Skip to comments.'I've never liked my child' mother explains why she can't love her eldest daughter
Posted on 06/03/2011 12:15:50 PM PDT by Niuhuru
For most mothers, the love they have for their child is unconditional. And if that wasn't the case, few would dare admit it.
Which perhaps explains why a woman breaking that social taboo has chosen to write under a pseudonym.
In an article published today in the latest issue of REDBOOK, the mother-of-two, who calls herself Jennifer Rabiner, confesses how she has never been able to love her eldest child.
(Excerpt) Read more at dailymail.co.uk ...
a souless human being....
I'm nothing special, but I've had a productive life with a daughter and two grandkids.
My brother has raised a son on his own, worked at a HVAC duct plant for 10 years saving enough money to quit, and get a history degree from a local university known for producing good teachers. He wants to teach HS history and coach wrestling.
She lives within a 30 minute drive. We've went out of our way. Her loss. She's about to be old, and is gonna come to regret her decision.
Well, at least she knew her attitude was wrong and tried to do something about it.
But she sounds like your basic upper-middle class parent, and I’m puzzled as to why she didn’t seek out a medical evaluation earlier. Most modern parents in that group are so obsessed with medical diagnoses and love to talk about them so much that it’s hard to believe they’d let the chance to have a child with a syndrome slip by like that...
Better late than never, I guess. And it sounds as if things will improve for this little girl now.
I think she's seeing what she wants to see.
It is wonderful that you have a good attitude; unfortunately, there’s nothing that you can do about her attitude.
Having a parent who resents you is hard as all get out, and I really congratulate you on how you have lived your life. And I bet you love your kids and grandkids...and they love you!
Sadly she is not only not unique, she is not even unusual.
There are many like her even within the church.
Love isn’t just a feeling, it’s also a choice.
Give my Wife and I her child, we’ll love her.
Good call. ;)
Also very tight with my brother and half sister(Not from my mother, but from the woman my dad remarried, who left her with dad when they divorced). We are "The family" now, even if our parents don't want to be.
I got over it a long time ago.
I can actually see how the undiagnosed medical problem could interfere with the mother infant bond because it interfered with nursing which plays a huge bio and neuro chemical role.
If this ill child had been 2nd born instead of first born, I’m guessing the mother would have been way more forceful with both her husband and doctors in seeking for a diagnosis because she would have known from the beginning that something was right based on previous experience with a healthy infant.
As it was I bet she had a lot of her gut feelings downplayed as “nervous, new mother” syndrome. The cognitive dissonance this created was displaced onto the relationship with the child.
Well, it did say that she had suggested to her husband that it might be autism or something, and he rejected the idea that anything was wrong.
I agree. Sad how many people here are judging her. But Freepers, I find, are nearly as perfect as Liberals.
A number of people do not like one of their children, The mark of character is making sure the child never discovers this fact.
She’s seeing herself, absolved of guilt.
that bitch doesn’t deserve to be loved by her child.
You sound special to me, FRiend. :)
Honestly, did many of them really read and actually comprehend the article?