Skip to comments.is facebook for women and effeminate men?
Posted on 10/21/2011 10:07:09 PM PDT by mamelukesabre
When I first got pushed into signing up for facebook 3 years ago, I thought it would be a waste of my time. after a month or two, I decided it was kinda fun. Then I started hearing bad things and started worrying about security and my use of it tapered off. Now, 3 years later, I don't look at my facebook much but when I do, I notice two things:
its almost purely women that put things on facebook and make comments on stuff.
its purely women that are sending me friend requests and I have no idea who they are.
Is facebook dying off, drying up, wasting away? Is it turning into a ladies book club or ladies cribbage club? If so, how long before the same thing happens to FR?
I finally couldn’t stand all the people telling me to sign up to Facebook and started an account. I then spent several hours getting OFF the damned thing, and it’s still there, I just have deleted almost all my ‘friends.’ People can tell me all day how great it is, but I’m a 45-year-old man and simply can’t see ANY benefit to the thing. People post what they’re eating, what they’re thinking, and an old lefty friend posts the most lunatic leftist crap seemingly hourly.
Nothing can convince me that it is anything but a waste of time, and only feeds the narcissism of our culture. People seem to think their every breathing moment, their every stray thought, and their most ordinary activity is somehow validated by putting it there, immortalized forever—as if anyone is going to look at that when they’re so busy posting their OWN ephemera.
You’d do better just sitting in your living room with your dog, enjoying the silence and peace. I am 100% serious.
Never been on Facebook. Never felt the need to. FR is my choice of venue for comments and chatter.
Besides, got more during my tour in Iraq on FR that all other sites combined.
It seems to be for high school kids and college kids. After that if you have time for it, you should get a life and a job....:O)
Even if you deactivate your facebook account, it is still there on their servers. The only hope of it getting truly deleted is if the entire facebook building complex burns to the ground, which would probably happen a lot sooner than some facebook drone who works there deleting it at your request.
I signed up under a phony name a couple years ago just to check out the profiles of some old high school girlfriends (30+ years ago). I saw, I was entertained (for a few minutes), and I left. ...and haven’t been back since. Yeah, that place is narcissist central.
You’re just like those internts deniers! /s
Why is “forward email” any different?
Member of facebook, joined to connect to old friends. No big deal. Seldom visit.
My young nieces are always on FB it seems. This 55 year old only goes there every now and then. Its too much overload for me and I don’t possess much desire to keep in touch with yesteryears friends and such. All those silly games too on FB-—puhlease. Maybe old geezerhood is creeping up on me.
Agreed. I once watched a friend’s kid as she IM’d with about 20 people at the same time. “How are you?” “I’m cool, you?” “I saw Sandy today, LOL!” “I know! LOL!” “OMG”
I asked her if she was enjoying herself, and she shrugged. “It’s something to do.”
It wasn’t actual communication, it was more like some kind of electronic game, where you put the proper characters in their places—LOL, OMG, Oh yeah?—to keep the characters scrolling up the screen. Just as pointless as Pong.
I get newsfeeds off of it, but that’s about it.
Agreed and twitter as well.
when I first joined up, I uploaded a bunch of old gradeschool class pics. The old classmates flocked to my facebook and put up all kinds of stuff...old memories and such. It was fun for a couple months.
I am also in my 40s.
I just checked my facebook tonight. It’s like you say. Pointless. Like a bunch of old ladies at church trying to make all the other old ladies look at her wallet of photos. AND, its all women on FB. Then there are the kooks trying to get everyone to sign their stupid petition for saving some dam worthless thing that should be left to die. Then there are the addicted facebookers that are compelled to tell you where they are every couple hours...via iphone or android. I wonder if they actually do that with their phone or if there is an “app” out there that automatically sends a facebook message whenever you are moving?
If people had any idea what’s under the hood, they’d run like hell from FB. That thing is one step away from a gigantic crash. It’s spaghetti.
I’ve got lots of real men on my Facebook. My cousin who runs a fire department, for one. There are plenty from my high school class, too.
I’m educating many people on conservative issues, and about Herman Cain, too.
Then there are those who can’t spell,capitalize and punctuate worth a damn. Go back to school!
Oh,and I don’t know who the hell most of these “friends” are. I get friend requests from people who I’ve never heard of in my life!
Activists of all types. My sister is one of them -- the anti-vaccine activist. She annoys hundreds of people daily.
FR is about discussing ideas, not one’s personal life, so facebook and FR have very little in common.
Yup. I have over 300 friends, probably 230 of whom are apolitical. I post one or two thoughtful, educational posts on conservative topics a day, sometimes more. I think I'm getting through to a lot of them. It's easy to overdo it, though. I am thinking of cutting back to one a week or so.
Good point. Lets hope it stays that way. If I start seeing a strong FB like trend on FR I’m afraid I will drift away from here as well.
But you are both women, so you’re kinda not so good anecdotal evidence.
Same thing with me. Besides my kids wouldn't send me pictures of my great-grandkids in e-mail. They said you can see them all on facebook.
The venue I see is one guy pushing Ron Paul. A women posting cartoon jokes, and people inviting you to play games. Most of the people are playing the games.
I wasn’t talking about you! I go on the Tampa Bay Lightning page and there are people whose comments are impossible to understand because of the run-on sentences.
Hope you don’t mind if I disagree with you, and continue keeping in touch with my friends through Facebook.
I do enjoy silence and peace, although I have no dog and the silence is found deep in the woods where I go mountain biking, not in my living room...
