Posted on 06/21/2012 8:53:09 AM PDT by trailhkr1
From the articleStop searching for Mr. Right and look around at all the Mr Right(s).
Like the “Gaggle," these three men can fulfill different needs - maybe you like to see movies with one, travel with another and cuddle with a third - which removes the burden of one man to fill all those slots. (Bwahhhaaa this would go over real well)
That’s the premise of "The Gaggle," a new book from Jessica Massa, who, along with Rebecca Wiegand, runs the website “WTF Is Up With My Love Life?!”
According to Massa and Wiegand, every woman - single or not - should have her own gaggle, a group of guys that occupy different roles in her life.
“You probably have a gaggle of friends, who all play different roles and fulfill different needs for you,” explains Massa. “You might call one friend to go shopping versus another friend when you’re upset versus another friend when you need a serious professional opinion. Your romantic gaggle is just another piece of the much larger, long-term puzzle of how you structure the relationships in your life to feel full, happy and loved.”
The men in this gaggle can include anyone from the barista you flirt with, to the ex-boyfriend you Skype, to the work buddy you commiserate with over lunch. Whether you end up dating one or more of them is just an added bonus.
“As a woman, having a gaggle provides you with a love life full of possibility: you have many men in your life, in many ambiguous but enriching ways, who are all teaching you about yourself and your needs and desires and leading you closer to the guy and relationship you want,” say Massa and Wiegand.
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Yeah, I used to be the guy women called to help them move. Or if they needed money. I’m not that easy any more.
My wife was my friend first as well. You can have female acquaintances when you're married. You can have female friends when you're single and looking.
When married, I cannot have a close intimate friendship with a woman, without thinking it will risk my marriage. That's just me, your mileage may vary.
When single, I would not have a close friendship with a girl if I did not think it might eventually lead to a relationship. Having a visible female friend tends to chase away potential girlfriends, because they think you're "taken".
Unfortunately, that is not the way the critter is designed. A woman trying to have a “gaggle” of men is likely end up hurt, dead, or, if lucky, abandoned for a better deal from a different woman.
If she wants someone to help support and raise her offspring, she better settle for one. Or maybe the b!tch thinks that is what the Federal Government is for? Or the divorce settlement?
Feminists like this one have ruined a lot of American women.
It's called "being used". The same women who would be upset at the idea of a guy just wanting them for sex, may not see anything wrong with keeping a guy around because he does them favors when needed.
Oh if I was unattached, I'd make a move in heartbeat, no question about that at all. However, not just because she's physically attractive, but because she's attractive in all the other ways as well.
Now, at 48, I am a lot older than you are. The idea of bedding a hottie that is physically attractive, but otherwise not attractive or even neutral probably has a lot more appeal to you than it does for me. My days of promiscuity and casual sex would be decades behind me even if I weren't married. Even if I were single, I wouldn't jump into bed with a woman without long term potential no matter how hot she was. Ever honest, I'll admit that in my early to mid 20's (married at 27) my requirements to jump in bed were that she couldn't by physically repulsive, and she had to say yes in English. High standards there.
I did something really stoooopid when I was 20..was a fitness trainer at a local gym while going to Uni. Had a 7 month affair with a married woman ( I was single) who was a client..long story short I was fired and her marriage broke up over it (her friend she confided in told her husband...) Feel very guilty about it to this day...6 years later.
My gf and I met because she lived next door to me and we started going to the gym every day. Both of us just started crushing on each other but both of us were single...I could never cheat on her as I now realize the pain it caused when someone else cheated and love her way too much anyway. Guess something good came out of a bad situation.
So I know my mileage and don't become very good friends with attached females...double backup
Men who sleep around are AWFUL.
Women who sleep around are advanced.
Any questions?
My first love didn't work out, largely because I was 17 and she was 19, but we remain life-long friends. In my early 20's she was the best wing-girl a man could ever ask for. Nothing short of being a billionaire can add more to a young mans success with other women, than a super hot girl who's on active duty as your co-pilot. If you think a visible female friend was scaring them off, she wasn't doing it right.
MTB?
Motor Torpedo Boat?
that picture leaves me speechless.
Lol, mountain bike. And yes, I've met GW at the trailhead.
“You probably have a gaggle of friends, who all play different roles and fulfill different needs for you,” explains Massa. “You might call one friend to go shopping versus another friend when you’re upset versus another friend when you need a serious professional opinion. Your romantic gaggle is just another piece of the much larger, long-term puzzle of how you structure the relationships in your life to feel full, happy and loved.”
News to me.
IOW
Feminist endorses paternity fraud.
After investigating this book further, it’s not so bad. It’s a new word for playing the field until you find Mr. Right. It’s couched in sensationalism to make headlines and sell books, but down to its core, it’s not unlike the advice that I gave to my children and step-children.
Jessica Massa...Rebecca Wiegand
Binged-up some images and there is a reason wymyn such as these advocate for “polypartners”.
I’d love to see their response to, “I see you are of the same philosophy in relationships as Ayn Rand!”
Sandra Fluke is living proof that this works . . . if you only associate with metrosexual and homosexual men. It’s a sad life for the children, if any, even if one of the gaggle-men sticks around to attempt to be a father.
What sort of beta man would go for this arrangement!!
Mark.
Good point. Adult women is the best way to put it.
What sort of beta man would go for this arrangement!!
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K_uRIMUBnvw
They’re out, they’re proud, they’re beta!
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