Posted on 04/04/2012 11:36:32 PM PDT by thecodont
While most of the women I know wouldn’t stand for it, there’s been a lot of buzz around husbands opting not to wear their wedding bands.
According to some experts, people just don’t value the symbolism in a ring like they used to.
“I know I’m married, everybody else knows I’m married. I just don’t have no desire to wear it, at all.”
Richard Rhodes has been happily married for 15 years and says he hasn’t worn his ring since he tied the knot.
“I took it off right after the reception and I ain’t seen it since,” said Rhodes.
But the wedding ring is not just a symbol of love for married couples; it’s also an “off-limits” sign for singles.
Psychiatrist Gary Malone says that when a man decides not to wear his ring, it’s usually because he wants to “present himself as not married.” We didn’t need a psychiatrist to tell us that, but it helps.
“He gets all the payoff of presenting himself as single, while he actually gets the other payoff of having a wife at home,” Malone says.
(Excerpt) Read more at living.msn.com ...
I made the mistake of wearing my ring during an 8-mile road march in the Fort Benning, GA, summer heat. My hands were very swollen by the end, and, despite my ring crushing my finger, I couldn’t get it off and had to just gut it out until the swelling died down.
After that, I NEVER wear my ring in a field environment or deployment. I just put it on my ID tag chain in my right pocket.
And now we can stop wondering why you are “Salamander.” :)
Projecting your own proclivities onto others, I see.
I have NEVER been able to wear jewelry of any kind, long before I ever got married; rings, watches, whatever. They drive me crazy.
I don't wear a wedding ring. Hasn't affected my behavior in the slightest.
My truck driver father-in-law was exiting his truck and caught his wedding band between the cab and the door. He hung there momentarily until he could pull himself up by the other hand. It almost cut his finger off, and had to have the band cut off because of swelling. Needless to say, he never wore a wedding band again.
...and unlike most women, I hate wearing jewelry...
Your hubby is a lucky man. This is certainly NOT the norm.
I've had my ring flattened...With my finger in it...
My wife stuck her hand into a machine and pulled it out, sans the diamond...She now wears a band...
Reality in the real world is perhaps a shock to some of you people...
I worked in a printing plant for several years. We were forbidden to wear any kind of rings or necklaces. Most just left there wedding rings at home. It was a pain to take it off for work everyday. Not hard to do, just hard to keep up with.
It didn’t have one damn thing to do with “presenting yourself as not being married”.
I’ve seen some pretty ugly injuries with wedding bands getting caught in various things. One of my buddies had his caught in a basketball goal on a dunk. Took all the meat off his finger. Broke it badly also.
If someone doesn’t care to wear their ring then if it’s ok with the wife shouldn’t it be ok with you? Or better yet, should it be any of your or anyone elses business?
Single/married women on the prowl go after men WITH a ring. They are safe, no STD's, considered a good catch.
Interesting topic...
My grandfather, father, and father-in-law never had a wedding ring, nor do I. All were married to their respective wives for over 50 years. My wife & I have 17 more to go to reach that milestone.
Before I got married, I had a conversation with my mother on this subject, and she told me that the practice of husbands wearing a wedding ring was a relatively recent (early 20th century) phenomena. I gathered from her that it was viewed and developed as “trendy” thing.
I know numerous women in very loving, faithful and strong marriages who have kept their maiden name for various reasons. It's not that big of a deal.
My husband quit wearing his wedding ring when he got it caught on some equipment and it nearly took his finger off. I don’t wear one because I end up taking it off all of the time. I’m a musician and play guitar and it gets in the way.
We still have our wedding rings (locked away for safe keeping) and have been married for over 31 years. We have had no problems identifying ourselves as married - with or without the ring. It is a symbol of marriage. It is not THE marriage.
Your premise is ridiculous.
Woman keep their maiden names for a variety of reason, like a professional degree in the maiden name.
In many cultures the husband takes the wife’s name.
Some cultures women would think it was silly to take the husband’s name.
In some areas of the word a new family name is given.
In my case I took my husband’s name because it was way more interesting than my ordinary maiden name.
My mother kept her maiden name because it was way more interesting that her married name would be.
I do find it interesting that you appear to attach “healthy” marriage to cultural symbols.
bingo!
Oh, stuff it. Yes, some people have accidents while wearing rings (and other jewelry). That in itself isn't a reason not to wear one. Hell, people get hit by cars just crossing the street every day. Should we all stop crossing streets because of that? Hilarious.
The article is about the question of whether the symbolism of the wedding ring is important any longer. Judging by the comments on this thread, it appears not.
Sorry, but is a very big deal. Taking the husband's surname as her own, cements the familial bond, and announces to the community that 'these people are now a unified family unit'.
If the woman has "various reasons" for keeping her maiden name that are more important than her marriage, then that just shows you where her priorities lie. I mean, what's the point of getting married, if you're going to retain your singular identity? May as well just shack up. You haven't really committed, in my view.
I have a wadding ring rarely wear it. I NEVER go to places where women of “Loose” repute hang out(Bars, Nighrclubs etc). I LOVE Being married and could NEVER even IMAGINE being with ANY other women besides my wife(of 25+ years)!
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