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20 Things Boys Can Do to Become Men
Esquire.com via Yahoo.com ^ | 27SEP2013 | Kareem Abdul-Jabbar

Posted on 10/22/2013 6:42:37 AM PDT by Jack Hydrazine

Why should a young man listen to an old guy about the best way to become a man? Because the typical teen is not yet able to see a future past the next few months. That's not a fault of character, but the fact that teens' brains have not yet physically matured. The pre-fontal cortex (PFC) does not fully develop in most people until they're twenty-four years old. Yet, the PFC is responsible for regulating mood, attention span, impulse control, and the ability to plan ahead and understand the consequences of one's actions. In the meantime, it's up to the adults to guide them by showing them possible consequences-good and bad-of their behavior. With that in mind, here's my guide to becoming a man: 1. Learn who you are as an individual.

Figuring out who you are, what you care about, what you believe in, and what you stand for is the most important-and most difficult-challenge of becoming a man. We're all raised with people telling us what to think, how to act, and what to say. Sometimes those people are parents, teachers, ministers, and other so-called authorities.

(Excerpt) Read more at shine.yahoo.com ...


TOPICS: Education; Society
KEYWORDS: adulthood; boys; men; reality
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To: Jack Hydrazine

Credibility.


21 posted on 10/22/2013 7:38:17 AM PDT by freekitty (Give me back my conservative vote; then find me a real conservative to vote for)
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To: central_va

sounds like George Washington


22 posted on 10/22/2013 7:38:51 AM PDT by huldah1776
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To: Jack Hydrazine

Stay away from soy then you won’t need to kill exotic animals or eat weird stuff to make up for the estrogen effects.


23 posted on 10/22/2013 7:40:02 AM PDT by huldah1776
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To: freekitty

Of?


24 posted on 10/22/2013 7:40:12 AM PDT by Jack Hydrazine (IÂ’m not a Republican, I'm a Conservative! Pubbies haven't been conservative since before T.R.)
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To: huldah1776

I avoid soy like the plague!


25 posted on 10/22/2013 7:40:52 AM PDT by Jack Hydrazine (IÂ’m not a Republican, I'm a Conservative! Pubbies haven't been conservative since before T.R.)
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To: Jack Hydrazine

1. Stop being a limp wristed liberal and not register as a Democrat.


26 posted on 10/22/2013 7:41:28 AM PDT by CodeToad (Liberals are bloodsucking ticks. We need to light the matchstick to burn them off. -786 +969)
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To: Dr. Sivana

lol...completly forgettable. But I don’t speak jive.


27 posted on 10/22/2013 7:55:28 AM PDT by mad_as_he$$
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To: Jack Hydrazine

They missed ONE. Hint: It involves a Female!


28 posted on 10/22/2013 8:00:28 AM PDT by TNoldman (AN AMERICAN FOR A MUSLIM/BHO FREE AMERICA.)
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To: Jack Hydrazine

What he said about brain maturity is critical for boys (and girls) to lead healthy lives. Before brain maturity, any addictive chemicals can actually rewire the brain to make addiction to that chemical more likely, *and* to make addiction to *other* addictive chemicals more likely, *and* to make it harder for them to quit addictions for the rest of their lives.

The health consequences to many addictive substances can have long term drawbacks, strongly reduce quality of life, and significantly shorten lifespan.

Add to this another major problem of brain immaturity, which is sociopathy.

To function, people need some degree of psychopathia, that is, the ability to *not* care or feel empathy when they shouldn’t. But it is a gray scale. Too much of it makes a person a psychopath. But still it is how their brain is wired, be it from birth or as the result of brain injury.

A sociopath is a person who is not a psychopath, but is conditioned and trained to not care or feel empathy to others, or a select group of others, such as with real racism or sexism, politics or whatever.

A person can only be trained to be a sociopath before their brain has matured; and importantly, if they have been trained to be a sociopath, that training must be broken before their brain has matured, or for the rest of their life they will likely remain a sociopath.

Critically, the younger a person is, the more flexible their brain is. As they get closer to maturity, it becomes much harder to condition and train their minds.

