Already being done.
Posted on 05/29/2014 7:34:13 AM PDT by Morgana
MELBOURNE, Australia, May 27, 2014 (LifeSiteNews.com) – What happens when a good Catholic girl marries the man of her dreams, and then he tells her he thinks he's a woman?
It yields heartbreak and a lifetime of emotionally stunted relationships, according to an autobiographical essay in Sunday's Sydney Morning Herald that asks society to consider “the other side” of the transgender debate.
The woman, whose name has been withheld, was 18 years-old when she met “Ryan,” a musician who slowly worked his way into her heart. His sense of humor made the self-described “good Catholic girl” fall for the young man, who was trying to get ahead in the 1980s Australian music scene.
When he asked her to move to Melbourne with her, she had second thoughts. “I did not want to 'live in sin,'” she wrote. So, he asked for her hand in marriage.
Although she believed their life was idyllic, he became sullen and withdrawn. Soon, he left her a letter saying he believed he was a woman trapped inside a man's body.
“That night there was no talk of us breaking up,” she said. “His attitude was, 'I love you and I am going to become a woman and keep on loving you.'”
“My attitude was, 'Become a woman or a werewolf, but just don't leave me,'” she said.
“I think Ryan really believed everything would continue as it was when he became female,” she said. But she was shocked one day when she returned home and saw him watching television while wearing her clothing.
“I spent a long time wondering if you really love someone, does it matter what gender they are?” she said. “I couldn't come up with any answers other than, yes, it did.”
Despite their efforts to maintain a healthy marriage, Ryan's drive for self-actualization and fulfillment killed their relationship and left the woman heartbroken.
He moved out and had a breast implant surgery – phoning his wife to ask if she could bring him size 16 Playtex Cross-Your-Heart bra.
“The divorce was mutual by the time it was finalized in 1990. Ryan was so consumed by his change that our marriage had become secondary,” she wrote.
She said her ex-husband “moved on pretty fast, meeting another male-to-female transsexual at his transgender meetings. I was overseas when his new partner called to say Ryan's penis had been successfully removed.”
She said she went numb before responding that her ex-husband's new lover must believe that was “good news.” But it closed what had been the happiest chapter of her life. “The man I had loved was gone.”
The heart-wrenching end of her marriage left her emotionally scarred and unable to commit herself to another person. “I've had relationships, most of them brief, and haven't allowed myself to fall in love again,” she said.
“I don't regret my marriage, as it gave me great joy for many years, and I certainly don't blame Ryan or myself for what happened. But I do regret the repercussions" of his decision to alter his anatomy, she added.
Her story, the rare tale of how a transgender person's transition harms those close to them and who love them the most, was offered to broaden the debate over the practice, which is more widely accepted in culturally liberal Australia.
"Most transgender stories are told from the perspective of the person who changes, not their partner's or family's,” she wrote. “I think it is important to have the other side told, as the effects are far-reaching for all concerned."
He didn’t become a woman.
He had his parts chopped off and took hormones and tried to mimic female mannerisms.
It is still a man. Mutilated man.
These people are insane.
Hater! You need sensitivity re-education. Tolerance and diversity require that we give those people taxpayer-funded amputations.
OHHHHhhhhhhh...
Don't you just hate it when that happens!
Actually, that part is the saving grace of this article (and the larger situation as well): it’s not just about the person doing whatever “fulfills” or “validates” them, but about the emotional wreckage that fulfillment/validation visits on others as well.
We all know that mainstream advocacy of pedophillia is coming. The ONLY way to successfully stand against it is by making the same argument this woman makes: that one persons “fulfillment/validation” can and, in the case of pedophillia WILL emotionally destroy others that get caught up in it.
Already being done.
not to leave out DU’s own “Underground Panther” who determined she was really a male cat and starting getting those kind of treatments....
well, I can imagine it’s a shock to a woman, to learn her husband wants to be a girl. geez............
A steer is not a cow, it is a castrated bull.
City folks make life more complicated than it really is.
Well I’m a lesbian trapped in a . . . crap, that’s an old joke. Never mind.
Say what? You mean Spock ears and vampire fangs and such? PLEASE tell me that’s all you mean! The day I see a six foot rabbit hopping by I’m calling my Cajun relatives to shoot it. Betcha it won’t taste like rabbit!
OY OY!! I didn’t need to see that pic in the morning. Now I need some vodka!
The Church has been known to give annulments to people who have been married for years and had children, i.e. Ted Kennedy had the marriage to his first wife annulled.
Some tribunals are known as annulment factories and the standards are lax and corrupt.
But this woman really, really deserved an annulment.
Annulments are dumb, you cannot pretend you were never married
“He moved out and had a breast implant surgery – phoning his wife to ask if she could bring him size 16 Playtex Cross-Your-Heart bra.”
Kids, THAT’S what you call “tragicomedy”, lol!
Yep, I love the way the left always makes something oookey sound so wonderful. I'm glad that this person had the strength to give the other side of this type of behavior. That it is not just about "it's" "self-actualization & fulfillment".
You are right. You’d think going from male to female parts-wanting to BE a woman-heshe would want a MALE lover.It seems to me, with a wife, he already HAD a female, so why end up with a freakmale( there I’ve coined a new definition for them!) after surgery? The basic problem with these self-mutilators is that they hate what they were born, and they hate the opposite sex too.IF you get past the superficial in-your-face-flamingness, they are self-centered and ANGRY!
NONE of them are happy. They can’t be. Subconsciously they KNOW how they think is wrong and they see every aspect of life through that distorted filter.
I’ve known too many drag queens from my years running a shop in the French Quarter. They dress up as female, and want to be treated as one, but there is a deep, underlying hatred of natural women. Going all the way to self-mutilation is destroying ‘maleness’ AND insulting normal ‘femaleness’. They want to be both-or neither-some kind of hybrid third-sex. They look female, but think male and they want acceptance as a mutable creature that is a new sex.Transgender/mutilation is the outward manifestation of a mind that is so aberrant that nothing can make it happy.
LOL annulment?
It’s a Catholic thing - it says the marriage was NEVER valid. If the marriage was never consummated and could not be consummated; if it was made by people who could not marry by reasons of family relationship, knowingly or unknowingly; if it was entered into under duress or by fraud...long list.
It’s a common American corruption of the annulment process to say that the participants were too immature to make a valid marriage, even after thirty years and four children. One of the divorced Kennedy wives Sheila Rauch, wife of Joe P. refused to take her payoff and quietly co-operate - she actually won an appeal to the Vatican years after the American tribunal granted Joe P his annulment.
The process can be so corrupt, that for all I know, Ted Kennedy offered his early and serial infidelities as proof that he was too immature to have made a valid marriage to Joan and did not understand it then, but he was all grown up for Victoria. Money talks of course.
Killer Croc from DC/Batman is that you?
yeah. I lead a boring life, and am thankful for it.
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