Posted on 07/03/2018 9:33:35 AM PDT by yesthatjallen
In a study women preferred men who were chivalrous or protective
Those men were rated more attractive then those who treated women as equals
Scientists say it may be hard-wired to prefer a mate who is willing to provide
Even staunch feminists showed the same pattern of attraction
(Excerpt) Read more at dailymail.co.uk ...
Excellent song.
The others are attractive as a provider/wallet.
If a woman's high net worth far exceeds that of almost all men she meets, what do you think she finds attractive in a man?
Yes, we both have to deal with each other’s insecurities and contradictions!
It is so wonderful, how complex we are. I see this in my life like we all do, how it’s different working with other women than with men, or even how some people connect with you and work well, and some are so in it for themselves they can’t see past their own noses. But I also see this in kindergarteners, how even today, boys and girls play differently. My daughter is so girly, yet she loves the simple straightforwardness of the boys. She will play with either but she loves those boys! Like mother like daughter.
Over the course of my life, I have found that the type of women that men are often attracted to (like proverbial moths to a flame!) are not women who try to attract men, but women who seem to just, well...like men.
I don't go to parties much any more, but I recall back in the day, you would see a woman with a bunch of guys hanging around her, and she might not have been the most physically attractive or permissive woman (there are women like that who ALWAYS attract guys) but in watching the dynamic, I often noticed there was always a general look of mutual enjoyment.
My wife would joke it was like a bunch of male dogs, but...it didn't seem to be that way to me, and being a guy, I always thought I would know the difference. In these cases, the woman seemed to genuinely like the company of guys, she wasn't acting a certain way to attract them...there was something organic and natural about it. It seemed less overtly sexual, and more...well...friendly.
I did notice too, that on occasion, there was a degree of cattiness about the woman from other women, but I always felt that most women seemed to see it the same way. "She's one of those girls who likes hanging around with guys..."
Same stuff, just higher values.
DOESNT MATTER WHAT SHE HAS, women always choose up.
Just how much money did you pay for this ‘study’, Laz???
Smiling ruefully. It’s kind of like the early Taylor Swift song “You Belong With Me,” about the high school boy trying to date the hot cheerleader while he spends all his time hanging with this sneaker-wearing fun girl (Taylor). She gets his humor, likes his music, etc. But he is too young to get it.
I kind of identify with that girl. I genuinely like guys too. I have been shocked as an adult how mean some of my friends are to their husbands. Getting angry at them doing what they love, like golfing all day on a weekend? Refusing them sex because xyz? Not something I understand.
A growing social problem is the subset of men who are hard-wired to offer those assurances when they can’t or just don’t want to deliver.
Hubby opened my car door for me, and some woman in the parking lot commented on how unusual that was, and how lucky I am to have him. He responded, “Do you know how long it took me to train her to sit there and wait for me?” Now, I’m so spoiled, I just walk up to doors and stare at them like they should just magically open. He’s a definite keeper!
Little Girl Puts Gaston In His Place: Disney World 2014
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Bdyzc5sdQo
A few women don’t get it, but most do.
I guess YMMV. I’m in the category I asked you about, so can speak from personal experience.
I go out of my way when meeting new men to not indicate my financial status until I know them at least a bit (yes, gold diggers exist among men too). The financial status of men I find attractive is irrelevant, unless indicative of poor character, as in chronically unemployed or lacking motivation.
So-called “bad boys” are boring beyond belief in all respects, at least in my experience and that of most of the women I associate with.
“If a woman’s high net worth far exceeds that of almost all men she meets, what do you think she finds attractive in a man?”
Let me call Taylor Swift and ask her.
I’m with you.
He’s right now out on a paving job in 100+ heat working from before dawn until after sunset. He’ll do this six days a week...sometimes seven...and then when he comes home there’s no end of things for him to do on the ranch.
And he still finds time for all of our kids.
And some idiot women would criticize him for it.
You got a great one. I bet he so appreciates you when he hears his friends at work complain about their wives.
They are attracted to assertiveness and selfishness. That can manifest in a civil way, but more often in a bad way.
Years in the ministry watching “Good Girls” and “Bad Boys” compelled me to acknowledge how truly fallen both sexes are.
Yes. I am sometimes distressed to see the way couples treat each other.
My wife and I have it good.
We treat each other with respect, give each other space, and when I am being irritable, irrational dolt, she knows she just needs to leave me alone and let me work out what a jackass I am on my own. And she doesn’t hold it against me.
We’re lucky.
I totally agree.
Thanks for the ping.
I’ll read later.
And think about it.
I think decent men are the best.
Not sure about the sexist part at this point.
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