That being the case, you might truly benefit by some classes in how to communicate more effectively. They helped me enormously to communicate with my spouse, my customers and my offspring. I learned ways to solve problems instead of laying blame, listen without commenting hurtfully, avoid unnecessary nitpicking, stay limited and focused on the current problem instead of throwing in the kitchen sink, and so much more.
Some of the courses I took were titled "Assertiveness Training", "Developing Emotional Intelligence, "How to Get Along with Difficult People", and "Parent Effectiveness Training."
Cannot stress enough how much they helped.
No, we’re fine.
Maybe your comment will benefit someone else (quite possible).
I have Schizoid Personality Disorder and it is not considered amenable to change, even in intense psychotherapy, nor in the employ of psychopharmacology, nor do we (schizoids) desire change or feel discontent with the situation. This is called “schizoid unconcern”.
Have a Happy New Year!
P.S. Wife is not unhappy and we love each other. Neither of us would choose anyone else or split up. We have six grandkids (hers) over here now.