something i can talk with my father-in-law about, as he is from New Zealand... he sees many things differently...
Something else you might find interesting to talk to your Father-in-Law about is the famous “New Zealand Clobbering Machine” and the “Tall Poppy Syndrome”.
Essentially, it is a national trait not to stand out from the crowd by achievement. People who do are “Tall Poppies” and they get brought back down to earth quickly by the “Clobbering Machine” — the people around them.
Lots of people *do* excell in New Zealand, on the world stage. Perhaps a higher proportion than our population warrants. Yet nobody is allowed to be a “Tall Poppy”. It’s just culturally Not Done.
It is almost exactly opposite to the way it is in the US, where people are encouraged to excell individually and to stand out from the crowd.
It would be interesting to know what your Father-in-Law says about that.
I worked my way through college (1978-1981) as a waiter at a first class French/international restaurant. Here was the break down on my tips:
Start of shift -- $20.00 to Maitre'd to ensure good tables. End of Shift:
5% to the cocktal waitress
5% to Bartender
10% to Busboys
Two six packs of Coors to the kitchen, always given to the Chef, who then distributed it to the kitchen crew.
Average night in tips was gross of 75 to 90 bucks.
I would go home with $35.00 to $50.00
Double those figures on weekends. I would net about $250.00 a week. My rent was $200.00 a month, two short blocks from the beach.
I did not complain.
>>When I go to Walmart (or any other retail/department store) I don’t have an employee of the store waiting on me, bringing me items from around the store so I can see if I want to purchase that/those items while I sit comfortably at a table.<<
One of the reasons my wife and I stopped going to restaurants is because it became more of a hassle than eating at home. First you have to find and pay for parking. Then you wait for a seat. Then you find you either get too little or too much service. I hate being asked every couple of minutes how my meal is. And then I want to leave, but first I gotta get the bill. Then they have to notice that I am ready to pay. Then they have to process it. Then, FINALLY, I can leave and go find my car and drive home.
More and more we do take out (which never includes a tip). If we want really good food, we make it ourselves.
Another way around the whole thing is to just go to a buffet. We learned to love those things when we visited our farm in Kentucky last week. We found several Chinese buffet’s that were, frankly, pretty good. Self serve and no tip. $13 for both of us.
I worked at a Baskin-Robbins because all my friends worked there. It was fun, but we were pain 2.10 an hour because we could get tips.
Ever tip at a BR? Not many do. In fact I got exactly one tip. It was a Christmas Eve and my only customer, who came in regularly, saw me sitting there alone. He bought a hand packed ice cream for 2.50 and let me keep the change on a five.
Why am I not surprised?
I wonder if he tips the young hustlers that he picks up at the bus station.
“I don’t understand the poor waiter thing because frankly, they make out like bandits and make more per hour than a lot of jobs.”
Yep, a good waiter can make seriously good money on a good night. A good waiter can also make seriously bad money on a bad night. It’s random, and based on how much business the restaurant is getting, how good the tips are, etc. You can make a good living at it, or you can go broke. There are some people who will stiff you, no matter how good a job you do, and hopefully there are others who will make up for it.
Cash is fine. Just don’t think that it relieves them of the obligation of paying tax. Their tax estimates may be “loose”, but if the IRS wants to get stinky, they will.
We eat out a lot, and we always tip. Some of our favorite waitresses have been doing this for years, and they confide that they make good money. I knew one who worked in a bank days, and nights and weekends in a restaurant. She had 5 kids, a husband who did nothing, & a barn full of horses. She worked in the restaurant to support the horses and always said she made better money there than at the bank. Her basic wage at the restaurant was $2.75/hr, but she always took home more than $100 a night in tips.
I tip with cash, just to make sure the server (and anyone they share it with...like the bussers) gets the money.
A 20% tip for me is a given. The waiter can only lose it. They don't really need to do much to keep it. One thing I don't like, though, is the tip hound who is unreasonably perky, loud and in-your-face. No likes a brown noser. ;)
>>A waiter on the other hand can make your dining experience significantly better.<<
How, exactly? That is, beyond what the owner is paying them to do.
NICE GUY EDDIE
C’mon, throw in a buck.
MR. WHITE
Uh-uh. I don’t tip.
NICE GUY EDDIE
Whaddaya mean you don’t tip?
MR. WHITE
I don’t believe in it.
NICE GUY EDDIE
You don’t believe in tipping?
MR. PINK
(laughing)
I love this kid, he’s a madman, this guy.
MR. BLONDE
Do you have any idea what these ladies make? They make s***.
MR. WHITE
Don’t give me that. She don’t make enough money, she can quit.
Everybody laughs.
NICE GUY EDDIE
I don’t even know a Jew who’d have the balls to say that. So let’s get this straight. You never ever tip?
MR. WHITE
I don’t tip because society says I gotta. I tip when somebody deserves a tip. When somebody really puts forth an effort, they deserve a little something extra. But this tipping automatically, that s***’s for the birds. As far as I’m concerned, they’re just doin their job.
MR. BLUE
Our girl was nice.
MR. WHITE
Our girl was okay. She didn’t do anything special.
MR. BLONDE
What’s something special, take ya in the kitchen and s*** your d***?
They all laugh.
NICE GUY EDDIE
I’d go over twelve percent for that.
MR. WRITE
Look, I ordered coffee. Now we’ve been here a long f***in time, and she’s only filled my cup three
times. When I order coffee, I want it filled six times.
MR. BLONDE
What if she’s too busy?
MR. WHITE
The words “too busy” shouldn’t be in a waitress’s vocabulary.
