What is sick is that this, in psychobabble, is 'repressive.'
Simple things, simple things, simple things -- that is where riches are hid.
Speaking as one parent of a broken home and as one that had an extended "hiatus" in contact w/ his own parents, i can say that these words are profound.
I am trying to forge my family to take on the qualities that Mr. Sobran talked about.
Damn sight better than what i've already experienced.
I was raised in a very dysfunctional family. My father is an alcoholic. My mother is an enabler. There is still a great deal of animosity between my father and I, mostly because he ignored me most of the time. The only time I got any attention from him was when he was dictating my life and future to me, or when he was abusing me by calling me "fat" and "stupid," or beating me. I was sexually abused, but not by either of my parents (nor by any of my family members; it was a neighborhood man). It occurred when I was nine, but my parents blamed me for my shift from a relatively cheerful and outgoing child into a suicidal, depressed, rage-filled adolescent. Evidently, it didn't occur to them to ask me why my personality had changed so much. This is the very definition of dysfunction.
I hate to think that people would want to have the kind of childhood I had...punctuated with obscenities, loud fights, long stretches of the silent treatment, beatings (called "spankings" by my father) for such minor things as allowing my bike to fall over in the garage and make a small scratch on my father's new car (the bike did not have a kickstand...I was eight years old at the time and was bruised for a week from that beating), etc. As a senior in high school, I finally could not stand the stress anymore. I packed a bag and drove to my grandmother's house in the suburbs. I continued to attend school at my regular high school for the two weeks I stayed with her. While I was in college, my father made it abundantly clear that the reason he had sent me to school (and paid for it) was so I could find a husband; he cared nothing about my education and instead pushed my brother into high-earning disciplines like business. It didn't occur to him that I was the smarter of the two of us; I have a higher IQ, I scored higher on the SAT (and I took it before they made it easier; my brother took it afterwards) and I was a straight A-student while my brother brought home report cards full of Bs and Cs. I was still "stupid" and my brother was still "smart."
This is not something I'm proud of. I'm not ashamed of it, but I haven't written a book about it and I'm not standing on street corners screaming, "My parents were abusive...I'm a victim...love me!" I don't think that most people like me, who come from extremely dysfunctional families, are proud of it. Rather, the opposite is true...people who grew up in similar situations are often tight-lipped about it and feel shame because they blame themselves for the way they were treated. I find that the milder the abuse, the louder people crow about it. A light slap on the hand by mom turns into an all-out beating. People who've REALLY been through it are usually loath to speak of it. I'm open about it, but I think that anyone here would agree that I don't mention it in every single post...I only mention it where it's relevant.
I would hate to think that ANYONE would want to endure the kind of abuse I endured as a child merely in order to seem "interesting." Ironically, I'm not really interested in other peoples' sob stories. I run a depression group on the internet and have long ago stopped reading the sob stories that the members post because they're boring. I can't imagine anyone actually wanting to read that woe-is-me crap. I'd be amazed if anyone was actually still reading this post at this point.
**ramble mode: OFF**