Could this be a contributing factor to the downfall of the male?
Posted on 05/11/2012 10:46:01 PM PDT by Olog-hai
I recently spent some time with a friend who has three children. My buddy, whom I've known since fifth grade, is a college-educated responsible guy who has never failed to do right by his family. When describing him, "well-rounded" comes to mind. He's masculine but not macho, sensitive but nowhere near maudlin, perceptive, intuitive, caring, compassionate. Like I said, well-rounded. His wife is as solid as a rock.
His oldest son, 40, never earned as much as a high school diploma, has had perennial problems with alcohol, and presently earns a living working in a record store. His youngest, another son, is rapidly approaching 30. Like his older brother, he's clearly intelligent and capable, yet he's barely supporting himself at menial jobs, still taking college classes, and has no sense of what he wants to do with his life. By contrast, my buddy's daughter, the middle child, is a go-getter. She's a top performer at her workplace and seems overall in command of her life.
For the first time in history, females are emancipating earlier and more successfully than males. This crop of young adult males is certainly shaping up to be the most underachieving generation of men (perpetual boys?) to ever inhabit the USA. I shared the following observation with a recent audience, "When one hears of an individual in their mid-30s who's still living at home or largely dependent on parents for support and has no clear sense of direction in life, it's almost always a male. It starts in high school, where nearly every video game addict is a male. In the adult world, women are graduating from college in larger numbers and are taking over a number of previously male-dominated professions." Everywhere, heads nodded. …
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The feminization of our men has been going on for a long time in our schools. It also adds to the problem of males having just given up on trying to do anything. Some guys want to take Home Ec and other such classes..However, the vast majority of men would prefer “shop” over baking, but I doubt whether learning to build things is even available in most schools anymore. The radical women’s movement evidenced by women on motorcycles at a liberation meeting down there in TX a long time ago began the hatred of all things male in America. They tried to see to it that only the feminized male rose to prominence..Most real males had to stay in the shadows and if you were a real male of some prominence, you would be excoriated by the feminized media if you threatened their political goals. This has been a large concern of mine for a long time..Ancient Rome is an example of what happens to such a society. When my children were small, the thing was to insist that your boy have a doll to play with instead of trucks. I never did that but my “progressive” friends did. As I have said before, Mother Nature does not want men to become extinct..She will act sooner or later.
I recently learned that “shop” was changed at our public schools so that no “dangerous” tools were allowed because of the “risks” associated with screwdrivers, hammers, nails, etc. They use foam, cardboard, etc. The schools have become prisons and very little else, let’s face it, folks! Weapons detectors at the doors, bars on the windows, no doors on the bathroom stalls, and no tools in shop class!! Next it will be no shoelaces.....
Nice quote. I’m stealing it. I hope and pray that a lot of American boys are looking at what liberals are doing to our country.
If everyone’s a victim, does that mean nobody is, so we can all get back to taking responsibility for our own lives?
Thank u for posting that reply. I saw the same Hannity show and i wanted to bitch-slap some sense into him. Hannity made him look like a fool. Loved it!!
I’ll second your step-by-step plan. After a line of duty injury in the Army I went through VA’s vocational rehabilitation for 3 years. I set a career goal and with pencil and paper wrote down the 40-some odd steps it would take to get there. I went step-by-step, never letting more than two weeks go between each step. It worked. Now, I’m in that career, in a pinnacle position. It’s time for another, more ambitious list.
Step-by-step plans work great to those with self-discipline and determination. But are these traits being taught any more or even valued in popular culture? No, they are not.
Here’s my experience with trucks vs. dolls. When my son and daughter were less than two, and only had gender neutral “baby toys” their reactions were vastly different when we’d go through the boy and girl toy aisles. How it can be confused as anything but natural is beyond me. It is likely just sick or even sinister to impose opposite gender values and roles upon children.
I would love to teach but, as a man, I’m terrified to death of false accusations if I run the class how it should be run.
I knew a professor that was accused of harassment. Of course, it was by the only two women who failed his class.
So many teachers and professors today just give an easy A to avoid the drama and retaliation.
Isn’t scarcasm the distance between your scars? ...or is it when biting wit actually leaves marks?
John Steinbeck
That is so simple and so perfectly true.
Gloria Steinem’s dream has become reality. And a nightmare for the rest of us.
I am a female artist who discovered that the best day job was to supply something to all the other artists. It can be a product or a support service. Everyone in these fields is waiting to become a star. Meanwhile, they spend the money earned in their real-world jobs on the tools and accessories of their chosen dream field.
My experience of nearly 70 years: you need a comfortable financial cushion to survive in any of the arts. You can marry it, inherit it or earn it outside of the creative areas, but it is essential. After that, you need a group of people who also have that sort of financial security who believe in you and are willing to pay for your work. This is assuming you already have both the talent and the discipline to create something of value to others.
Cover all that, find or make the time necessary to create and actually do it. Learn how to legitimately market yourself. Toughen up to the inevitable rejections and don’t let the successes go to your head. You need to find satisfaction in the process because the achievements come and go.
Contrary to popular belief, the arts are not for the faint of heart. I disagree that it is a matter of flailing about in the dark. Learn your craft and learn it well. Part of that craft is marketing and your work product is something apart from yourself. Practice and practice and practice some more. Love your process and do not fall in love with your results. Study the success and the failures in your field. They will teach you a lot. There are steps to take and absolutely nothing happens by accident. Yes, luck or serendipity can be operative, but you need to be prepared when that moment strikes by having the work product, the work habits and the reputation that would compel someone to take that chance on you.
You are still quite young. You can do it, but it is hard work, it takes a lot of time and you need to figure out how to survive while creating and how to survive between the successes. Talent is walking the streets, which doesn’t meant you need to resort to street walking to succeed. Every music star has a band and other back up in their act. Not everyone writes their own material. Working professionals need costumes and instruments. They need light, sound, technical production, art work, photography, booking, sales, managing, marketing, professional physical presentation assistance (hair/makeup) and gofers. Physical artists need supplies, tools and presentation services (matting/framing/displays). Crafters often need to subcontract parts of their process: (dyeing, spinning, finishing, casting). Everyone needs a venue in which to perform or sell, or exhibit. Work for those who provide these needs and you will work steadily while perfecting your own product. You will also have access to supplies and services that you yourself will need, often at cost. You will learn the business from the inside.
It is not art; it is craft and it is inventory and inventory must be manufactured. Not everyone makes it. There is nothing wrong with finding a productive endeavor that is not your dream and using your spare time to practice your creativity.
Excellent point. With the proviso that becoming a writer/songwriter/etc. everyone knows you have to express a few leftist sentiments.
That’s a very common refrain from the TV. Other than sports TV exists to serve the female audience. And the message in show after show is that white males are responsible for all that is bad and are idiots, gays & minorities are smart & cool. Still people keep paying for their channels....
Could this be a contributing factor to the downfall of the male?
“I would love to teach but, as a man, I’m terrified to death of false accusations if I run the class how it should be run.’
It’s an occupational hazard, along with lawsuits, getting canned for not signing the right form at the right time, and one day having someone who failed your class walk up and scream ‘You ruined my life!’ and attempt to mow you down. That said, go for it. The world needs right-wing teachers.
You said it, Aria, excellent!
Raising babies to become...babies...
your post brought back memories...
The Marlboro MAN...
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