[rhett october]

So this isn't my marriage, but we seem to go through ups and downs and I assume a lot of people do here as well. So I thought this might be helpful since the 3rd point really has been my matra for the last several weeks after reading this. I was thinking about it and thought it might be helpful to someone here. There are other good resources online and I encourage you to look them up or get counseling rather than separate or divorce if at all possible.

[vpintheak]

Man is it hard to do #1 when being hit with #2 often. Just continue to forgive and move on.

[Candor7]

we should all have a brochure entitled, “How I saved my marriage,”>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Eff that. I believe in the prenup and a noble end.
If one has a marriage , then one is married.
If one does not have a marriage, one gets the hell out of it.

[SatinDoll]

I read the article and it is a good one. So I will tell everyone now that I have never been married, but have reared a nephew and the points given in this article about marriage can, and should, be used when rearing a child. Talk to your kids - don’t nag.

P.S.: marry a person, who if they were your own sex, would be your best friend. This is something I have always noted about long, enduring marriages.

[dubyagee]

Very good advice...Criticism can kill. I know...I’ve been guilty of it.

[Boogieman]

I think the first step to saving a marriage happens before you even get married. Make sure that you aren’t marrying someone who thinks that there is such a thing as a “perfect marriage” where everything will be peachy. Only marry someone if they are fully aware that there will problems and who is going to be committed to working through them when they come up.

[umgud]

If I’d shot my ex wife when I 1st wanted to, I’d have been out by now.

[trebb]

Ephesians has some sound advice - it tells women to respect their husbands and for men to love their wives. Women are more “love” oriented and men are more “respect” oriented - both have to value the other’s system of processing the trial that go with a marriage.

[DawnPatrolGuy]

My grandfather always said "find a happy woman, and keep her that way". In other words, don't marry a woman that is generally unhappy and expect marriage will make her happy. Of course ladies, the same applies to potential husbands. I've seen this play out with several of my friends and it seems to hold true over time.

I married a happy one and we're still that way after 30 years.

[M Kehoe]

Marriage is like combat. There are periods of extreme gratification, and other periods of extreme boredom.

Don’t quote me on this. The First lady might be watching...

5.56mm

[Skooz]

1. Don’t.

The End