NICE GUY EDDIE
Excuse me, Mr. White, but the last thing you need is another cup of coffee.
They all laugh.
MR. WHITE
These ladies aren’t starvin to death. They make minimum wage. When I worked for minimum wage, I wasn’t lucky enough to have a job that society deemed tipworthy.
NICE GUY EDDIE
Ahh, now we’re getting down to it. It’s not just that he’s a cheap bastard—
MR. ORANGE
—It is that too—
NICE GUY EDDIE
—It is that too. But it’s also he couldn’t get a waiter job. You talk like a pissed off dishwasher: “f*** those c***s and their f***ing tips.”
MR. BLONDE
So you don’t care that they’re counting on your tip to live?
Mr. White rubs two of his fingers together.
MR. WHITE
Do you know what this is? It’s the world’s smallest violin, playing just for the waitresses.
MR. BLONDE
You don’t have any idea what you’re talking about. These people bust their a**. This is a hard job.
MR. WHITE
So’s working at McDonald’s, but you don’t feel the need to tip them. They’re servin ya food, you should tip em. But no, society says tip these guys over here, but not those guys over there. That’s
bulls***.
MR. ORANGE
They work harder than the kids at McDonald’s.
MR. WHITE
Oh yeah, I don’t see them cleaning fryers.
MR. BROWN
These people are taxed on the tips they make. When you stiff ‘em, you cost them money.
MR. BLONDE
Waitressing is the number one occupation for female non-college graduates in this country. It’s the one jab basically any woman can get, and make a living on. The reason is because of tips.
MR. WHITE
f*** all that.
They all laugh.
MR. WHITE
Hey, I’m very sorry that the government taxes their tips. That’s f***ed up. But that ain’t my fault. it would appear that waitresses are just one of the many groups the government f***s in the a** on a regular basis. You show me a paper says the government shouldn’t do that, I’ll sign it. Put it to a vote, I’ll vote for it. But what I won’t do is play ball. And this non- college bulls*** you’re telling me, I got two words for that: “Learn to f***in type.” Cause if you’re expecting me to help out with the rent, you’re in for a big f***in surprise.
MR. ORANGE
He’s convinced me. Give me my dollar back.
> Should I ever visit New Zealand (I understand it’s a beautiful country), I’ll remember that. I wouldn’t want to embarrass myself or offend my waiter/barmaid/whatever.
You really should visit — it is a beautiful country, and reasonably safe by world standards. Most Americans I know who have visited have a really good time and are made most welcome.
One of the sure-fire ways of spotting a tourist is by their tipping: this can lead to crimes of opportunity. Because the locals don’t tip, and tourists tend to not know any better, it sets them apart as an easy target.
So as much as anything else, “no tipping” is a safety thing as well.
All taxes are included in every pricetag, except if it explicitly says “GST Excluded” (in which case add 12.5%). Otherwise, the price you see is the amount you pay out of your wallet.
Some bars will have a jar on them for your spare change: there is never an expectation of you putting money in, but you can if you like. Few do.
Yep, I’ve personally known three waitresses that said some people are so abusive that they made them cry.
A waitress friend of mine once asked “how often have you cried at work?”
Isn't this how EVERY other business in the country works, and yet we somehow all still get by? Listen, if a restaurant owner wants me to do performance evaluations on his wait staff, that's fine, he can hire me as a consultant. I fail to see why I should be expected to do it for free, when I'm presumably there to enjoy myself.
“Tipping sets different standards for different jobs that are equally as difficult and low-paying.”
So you mean that the worker at McD’s, who picks up a burger off a rack, sets it on a tray, and rings you up is equivalent service as a waiter who takes your order, refills your drinks, brings the food to you, and cleans your table?
If you arent going to be tipping, next time you go they’ll know that and probably treat you the same way as the McD’s cashier.
Generally, tips are giving in a continuous service setting as a reward for better service. Valet is a single action. Making a coffee is a single action. Having your brakes fixed is a single action. (Though when they go above and beyond is another thing. Speedy service on a busy day, or if you frequent that business you might tip. or the brake guy also changes your oil and tops off other liquids.)
>>Those are the rules established, polite people live by them. Those who choose not to deserve to be excluded from a restaurant at the owner’s choosing.<<
I do a lot of traveling around the US. The rules are different in different areas. And they are not laws. They are rules. Although I tend to abide by them. If I get lousy service, I will take advice I got from a guy over three decades ago: I tip a dime.
Rules change, btw. That is what those who put tip jars at dry cleaners, Starbucks, et-al are banking on.
I think our economy is changing the tipping rules. In my case, the restaurants have ceased getting my business, for the most part.
They expect to be catered to and have a higher-quality experience than they'll get at McDonald's. Tipping is a carrot that the customer gets to dangle at the server to help ensure this. And it's a self-winnowing activity that helps to weed out atrocious servers who won't last long without good tips to make the job worthwhile to them. Everyone wins, the customers are happy and the owner has lots of repeat business.
I've lost count of the surly fast food cashiers I've dealt with through the years who don't have the skills a good server has. That's why they're called "cashiers" and not "servers." It's an art form for the really good servers and keeps the customers coming back.
Same for a good bartender.
ALL:
Let me ask you this...
Why should anyone have to bribe a person to do their job correctly?
If other professions decided that this form of extortion would net them higher salaries, would that be alright with you?
Example:
After taking off on a flight from New York to Los Angeles, the pilots pass a hat. If the tips are sufficient, they take the plane to L.A., if not, you end up in Cleveland.
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