Posted on 10/25/2009 1:34:25 PM PDT by FourPeas
It gets better. Said unemployeed nephew showed up at our door just over a week ago, after we didn't respond to his email asking if he could come and stay with us while he looked for a job. He drove nearly 1000 miles expecting us to let him sleep in his truck parked on our driveway. Of course, he had a sob story. After a few days of being gone for 2-3 hours each, he's says he's now found a job...we'll see. He's been careful not to expect us to provide coffee, meals, laundry, gas for his truck, etc.
During a discussion with my nephew, a 30-something unemployed laborer, about how we pay to dispose of our trash, he emphatically stated that he would never work collecting garbage, especially not in the summer. The response came automatically without hesitation from my husband: it seems the safety net and minimum wage is too high in our country if we can't find people to do jobs like that. My nephew didn't say anything after that, but I'm sure the truth hurts, especially when it comes from his favourite uncle.
I wouldn’t take this too seriously; I, myself, said things like “I’ll never touch poop with my hands’, and ‘I’ll never catch vomit to check for blood’...and then I became a mother.
Your nephew may find that one day he’ll be glad to be a sanitaion engineer. :-)
My unemployed husband would gladly take a job collecting trash. He doesn’t have a house (or himself) to support, so he doesn’t feel a ‘need’ apparently.
I went to our local grocery store asking for at least part time work. She said I was about the 10th person THAT DAY that was over 30 she had to turn away. Most had management or technical experience.
I served on jury duty with a young woman who had a degree in graphic design and she is on food stamps.
Your nephew better wake up. Things aren’t getting better.
Yeah, I remember (and I’m glad I learned this lesson early) saying at 21 that I had too many teeth to be a diner waitress. After a few months of being unemployed, and finding out you got free meals at said diner, I jumped at that job.
I swore then I would never announce any job I was too good for.
Is there a reason your nephew can’t sleep in house?
That’s probably the most unbelievable part, the nephew in question has a wife and six kids.
We do allow him to sleep in our rec room/guest room. He and his family have visited us before and know we have a spare room. Undoubtedly that’s why he drove 1000+ miles to come stay with us without our agreement.
That was presumtuous as hell. They have the right to not allow a person in their house. I have had personal experience with letting people into my house out of the kindness of my heart, then being totally raked over. Either there is thievery, a sense of entitlement, or the guest that never leaves -- making you feel like an outsider in your own home -- and I totally understand letting the guy sleep in his truck.
You know, sometimes if you do that, they just never leave. And in some states, once you let them hang their hat, they have all the rights of a renter and you can't legally boot them out. So learn a little before you climb on your high horse.
It’s been my experience that when people say they would never do job “x,” they probably are qualified to get hired for it anyway.
Hopefully he mans-up. I have a very good white-collar professional job and career. But I have also worked as “strong-backed weak-minded labor” in landscaping, stocking retail shelves, pumping gas (full serve, including cleaning the public restrooms)... In short, pride is a good thing, but pride in putting food on your family’s table takes precedence over “I would never do X.” If need be, I’d do any job (save traitor) to provide for my family.
Fatherhood changed my whole definition of what is too disgusting to look at or touch as well.
It’s still disgusting, but what are you going to do?
Voice of experience.
I have a niece just like that. She’s living off her parents in another part of the country. Claims she can’t find a job after 7 months. On her facebook she’s always partying. She has said there are certain jobs she just won’t do. Like working at McD’s...ect. Her father says he’s not going to support her anymore, but, the mom still is. That won’t help her IMHO. Not my kid they can do what they want but, this young lady is 22 years old. Time to cut the cord. She’ll get a job pretty quickly if no one is supporting her.
Tough situation, all around.
He isn’t hungry enough.
LOL...Sometimes Life messes up ones plans...lol
Gracious, some of you sure take offense easily. It was just a question.
The only family member I wouldn’t help out is my older brother and that’s because he’s a violent, immature jackass.
Nice tough ‘love’ story.
I enjoyed it.
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