My grand-daughter has a cell phone and she said there is something she can check and it says she is close to this place etc and she can put in the one she is at and it shows up on facebook. I read recently where people visit movie sites, music sites, etc and they don't read the fine print and hit accept. Well now when they do that they have given them permission to let facebook know what kind of movies you are watching (some may be watching movies they don't want their wife to know about, but facebook then can say so and so is enjoying such and such of movie.
I am a Facebook guy. I am in touch with out of state relatives I rarely see. Friends I went to school with and then lost touch. People I have worked with in the radio business.
I don’t give personal information to people I don’t trust. I don’t allow people I don’t know get access to me.
I feel like I can trust about anyone here on Free Republic. thats the big different between FR...and other sites like FB
I don’t have to worry about that too much. I went to a Christian high school. We only had one Democrat in our senior government/economics class. We tormented her mercilessly all year. :)
I’m providing information to a willing group, mostly.
Who said you had to pay attention to my opinion at all?
The original poster made reference to being at home with his dog. That's all the livingroom commment was.
Actually, you're demonstrating the mindset that makes Facebook so pointless to me. No one cares that you go out in the woods. No one cares that you keep in touch with people on Facebook when I don't. Yet you seem to think my expressing a different opinion would somehow mean I'd be offended by yours.
I don't care, and I don't care if it's on Facebook, either.
That's the point.
I wondered if there was something like that going on.
Facebook is whatever you want it to be. Too many people make such a stink like it’s so beneath them to use it. It’s the same thing they said about email and the Internet itself. Oh well.
I personally hate using the phone, do not make social visits, and cant remember birthdays for the life of me. For introverts like myself, Facebook has been a lifesaver.
I never had a FB account, and I never will. If a thousand friends tell me to get one, my answer will be still "no." I don't do Twitter, I don't do Google Buzz, I don't do Google Plus, etc. etc.
These are all machines for datamining. These services aren't provided for free; you are paying with every bit of data that you enter. Like World of Warcraft, these companies entice you to spend more and more time there, away from productive life. They want you to play stupid games, they want you to send useless announcements of irrelevant facts, they want you to read those announcements coming from others. None of that is productive; all of it is harmful. You can stay "connected" all day and accomplish nothing.
FR is sufficiently different. There is only one reason to visit the FR - to read good posts and to write a few comments; perhaps to post something truly interesting once in a while. None of these posts are "pushed" to my phone (if I had such a phone.) FR is like a bulletin board - you can walk up to it whenever you have time, read whatever you want and scribble a comment or two on margins if you have something to say. Maybe someone will reply, maybe not. It's a low profile operation.
However FB, Twitter and other time-wasters are here to stay, just like TV and radio. This is because most people are happy to waste their time on useless things - especially when those people are young, immortal and without obligations. Like MySpace, these services will be catering to children. I believe the watershed between childhood and adulthood will be the day when a person willingly deletes her "social networking" accounts and starts living real life among real people, doing real things.
I have a dog AND a FB account AND I enjoy the outdoors!
(Actually.... I created the account to rip off all the pics of the grandkids)
Sshhhh! My wife reads this site. I'm not sure she could handle the shock if she found out I'm really a woman.
Let’s just say that Facebook is for women, and men can join in if they want to, making no asseverations thereby.
To me their is value in being anonomyous or invisible. Facebook is the opposite of this.
Pooh. I used it long before DNS, let alone SLIP.
Facebook helps me remember all the girls I once had.
“its purely women that are sending me friend requests and I have no idea who they are.’
Those are hookers...
I abhor these social networking sites.
It’s like one big contest to see who can have the most “friends”
One woman told me she had 248 “friends”
I told her you have 5 or 6 friends at the most and that you haven’t seen or talked to the other 240+ since High School or the job you had 12 years ago...
You must be referring to half the posts of this forum.
Now there's a radical concept. No TV, no radio, no internet, no newspaper, no chatty neighbors. Just silence and a softly snoring dog. I'm going to try it--substituting my cat.
I feel fortunate that I avoided the Facebook trap. One of the reasons I did was because I didn't want to have to ignore friend requests from people I either don't know--or do know and wish I didn't.
No,just about some of the people on Facebook.
I look at Facebook often. My family is spread all over the country and there are new babies and other family news there every day. I have few “friends” and send out an original post less than once a week, but I feel I have gotten to know several family members better, and have reconnected with a couple of old friends from college and highschool.
I have un-friended some people whose private business I did not care to know any more. But mostly there has only been upside, as I have gotten to know the young adults in my family better, as well as some of the retirees.
One is only afraid of silence if they either need constant stimulation, or they care that others will think they don’t have enough going on in their life if they can afford the time to just sit.
I love music and DVDs and books, but silence is a luxury, and it is very energizing. Just turn out the light, and sit and don’t try to force thoughts to go this way and that, just kind of let ‘em happen. You’ll be surprised what comes along.
A variation involves music. I am a music lover, but I am like everyone else in that music is in the background while something else is going on, talking, reading, writing. Just sitting and listening—again, it is a real treat.
But the silence is like a tonic for the mind and spirit.
That’s good that you can use Facebook instead of letting it fill your time. This seems to happen with younger people in particular, in my experience.
As with all things, if you can control it instead of letting be just another thing cluttering your life, that’s great. For me, and my life and my relationships, it’s just useless.
I enjoy Facebook. Like any other place on the web, there are good things and bad things about the place. I guess much of the value is in how you choose your friends.
“Obama: The stupid person`s idea of a smart person”
Also: The stupid person’s idea of a good person.