Posted on 10/11/2005 7:43:11 PM PDT by teldon30
I'll milk it for laughs if I can.
Get this all the time. My answer to why I haven't married yet is a very simple one: haven't met the right guy yet.
I thought it was funny and full of sarcasm. Of course, I've been in her shoes so...
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I tried married for almost 10 years. Didn't work out so well for me.
Single after that for about 8 years. Dated, but no long-term guys.
Been with the same VN veteran now for more years than I recall (about 20?). I'm 54 and counting...
Single female is a fun time!
Yep. I want to get married for the right reasons (love, committment, children, etc.)- not because society expects me to be, or because someone falsely thinks there 'must be something wrong with her'. It's a question of marrying 'just any guy'. Call me a prude, but I don't want 'just any guy'.
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I'm sorry for your loss. I'd put you in a different category than the author though. You *were* married. It's not the same social pressure as the never-marrieds face. Not to minimize what you do face, but it's different.
I do know some widows who tend to turn off prospective second husbands by waxing about how wonderful the first husband was. Most men (and women for that matter) will shy away from someone who is expecting someone as wonderful as their dear departed. Particularly if there are children involved.
I think sometimes of all the widows created by 9-11 and the War on Terror. It takes a tough woman to pick up and start over. Bless all of them.
I just think that the American legal system is none too friendly to males!
I do not think you need any better explanation than that. This is not the 18th century where you get married by 20 so that you can die by 40. More than ever, quality matters.
Marriage should not be a race to some kind of societal finish line.
As for myself, I find a number of women, with no ring, who are in long term live-in relationships with their boyfriends.
Perhaps they have a common-law marriage.
All I know is that there are some things I would like to know up front.
Because it's rude to ask such personal questions on first acquaintance. Might as well ask her her age, weight, and shoe size.
Well, then I'm guessing that I must be out of line when I ask to see a current credit report. But in my own defense, I do usually wait for the second date before I run a criminal back ground check. But if y'all have met some of the women I've been out with, you wouldn't blame me!
Yeah, about half way through the article I figured out EXACTLY why she's never been married. The entire article dripped with condescension towards the women who tried to make her 30th birthday special and to the man who DARED to strike up a conversation with her, as if they were intruding into her little aura of perfection.
Good looking women can get away with being jerks up until about age 30. After that, personality becomes important.
You could just break their white cane or shoot their dog.
Why the ideal gas law in your tagline?
Oh...just being nerdy....Got chromatography on the brain.
so cheesy... udderly so ;-)
My life isn't perfect, but, at this point, it's the path I've chosen. And for the longest period yet, no, for the first time in my life, I'm not beating myself up for bad choices, or freaking out with hysterical loneliness.
Yeah, if you marry someone, they shouldn't be just anyone. And the more quirks, twerks and rips you have, the more quirked, twerked and ripped they need to be too....or you'll both be unhappy. Especially if you're beyond childrearing years.
Sadyly, the 'I gotta get married because I'm getting older and alone!'mantra is in both genders in my world. Where the clock is ticking towards dying alone and dying with someone else there.
Got news for you---- all humans die alone. Granted, it is wonderful to pass with someone who really loves you holding your hand. But alone is better than looking up at a big mistake as you take your last breath.
Anyhow, meeting someone is more pressured than when I was 18. It's like a job interview, rapid fire, getting down to the basics. Instead of speed dating, it's become speed marriage. Instead of sex, they want an instant companion, an instant marker to say "Hey, look! I've got someone! See, I'm OK."
~~Sigh~~
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Ewww! Arranged marriages! The idea makes my skin crawl. I would hate to think what my mom would have set me up with. Probably some old, abusive drunk. When I got married I heard a lot of, "You don't know what love is." Yet, I am still happily married almost thirteen years later.
Why is it that she views this question as an insult? It is not a whole lot different than asking, "So, why did you decide to become a school teacher/lawyer/astrophysicist?" When getting to know someone, isn't it normal to ask a question or two about life choices? What is she, terrified that someone might judge her in some way? Heaven forbid!
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