Posted on 05/27/2023 5:38:43 AM PDT by Diana in Wisconsin
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How to Create a Memorial Garden
If you’re dealing with the loss of a loved one, planting a memorial garden can be a helpful outlet for your grief. Not only does the act of gardening provide a sense of ease, but the finished result will give you a peaceful place to retreat to remember your lost loved one.
The therapeutic benefits of gardening have long been documented, as have the positive effects of nature on your well-being. According to the American Horticultural Therapy Association, plants and gardening can aid in physical, mental and emotional healing. Additional research has shown that people who tend to plants are more compassionate and empathic—including to yourself during the grieving process.
When it comes to designing and planning a memorial garden, there are no hard and fast rules. They are deeply personal places and unique to each individual. The most important part of planting a memorial garden is to make sure it’s meaningful to you. Here are a few tips to get you started.
Find a private area.
A memorial garden can be as small as a single tree or as large as an oversized garden. Its size will depend on how much space you have to work with. If possible, plant yours in a quiet, private area where you’ll be able to find peace and solitude.
Honor your loved one with their favorite plants.
Consider your lost loved one’s favorite plants and flowers. Were they more of a peony, poppy or petunia person? Did they always have a vase of fresh lilies or hydrangeas in their home? Do you associate certain scents or flavors—such as rose or lavender—with them? What was their favorite color? Did they love eating peppers and tomatoes? If so, consider planting a small vegetable garden plot as a tribute.
If their favorite season was fall, ponder plants like sunflowers, marigolds or chrysanthemums that will be in bloom during that time. If you’re honoring a war hero or veteran, you might include plants and flowers with red, white and/or blue hues.
Remember: Before putting any trees, shrubs, flowers or vegetables into the ground, make sure you assess the area’s sunlight. Some plants are sun lovers and some are shade lovers. Plant accordingly.
Research the specific meanings of plants.
Certain plants hold symbolic meanings. If you’re remembering a lost partner, you might plant sweetheart roses. Yellow tulips are for friendship. Red poppies represent eternal sleep. Forget-me-not flowers can, of course, represent remembrance, as can rosemary. An oak tree embodies strength, and it could represent someone who was the head of the family. Cacti suggest protection and endurance. Aloe symbolizes grief. Peace lilies offer peace and sympathy for those who have been through a recent loss.
Add appropriate statues and/or decor.
Incorporate pieces that remind you of things they loved. If memorializing someone who loved dogs, why not include a small dog statue? If they enjoyed watching birds, find space for a birdbath or bird feeder that will attract them. Did they love music? Perhaps a wind chime will remind you of them. Spruce the area up with solar lights or lanterns to make it a comforting place even in the evening. Engraved rocks are also an option, and are long-lasting. The more you can personalize the garden, the closer you’ll feel to your lost loved one.
Include some place to sit.
The main point of a memorial garden is to serve as a place where you can go to remember someone. You’ll want to do that comfortably. Add a cozy chair where you can sit or even a bench engraved with their name or favorite phrase.
If possible, incorporate water.
The sound of trickling water is a natural soother. Installing a pond or fountain will make your memorial garden even more tranquil.
https://modernfarmer.com/2021/04/how-to-create-a-memorial-garden/
I've made lots of progress on my sub - irrigated planter. Today I'm working out the water level and rain barrel plumbing.
Happy Memorial Day everyone!
time to get those ‘maters in
Memorial Day is that holiday that should be observed, not celebrated.
Some of us are fortunate that we are not the object of this remembrance. Too many of our Brothers and Sisters gave that last full measure and we remember them this weekend, and thank them in our hearts.
I like growing plants bearing loved one’s names. The lily ‘Forever Susan’ for example. Magnolia ‘Elizabeth.’
Over time, some plants become memorials.
Twice I tried to plant a southern magnolia for a memorial garden. Both times velvet antlered deer took it for an enemy and a scratching post, splintered it beyond saving.
