Posted on 07/22/2014 1:48:55 PM PDT by Olog-hai
Nine out of 10 parents admit that spanking their children is sometimes appropriate. This week, a New York court ruled in favor of a father charged with child abuse, saying that it was a “reasonable use of force.”
On Fox and Friends this morning, psychiatrist Dr. Keith Ablow said it’s “never a good idea” to spank kids.
“The bottom line is it’s always the end of the discussion—hitting your kids. It’s never the beginning of a discussion. It teaches them nothing,” he said.
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But what gays do with behinds is okay.
Depends on whether both sex partners are into it I suppose.
Swat on the bottom to get the kid’s attention at any age, even gently under two if the child is about to do something like run in the street or bite an electrical cord or bite another child. It punctuates the “no.” Having said that, Mr. Mercat and I bought and read a book on spanking before we actually used it in any sort of premeditated way. It wasn’t especially effective. I was spanked one time and I deserved it. My mother was the one who had to do it and she cried the whole time. It didn’t hurt. It was more the humiliation. I had tried to make my older brother fall the day he returned from being in the hospital for a week with a compound fracture. LOL. I need to apologize to him again some day.
Thing is using any thing other than your hand is amplifying the hitting power of the adult; secondly the size of an adult hand is so much larger than the butt of a child. The force could do internal damage (has been documented)plus the welt on the child’s bottom often leads to some serious bruising. Most times it’s about frustration on the part of the parent when the child keeps acting out as in public. Only time I ever got smacked was when I disrespected my dad once, just once.. And nope, I’m not a mom ....
And if there are no "stop signs" then “kids” will establish their own "laws."
As long as they were healthy treats so Moochelle doesn’t call your dog fat.
The phrase, “Just Wait Till Your Father Gets Home!” would let you know has serious the trouble.
Absolute unadulterated horse puckey.
I spanked my daughter exactly once. It was never needed after that. My divorced ex-wife spanked her regularly. To no end except exercise for her arm.
The difference ? When I did it, it hurt. No damage, no bruises, but the message was very clear. Discipline problems were simply non-existent.
There’s spanking and then there’s beating. A little spanking once in awhile with an open hand gets a kids attention. I would say that from personal experience it teaches you to listen to what Mom and Dad tell you. Nothing like a couple of quick swats to get rid of the cobwebs. :-)
Yes, my parents seldom spanked me but I KNEW they would, so the threat convinced me that there were consequences for bad behavior. “ Spare the rod and spoil the child” is ever so true.
A good parent learns it is important to establish boundaries for the safety of the child and for their own sense of security. Parents have many tools including verbal and physical methods of supplying consequences to children to enforce the boundaries.
Most parents want to avoid physical consequences and resort to them as a last resort. The ability to avoid physical consequence is related to the skills, imagination and the natural disposition of the child. The most skillful parents plan in advance for environment changes and the child’s maturity.
When its necessary, its necessary but it means the parent ought to review the situation to avoid having to use physical punishment.
That said, a swat on a diapered childs bottom is not abuse by any stretch.
Rosie only got “healthy” treats; One company who makes a product called “Beggar Biscuits and something called “horse cookies” which is a molasses/dried apple/oats - it’s hard and a good teeth cleaner. As for regular food only lamb and rice based called Nutra-Nuggets, has other stuff for health in it.
Aside from the obvious pun on "bottom" line, this is pure po-mo psych feces. Yes, it's the "end of the discussion." Some discussions should never start, and the sooner they're ended, the better. I don't have to "discuss" anything with my children; they're not my peers or my equals. I'm their parent. Period.
And it most definitely teaches them something. Specifically, it teaches them that when Dad says "Sit down and shut up!" they had better sit down and shut up or force will prevail. And if that teaches them to respect force, then so be it. As they get older, they can (respectfully) disagree and voice their side of the debate. But until then, I will not argue with a 5-year-old.
And I will punctuate that principle with a swat on the butt when necessary.
My parents never spanked us, beat the crap out of us, Hell yeah.
Well, at least the late mayor of Elizabeth NJ, James T. Kirk, can’t be blamed directly in the same capacity.
This is the essence of liberalism - no one is responsible. Shrinks know undisciplined kids grow up to need psychiatric care. In my liberal town, there are no vacancies for counseling, they are all booked up.
This is the essence of liberalism - no one is responsible. Shrinks know undisciplined kids grow up to need psychiatric care. In my liberal town, there are no vacancies for counseling, they are all booked up.
I agree. Children under two don't always listen to explanations. They will run right into traffic. So, sometimes a stern expression and a quick swat on the diaper followed with "NO!" is necessary to keep a child from running into the street or running away at the store. Otherwise, I never believed in spanking.
OTOH, there are parents who won't lay a finger on their children. They just let their kids bully other kids, backtalk other parents, etc. You know, sometimes it's necessary to pull one's child off another child, or get in the middle of a fight to break it up, or take one's child by the arm and yell to make him stop doing something bad, or forcibly make him go to the corner when he's done something wrong, etc. But, some parents won't touch their kids at all.
Doesn’t do much for a strong-willed child. Me? All you had to do was look at me mean.
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