The cure for the nags....
Posted on 01/27/2012 9:55:44 AM PST by Responsibility2nd
It's More Common Than Adultery and Potentially As Toxic, So Why Is It So Hard to Stop Nagging?
Ken Mac Dougall bit into the sandwich his wife had packed him for lunch and noticed something odd—a Post-it note tucked between the ham and the cheese. He pulled it out of his mouth, smoothed the crinkles and read what his wife had written: "Be in aisle 10 of Home Depot tonight at 6 p.m."
Mr. Mac Dougall was renovating the couple's Oak Ridge, N.J., kitchen, and his wife had been urging him to pick out the floor tiles. He felt he had plenty of time to do this task. She felt unheard.
"I thought the note was an ingenious and hysterical way to get his attention," says his wife, Janet Pfeiffer (whose occupation, interestingly enough, is a motivational speaker), recalling the incident which occurred several years ago. Her husband, a technician at a company that modifies vehicles for handicapped drivers, didn't really see it that way. "I don't need a reminder in the middle of my sandwich," he says.
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Why do we nag? "We have a perception that we won't get what we want from the other person, so we feel we need to keep asking in order to get it," says Scott Wetzler, a psychologist and vice chairman of the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at Montefiore Medical Center in New York. It is a vicious circle: The naggee tires of the badgering and starts to withhold, which makes the nagger nag more.
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I dumped my last girlfriend prior to my wife because she was a nagger.
Mom didn’t approve of that kind of relationship ;o)
But seriously, she nagged me quite a bit so I dumped her after 8 months.
—Any naggers out there? Naggees?—
I did not know they allowed the “N” word on freerepublic.
—But seriously, she nagged me quite a bit so I dumped her after 8 months.—
Did you give her back her love fern?
Nagging is like an engine. Nag, nag, nag.... bitch...bbbbbitch.
this should be an entertaining thread.......
I’ve always preferred the term “hen-pecked” - it’s so much more descriptive.
A man can die quickly from a mortal wound, or slowly from a thousand small cuts...lol
I would have taken this as a racy invitation for sex, although the location would have puzzled me....
The cure for the nags....
I can't recall where Dr. Wetzler met my wife.
As far as the Post-It Note, I'd be fixing my own damn sandwich.
Nagging is, IMO, a symptom of a deeper conflict between men and women, and why women are more prone to it than men:
Men expect their wife to remain the same as when they married her. They complain that their wife “changed”.
Women expect to mold the randy young man they marry into the responsible and respectable gentleman they want him to be. They complain that their husband does not change.
Generally, the latter leads to more “nagging”, though it can be an issue with the former in the form of “why don’t we do ‘x’ any more” or “you need to go on a diet”.
This is supposed to be a true story tho I don’t know for sure. Anyway a guy was complaining to a judge in Pensacola about his wife just chewing him out all the time.
The judge asked if she were a big nagger? The guy answered “no sir, she is just a little ol White Woman.”
I have to say if I leave a note in hubby’s lunch it is either he wanted me to remind him of something that he needed to stop and do on the way home or it was more a hurry home I’ve got plans......;)
A nagger in recovery, I guess. You could ask my husband. ;)
Another name for liberals....
Dr. Laura’s “The proper care and feeding of husbands” is muchore effective.
Give him all the sex he wants and he will remember to do stuff on his own.
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Having said that my husband and I are both perfectionists, hard workers, and like a clean, organized life and house.
So he nags me. lol. As I am the let it roll off the back type person and in the moment hard worker around the house. He is a daily task guy around the house. I am more spontaneous but kick butt when I do my work. Thus he is often frustrated and naggy.
It takes two types of people to make a relationship though and sometimes I really appreciate his reminders because I am often distracted and space out and put off chores. In the end I really appreciate him. Between the two of us we enjoy life together, get to be ourselves, but also accomplish a lot. That is because we both bring out different philosophies and behaviors to the relationship. It balances itself out.
2 hard and fast rules.
1. A man marries a woman thinking she’ll never change. But she does.
2. A woman marries a man thinking he’ll change. But he doesn’t.
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