Posted on 09/30/2017 12:49:02 PM PDT by BJ1
But slowly, over the course of six years, our physical relationship dwindled to nothing. I buried it because I had no idea how to talk about it, let alone fix it. Those years were pre-internet and pre-social media; I couldn’t simply tap my problem into Google and find answers.
It’s agonising to be in a relationship full of love and lacking in sex. It’s a tragedy, in fact, or it was for me. And a sexless relationship carries a lot of shame. Just as having too much sex is taboo, so is having none.
I kept quiet. Instead, my repressed sexuality took on a life of its own, and I dreamed of sexy trysts with other men, and, being a writer, these dreams went down on paper in the form of a novel, The Tryst, published later this week.
Of course, we split up, eventually. When a couple isn’t having sex, especially a younger couple, the frustrated energy has to go somewhere. It usually ends up going outside the relationship, and it did.
He had an affair — galling, given our situation — and that was the end of things. I was 41. I ran away and regrouped. What followed was a decade of sexual seeking and exploration, a campaign of self-education.
My mission was never again to fall into this no-sex relationship trap. What had happened and why? I was determined to find out. I allowed myself to be a guinea pig, and took many bold and courageous leaps. In doing so I tried everything, and today, aged 52, I’m much more sexually confident.
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I wish.
I deliberately waited for years before buying a color TV in the hopes that my wife would get tired of sitting slack-jawed on the couch watching TV. It didn’t work. The whole twelve years we were married, I don’t think she ever picked up a book.
“Marriage about more than sex”
Sorry about your plight. I share your pain...seriously.
laughing bout your friends!
“Marriage about more than sex”
PS
Keep telling yourself that over and over again when you take a cold shower.
She’s not alone.
Marry nice and successful but casper milquetoast type guys. Eventually, the light bulbs go off in their heads.
In my experience, they say they want successful milquetoasts, but what they date is more like an Anglo version of the Frito Bandito.
If you make the charts, the girls will tear you apart.
I don’t know how well her career is going,
but a couple of weeks ago, I saw her sitting
front row in the audience of Judge Judy.
Those folks are extras who get paid a small
bit to do the show. Can’t believe it got
much for her.
“Maybe it’s her. Maybe she emasculated her husband.”
Maybe he was a metro type twit to begin with. Who knows.
Used to be the Fonzie types.
lol
U be silly!
Good for you, although I can hear the gaggle of pearl-clutchers gasping all over the forum.
Girl, you better put a ring on that one, or someone else will.
Did you know this before you married her?
When you’re not married, you don’t do
a whole lot of book reading together,
so no, there was no indication.
Thanks FR friend!
Leftist feminism ruins everything. Praise be to God my wife is more interested in enjoying being a woman.
All cats are grey in the dark.
Got ya.
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