Posted on 10/11/2005 7:43:11 PM PDT by teldon30
Some of us are socially inept and fail to notice the obvious.
Because it's rude to ask such personal questions on first acquaintance. Might as well ask her her age, weight, and shoe size.
The line of questioning isn't "peculiar" at all. One can rightfully assume that an older woman is more likely to be married. A single man wants to know if she's married in order to decide where a possible relationship should go. A married man, might still want a relationship 9unfortunately), or he might look at a couple as new friends for him and his wife. This article sounds like Feminazi bullshit to me.
Same here.
Sounds like a challenge to me!
Sort of like my wife when I first met her (though we were in our 20s).
13+ years of wedded bliss!
After reading the article I am not surprised at all she remains single, and probably with no serious prospects for marriage.
There's nothing wroing with that. I'd wager this woman has an attitude and demeanor that repels potential suitors. Not surprising she remains single as she cruises past middle age.
lol that's ALWAYS the first thing I check lol
In many cases, marriage is not always a conscious decision.
I think most people just reach a psychological (maturity) point in their life and they marry the person whom they are dating (or serious with) at that moment, if that other person is agreeable, that is.
It's like a subconscious magnet built into a person's psyche which simply says, 'yep - time to get hitched.'
However, some people have an unrealistic perception of the entire process, as fortold in the book The Cinderella Complex.
They apparantly wait for bells and whistles to go off in their head upon meeting the right person.
Unfortunately the bells and whistles usually stop ringing in most people at around 29.
After that it is a matter of practicality and a desire to have children, not lust, bells and whistles.
Things don't always work out that romantically, although I'm sure it does for some, but not all.
I'm 37, never married, and consistently have had romantic companions. I am with you 100%. Anybody who is alone with no prospects is probably alone for a good reason.
In many cases, it's just that they don't get out and meet people. In many cases, it's that they repel rather than attract potential mates.
Goes for men and women.
Interesting essay... should be worth a chuckle or two.
I thought it was funny - and didn't see the Boo Freakin' Hoo that you did.
Probably because I'm over 30 and single and get the same questions from people all the time.
Snivel? Me? NEVER!!
I know quite a few married couples that do not wear rings these days, and for a wide variety of reasons. Some don't like jewelry at all, others do not see the point (it is, admittedly, little more than ritual), and others have jobs or medical conditions which prevent them from wearing the rings (my father has a bad reaction to gold, as a real-world example). In other words, it is not a very reliable indicator in the modern world, doubly so since there are single women that wear apparent wedding/engagement rings.
I thought it was funny - and didn't see the Boo Freakin' Hoo that you did.
Probably because I'm over 30 and single and get the same questions from people all the time.
Snivel? Me? NEVER!!
No whey.
LOL! My kinda humah.
That's why I like reading FR at night...
I always feel more comfortable dealing with FReepers who may have more of a buzz than I do...?
"My theory is that if you hang around an unattached woman long enough you'll eventually figure out why she is unattached. Except for the truly aestheticaly-challenged, most women that want to marry get married. Those that don't simply don't."
Maybe true for most, but not me, I have wanted to be married; but being a widow hasn't helped.
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