Posted on 04/04/2012 11:36:32 PM PDT by thecodont
While most of the women I know wouldn’t stand for it, there’s been a lot of buzz around husbands opting not to wear their wedding bands.
According to some experts, people just don’t value the symbolism in a ring like they used to.
“I know I’m married, everybody else knows I’m married. I just don’t have no desire to wear it, at all.”
Richard Rhodes has been happily married for 15 years and says he hasn’t worn his ring since he tied the knot.
“I took it off right after the reception and I ain’t seen it since,” said Rhodes.
But the wedding ring is not just a symbol of love for married couples; it’s also an “off-limits” sign for singles.
Psychiatrist Gary Malone says that when a man decides not to wear his ring, it’s usually because he wants to “present himself as not married.” We didn’t need a psychiatrist to tell us that, but it helps.
“He gets all the payoff of presenting himself as single, while he actually gets the other payoff of having a wife at home,” Malone says.
(Excerpt) Read more at living.msn.com ...
Sorry, but a ring hardly serves as an “off limits” sign.
I NEVER got so much female attention as when I was wearing a wedding band.
Women are notorious mate ‘poachers’. Only 60% of single women wanted to go out with a handsome man they were told was emotionally compatible when told he was single. 90% of single women wanted to go out with a handsome man they were told was emotionally compatible when told he was in a relationship.
The best way to let single women know you are both married AND unavailable is to speak to them of your wife...
They flirt and compliment your hair, you say “My wife likes my hair like that also!” with an earnest grin!
Before we got married I told him if he was ever stupid enough to waste good money on a colorless piece of rock, I’d kill him.
I’d *much* rather have PC software/hardware, guns or ammo.
[for $3 I can go to the hardware store and buy something that “cuts glass”]
He’s not to waste money on flowers or candy, either.
I like *useful* stuff.
He thought I was weird for ordering our wedding bands online at huge savings instead of making a federal case out of going to Zales and ‘picking them out’.
We basically paid just a bit over the cost of the gold weight for them.
Turned out to be a wise move because the wait for his custom size 13 1/2 band was a month shorter than it would have been at Zales...and much cheaper, too.
On my wedding day, instead of fancy china or silverware, I got Photoshop CS.
LOL
Thank you.
FWIW, I’ve known people whose bands had nearly grown into their flesh and they were the worst serial cheaters you could imagine.
I’ve never, even for a second, worried about ringless hubby straying, nor he, about me.
The bands around our hearts are invisible and unbreakable.
So far....
I'm thankful every time I get through a day with the red stuff still flowing where it is supposed to. I was focused on the slips 60 feet down when my gloves caught a wicker, a split second? (time gets weird) later I was hanging by tendon. Then I had to climb down that tower one handed.
Yes, theoretically most/all accidents are preventable, but...the point is you never know when the hand you are dealt bites no matter how fast or strong or attentive you are. S*** happens very fast.
OMG...how horrible for you!
I’m always amazed by those who consider themselves impervious to injury due to their ‘extreme vigilance’.
There’s a very good reason why it’s called an ‘accident’; nobody -planned- for it.
Prayers for all who work with dangerous equipment.
[every year we have ‘farm accidents’ galore, hereabouts and it’s -not- those farmer’s first trip to the rodeo...stuff happens in spite of you, sometimes]
Now I have a more dangerous job, I drive trucks amongst all ya'll. LOL
This life is short, eternity is; that I can plan for. Keep praying Lady.
Did you just hear a *thud*?
[that was me, fainting!]
You poor dear!
Thank God your whole had wasn’t lost.
It’s funny...I’d rather have a punch in the nose than have *anything* happen to my fingers.
I’m -really- flaky about them, possibly because of the artwork or the bazillion other things I do that require lots of dexterity.
They gave me a blood sugar gizmo to keep my hypoglycemia monitored but you *must* stab a fingertip to get the blood.
Guess how long *that* lasted...;D
[I just eat small high protein snacks throughout the day, instead..so far, so good]
Praying always...:)
“Before we got married I told him if he was ever stupid enough to waste good money on a colorless piece of rock, I’d kill him.
I’d *much* rather have PC software/hardware, guns or ammo.”
Help! I’ve been cloned. I told my husband something to the effect that diamonds are gravel in heaven. Why would I wear a piece of gravel?
DH and I had to take our rings off due to factory work.
One of the places he’d talk about his lovely wife was in the break room at meal times when he had delicious left-overs ;-)
I am now able to wear rings and got a cheapy stainless steel one for work. I seem to have fewer “stalkers” now. They were probably more interested in my NRA coffee mug ;-)and I mis-read the situation.
LOL!
Well put!
Oh!
Couple years ago my mom constantly and no-very-subtly kept mooning over a 3 stone ring at Zales.
[you know...*stare*.....*sigh*...etc etc etc]
Finally he bought it for her and she told me how much it had cost and I think I was supposed to be overcome with envy or something.
I thought to myself “For that price, it better have a Hemi hiding under there, somewhere”.
;D
I’ve seen the real thing. It’s why I am darned careful of pinch points, and wear heavy gloves whenever I’m up on the rig. The oil patch isn’t the only place I have worked where you can strip the meat off a finger, and there are many more jobs I haven’t worked in where you can.
LOL .. I'll take that as a compliment.
Very interesting thread since I work in the Jewelry business and am a single woman.
Nice to hear the love shared in those who are married since ‘the world’ does seem to make marriage sound undesirable most of the time. Not often one hears about good marriages so it’s very refreshing and good to hear.
Having been single for quite some time so I will offer this from the aspect of a single woman. When married men approach you it is very different then when a single man does so. The difference in their behavior and stance is without question noticable.
As I single woman I honor the marital vows of married people, even if they don’t. It’s never a good idea to mess with God’s work in joining the two together ‘as one’....especially since you’ll be messing with God Himself..... Very dangerous.... and will always hurt innocent people...often for life....especially those with children.
Selling wedding bands ...it’s interesting to see that the men are not as particular about the style of the ring as much as ‘quality and fit’...and most are very particular about the latter....
Though I work in Jewlery I do not care to wear more than a watch and earings.....just not into Jewelry myself, always end up taking it off before I leave for work.
Many woman need to stand in front of a mirror and take off half of the pieces they wear. Too many look like their wearing their Jewlery box!
Somehow....I just knew you would.
Have a great Easter!
Malone is an idiot. I rarely wear my wedding ring, and never for any of the reasons he has given. Contrary to Malone’s asinine theories, I usually wear my ring when I dress up to go out. I never wear it cycling, biking, working with tools, cleaning the car, etc.
Balderdash.
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