Free garden tours for poachers, you can camp in the backyard.
Amen
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Photo of Bald Eagle on Veteran Maurice Ruch's Grave Marker
Got my maters in a few days ago.
Need to get the beans in today, ready or not. They’re sowed in Jiffy pots but evidently we have a new resident who likes to snack on a bean or two every day and I can’t seem to find the mouse traps.
I’m just going to plant the Jiffy pots out and let them sprout outside and will put collars around them. Most of the Asparagus Beans already sprouted.
I have acid soil here so I’m going to add some wood stove ash for them.
Soon after we moved into our current home, we realized we could see the neighbor’s driveway readily from our sunroom. He worked in his garage frequently and there were always tools and such laying around. Looking out those windows is otherwise peaceful, so when one of the big trees fell over after a storm, we decided we should redesign the area.
We planted several arborvitae to screen the driveway view, and then added hydrangea, two redbud trees, and all sorts of perennials. Added a lovely white wrought iron bench that we found at an antique place and a little table. We call it our meditation garden.
Then a year later, my father-in-law passed and we found another corner of the yard to plant a dogwood in his honor. We unearthed a fallen stone bench that former owners had placed nearby, but it had gotten covered with weeds and was hidden. So out it came, and now it’s over by the dogwood. We have some hostas, astilbe, brunnera, and ivy over that direction. Added a bird bath, too. We call that one our memorial garden.
Both of them are lovely places to go sit and take in nature, meditate, and pray. The birds and animals love it, too.
I put one of these (due to cost, $5.27, as I am trying to keep costs down) in most plants, but they are for flowering plants. What should i add to balance out the ratio?
Shucked a nice bucket of English peas this morning... Still, only got about 14 oz of edible peas from that whole bucket.
Here’s where I make my annual statement, “I am done planting peas, they’re too much work, and hardly any return for it.”
And...
After I steam them quick and eat them, they will be SO DAMN GOOD.
I’ll probably plant them again next Spring.
For flowering, NPK of 10-10-4 so it's low on K. Potassium is the most rare of the NPK.
https://todayshomeowner.com/lawn-garden/guides/organic-sources-of-potassium-for-your-lawn-or-garden/
https://homegardenfirst.com/organic-sources-of-potassium-for-plants-organic-potassium-sources/
Banana peels is the only cheap source. NPK of everything website seems to be overloaded this weekend but here's what I found quickly. From; Myths about banana peel
"0.6-0.4-11.5
The NPK value for banana skins is 0.6-0.4-11.5. But this is the value for dried banana skins since all of the above values are calculated on a dry weight basis.
The NPK of fresh banana peels is 1/5 of that, making an NPK of 0.1-0.1-2.3."
Web search for "NPK banana peels". I try to find a few or several sources and go with the most common or average results; https://duckduckgo.com/?q=npk+banana+peels&ia=web
Added! :)
As a Vet myself, I wholeheartedly agree.
This site lists the NPK ratios for every stage of growth for tomatoes:
https://gardeningwithallie.com/npk-for-tomatoes/
I never get that technical, but I always add crushed egg shells and about a 1/2 cup of bone meal to each planting hole (same for my peppers, zukes and cukes) which gets them off to a good start and helps prevent Blossom End Rot.
Higher potassium helps when they are wanting to flower and set fruit.
I don’t remember if you have room to compost, but Compost Tea is cheap (like almost FREE) and good for Every Growing Thing. :)
Seriously? You don’t have to over-think it. I just fill a 5-gallon bucket half way with compost, add water, put it in a shady spot, stir it when I remember too, and dipper it out for my plants, applying it at the base of the plant.
Full instructions here, for those so inclined:
https://www.treehugger.com/how-to-make-compost-tea-5207373
Thanks, Pete! :)
“I like growing plants bearing loved one’s names.”
That is a great way to memorialize loved ones. :)
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