Posted on 05/12/2022 7:11:21 PM PDT by foundedonpurpose
I have had a great life, yet the bottle keeps getting me. Very sad. I am just a man, Is there room on FR for a support group? Would this be a private group or open to the public. My guess, would be privet invite only, we have enough trolls as it is. Jim I would love your thoughts on this. Thanks! Founded
Have you tried Lindell’s group?
I will pray for you.
Private message me.
I will too.
Prayers. It’s tough going pard, but you can do it, but you really have to want to. Pray pray and pray some more for God’s help. He will give it to you. Bless you!
An alcoholic is stranded in a deep well. He calls out for help over and over again.
Along comes a doctor. He hears the alcoholic’s pleas. He whips out a prescription pad and drops a script for medication.into the well. “Good luck, friend!” he says, and walks on.
Along comes a priest. He hears the alcoholic’s pleas. He calls out, “I will pray for you, my son!” and walks on.
Along comes a recovered alcoholic. He hears the alcoholic’s pleas, and he jumps right into the well with the him. The alcoholic is stunned! “What did you do that for? Now you are stuck in this well WITH me.”
“Not quite,” the recovered alcoholic says. “I’ve been here before, and I know the way out.”
Go to AA, they are everywhere, and free. Be open to the heartfelt and truly American spirituality you will find there.
There is a power greater than yourself, let Providence be your guide.
The only requirement to be a member of AA is a desire to stop drinking. It’s not a sobriety contest.
May G-d be with you.
The courage to ask is the courage, I think, to walk through the storm. May you be blessed and healed to God’s true shalom.
Reaching out online is a good start. You need to do more than chat online. AA is the best source I can recommend. The 12-step program with spiritually-grounded principles focuses on helping an addict avoid the compulsion to drink alcohol. AA is a fellowship that provides support, at no charge, for people who want to stop drinking. Its 12-step approach regards alcoholism as both a medical and a spiritual problem and promotes abstinence to facilitate recovery. Open meeting can be attended by anyone. Closed meetings by members only. New members should start with 90 meetings in 90 days. Most long-term success in those with at least 2.5 meetings/wk.
Another option is SMART Recovery (the acronym is from “Self Management and Recovery Training”):
Meetings can be located at their main Web site:
http://www.smartrecov ery.org.
Not a spiritual program and does not consider alcoholism to be a disease, is the best-known alternative to AA.
Also see www.rethinkingdrinking.niaaa.nih.gov
Things one can say to avoid drinking without having to declare yourself as a non-drinker:
I can’t tonight; I’m driving.
I overdid it last night, so I’m taking the night off.
I’m on a detox that doesn’t allow alcohol.
I’m watching my weight.
I’m trying to cut back.
I’m doing an alcohol-free challenge.
I don’t feel like it tonight.
I have an important meeting tomorrow, so I want to keep a clear head.
One day at a time.
Seek out a local AA chapter. They really do care, and they really do help.
Agree on AA. Their meetings are everywhere, in places you would never notice. It’s anonymous and confidential. Just go - a lot of them also being done now virtually.
See your doctor and ask for Naltrexone — it can help cut down on cravings for the next drink. Or, submit yourself to a treatment center for a while.
Vivitrol is the injectable form of Naltrexone. Sometimes Vivitrol works best as it’s injected once monthly. Many alcoholics, if given the chance, will put the pill aside and continue to drink. Vivitrol prevents that. I’ve seen a lot of alcoholics do well with Vivitrol.
Bump for later. I can’t say I’ve ever been in your shoes but I will check for updates because I’m genuinely uplifted by your frankness, humility and sincerity in facing this challenge. May God be with you always, FRiend.
You are doing well.
I am forking to that road. Drinking is a way to deal with everything.
It will suck the life out of you and kill you in the end.
I owe my life and everyone in it an apology.
My daughter saw my struggles and sent me this book. It’s short and somewhat repetitive, but it just made so much sense. I prayed, walked into AA one day after I read it and never looked back. I have zero desire for alcohol. It’ll be two years next month. Maybe I’m an anomaly but it worked for me.
https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/stop-drinking-now-allen-carr/1120403871
AA is a fine resource. There is also a Christian-based ministry called “Celebrate Recovery” that can be found all over the country if you want a faith-based discussion group.
The first step in recovery is to call out for help so you’re doing the right thing but I don’t think FR is private enough or focused on your issue enough to be the proper forum you need.
In either AA or CR, you are likely to be paired with an “accountability partner” with similar issues whom you contact anytime the itch gets to you.
Either way, I wish you well.
The first step in solving a problem is admitting there is a problem.
Kudos.
That stated, you will be harming only one person if you fail to 1. Contact a local Alcoholics Anonymous chapter immediately, 2. Follow through on the program, and, 3. Sponsor another.
Pick up the phone. Do it now.
Thank you for reaching out. Prayers for you to find the answers.
My mother was an alcoholic, who died at 64. My ex-husband was an alcoholic, who died at 54, which was devastating for my kids.
Best of luck in your efforts to find your best life.
I will have been sober for 12 years this July. You need to become convinced at an almost sub-atomic level that you need to stop. Coming within a hair’s breadth of losing my family gave me the motivation to get help. Get with people who know how to do this, open your ears and close your mouth! It requires learned skills, which you can acquire. It ain’t fun but it is necessary, and your life will be better for it.
That is absolutely beautiful!
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