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>> ...women are hit with marketing about their “special day” that’s “just about them.”
Wha?? You mean that only applies to WEDDING DAY??? I was told that EVERY DAY is a “special day” “just about them”.
Honey!!! We have to talk...
So what? Like if they have the money why not? I uber folks to Vegas or places in AZ for twenty-five grand a seat. Why should we tell people how they want to spend their money? Just saying.
Top Reason For Divorce:
Marriage
My wife and I came in way under the 1930s price. Home made food/cake in the church basement, bride made her own dress. One glass of champagne for booze. A remote location (northern Alberta) so the groom only had three guests (my mother, my best man, and one college pal).
I did spend more for the suit ($650), but it was also my business/Sunday suit for the next 13 years before wearing out.
$30k for a wedding?
The bar tab at our wedding was more than that, heck the dessert table may have cost almost that.
My soon to be mother in law took it all over and it got out of control really fast.
Margaret Mead did the definitive research on expensive weddings in book about the Arapesh in New Guinea... Funny book - how to turn happy freedom loving young people into grump adult with one culture move. Brilliant.
It should be up to the parents. Do they have the money or not? If that’s not the case, get the chicken catered from KFC. It’ll taste better than the typical wedding reception fare anyway.
A nice wedding for 100 people should run about $20K (that includes everything). I just did one for my oldest son: 50 people, $10K. Food and location was $6K. Bridal outfit was $1K, suit and shoes, $500, DJ, photographer, flowers, decorations, invitations, etc, $2,500.
When my husband and I married 30 years ago, we paid $16,000 for our wedding; $10K was on the food and hall. We had 100 guests. We had a blow-out NY style wedding with church ceremony, massive cocktail hour, 3 course dinner, two cakes, open bar, etc. Paid for it ourselves. It was on par with other weddings in the family.
I’ve been to backyard weddings with BBQ and a DJ, super simple but lots of fun. Total bill was about $2K.
You don’t have to break the bank.
There's absolutely no reason why it should cost five figures to plant someone in the dirt. Our ancestors used to do that for nothing more than the cost of a pine box and the time it took to dig a hole.
Does this mean that there will be no more lavish bachelor parties with heavy drinking and stripers?
Don’t know, I’ve never been to a wedding in my adult life.
I was raised in Northern New Jersey and large weddings. Once I moved away I realized just how silly these massive blow outs are. I prepared my family with the knowledge that I preferred smaller weddings. When I did get married over 25 years ago we had a nice wedding for 80 guests with a church service, a sit down reception, and a piano player. We paid about 8 thousand. My husband and I paid for it and accumulated no debt. Just work within your budget and plan within your means.
I gave my daughter and future SIL a budget. They could keep any monies not spent on the wedding for themselves.
It was a small budget. I think it was $600.
Between his family and ours being small town people,
they had a big wedding and money left over.
which paid for a honeymoon in Oceanside OR.
This was mid 1990’s in WA state.
They are still married.
A judge and immediate family, then dinner with family and friends. All I need.
I pay taxes than that every damned year to pay for government garbage. I would at least get honeymoon sex if I got married every year.
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Some women love weddings so much, they can’t wait to get divorced so as to have another wedding. And then another, and another, and another...
An acquaintance has paid for two daughter’s weddings, $60,000 each. Nothing short of insane.
Two kids we know are getting married in August. Two weddings. Each have sent out no less than three announcements / invitations. I’ll send a gift and wish them well. They won’t even notice we are not there.
We married nearly 50 years ago. I paid for everything but the dress and that came from Penny’s and she was a knockout. The rest could not have cost much because both of us had less than not much. I managed 5 days in a row off at Christmas time and we got caught in a terrible ice storm heading back for Midland, Texas. My boss covered for me until we could get back and we went from there. Our weekend “entertainment” consisted of very long trips around the Permian Basin making the rigs so I could better learn my trade. We had a good time of it.
The whole affair of making a splash, statement or one-upsmanship is way out of hand.
I’ve started thinking about the subset of things I have learned. It is the things I have learned that I wish I had learned a WHOLE lot sooner. I think one of those things is that if you can marry for love and not for lust it is a whole lot better. Knowing the difference, that’s the rub. Waiting for the perfect one and waiting too long, that’s the problem?
The biggest story that everyone missed in this article is that a groom’s suit costs only 1/3 as much in 2013 as it did in the 1930s, adjusted for inflation. Mic drop.