The apex of late childhood conditioning is found with military basic training. It is not easy, but drill instructors have learned that lots of bad habits and conditioning must first be eliminated before recruits can be retrained to become disciplined adults.

Importantly, the process of maturation also includes a “safety” that most of us are familiar with. It is typical for middle-teenagers to go through a period of rejection and revolt against their conditioning and training. This is essential to survival because it presents an opportunity for them to break out of a self-destructive family patterns, or at least to critically examine them by resisting them.

Recognition and reward for increasing maturity is very important for both boys and girls. It creates a clear dividing line between immature and mature behavior, and the idea that with maturity comes authority and responsibility. To embrace this it helps to have a mind uncluttered with addictions and sociopathy, instead some degree of empathy, clarity, judgment, reason and self control.


29 posted on 10/22/2013 8:04:27 AM PDT by yefragetuwrabrumuy (Welfare is the new euphemism for Eugenics.)
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To: Vigilanteman
Kipling was one of the greatest poets of all time. My father, grandfather and uncle recited him to me constantly.
That's (very :) fine advice; unfortunately, many politicians of our time...
can't use their brain..only their collective "Egos"to the destruction of our society.

30 posted on 10/22/2013 8:11:00 AM PDT by skinkinthegrass (who'll take tomorrow,$pend it all today;who can take your income & tax it all away..0'Blowfly can :-)
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To: Vigilanteman

My brain shuts down for good food, if I followed that advise I would starve to death :)


31 posted on 10/22/2013 8:14:18 AM PDT by Resolute Conservative
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To: central_va
"I must not fear...I will face my fear....Only I will remain."
...
hmmm....the movie, "DUNE"

32 posted on 10/22/2013 8:23:31 AM PDT by skinkinthegrass (who'll take tomorrow,$pend it all today;who can take your income & tax it all away..0'Blowfly can :-)
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To: Jack Hydrazine

Why is this guy still a muslim? I saw him not long ago on TCM describing to the host why he liked certain movies. His tastes and reasons were derived solely from American thinking and insight. Now he writes this.

Something does not compute.


33 posted on 10/22/2013 8:29:16 AM PDT by onedoug
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To: onedoug

I have no idea.


34 posted on 10/22/2013 8:30:34 AM PDT by Jack Hydrazine (IÂ’m not a Republican, I'm a Conservative! Pubbies haven't been conservative since before T.R.)
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To: skinkinthegrass

Doesn’t anyone read anymore?


35 posted on 10/22/2013 8:32:36 AM PDT by central_va (I won't be reconstructed and I do not give a damn.)
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To: Jack Hydrazine

I’m in decent shape. Not as good as I’d like but working on it.

As far as not doing anything on a dare; life is a dare and if some other punk can do it so can I.

If it hasn’t been done why not be the first.

Great list though.


36 posted on 10/22/2013 8:36:18 AM PDT by Vendome (Don't take life so seriously-you won't live through it anyway-Enjoy Yourself ala Louis Prima)
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To: central_va

Beat me to it. Kinda says it all.


37 posted on 10/22/2013 8:39:39 AM PDT by TADSLOS (The Event Horizon has come and gone. Buckle up and hang on.)
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To: Vigilanteman

Great post.


38 posted on 10/22/2013 8:40:01 AM PDT by Nea Wood (When life gets too hard to stand, kneel.)
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To: central_va

LOL!!!

That is from the book “Ode to Barack”.

I bought a copy for a friend had just spent $35,000 to see Obama at Melanie Griffith and Antonio Banderas house.

I actually reworded that exact tome you posted with our modern Obama as the character and read it to her.

It is now framed and sets next to the book in her library.


39 posted on 10/22/2013 8:41:06 AM PDT by Vendome (Don't take life so seriously-you won't live through it anyway-Enjoy Yourself ala Louis Prima)
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To: Jack Hydrazine

There are 31 chapeters in Proverbs.

Read one chapter a day.

Every day.

For years.

Then you will not become a mocker or a fool.

I’m trying to learn that now. I’ve been trying to get my son to learn it while he’s still a teen.


40 posted on 10/22/2013 8:46:55 AM PDT by Pan_Yan
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