Posted on 02/19/2005 10:58:11 AM PST by srm913
Want longer life for wife? Let her argue with you
LONDON - A WOMAN who keeps quiet during an argument with her husband is four times more likely to die from heart disease and other causes, according to a study published in the American Heart Association (AHA) journal.
Researchers believe women who argue with their husbands are warding off heart disease and other causes of death.
And women whose work had a disruptive effect on their home lives were twice as likely to develop heart disease.
The researchers studied 3,700 people in Framingham, Massachusetts, over a 10-year period, the BBC reported.
The joint Boston University and Wisconsin-based Eaker Epidemiology Enterprises team also found that marriage suited men as husbands only had half the chance of dying from heart disease as unmarried men.
Lead researcher Elaine Eaker said doctors should be looking for signs of marital stress to refer patients for counselling.
'We believe we have found characteristics of marriages that have an impact on people's health and longevity.
'While medical care providers are not specifically trained to intervene on psychosocial issues such as marital characteristics, they may be the most likely contact to observe or uncover these characteristics or emotions.'
A second study of 35,000 women by the Centres for Disease Control and Prevention in Atlanta looked at the link between cardiovascular disease and work.
It found unemployed women looking for work reported the worst physical health, with nearly a third having high blood pressure and 6 per cent suffering a heart attack, stroke or chest pain.
At least one British doctor has disputed the research published in the AHA, saying it should be treated with a 'pinch of salt'.
'We need to remind ourselves that we self-select into certain groups. People who choose to get married have different characteristics from those who do not. So they may be more or less at risk of developing health problems.
'We cannot be sure that the research is comparing 'like with like', ' said Sir Alexander Macara, of the National Heart Forum.
I will live FOREVER!!!
While you may be free free free, I'll bet it wasn't for free free free.
Work all week, come home, relax and drink a few beers, have your wife yell at you because you are drinking beer and won't be ready in time, take a shower, have your wife yell at you for not throwing your clothes into the hamper, get dressed up, wait twenty minutes for your wife to finish getting ready, get in the car, head for the club, realize you don't have enough cash, stop at a convenience store ATM and pay an extra two bucks for that cash, have the wife yell at you for paying the extra two bucks because you didn't plan ahead, get to the club, spend twenty minutes looking for a free parking space while your wife yells at you for not being willing to pay ten bucks to park next to the club, walk ten minutes to the club with your wife complaining about the walk the entire time, wait half an hour to get into the club, get soaked because it starts raining and you don't have an umbrella with your wife yelling at you because her hair is getting ruined, get into the club, stand in a corner because all the tables are taken, wait ten minutes at the bar to get a drink, carry the drinks back to your wife standing in the corner while losing half the contents because some drunk knocked into you, have your wife yell at your for losing so much of her drink, watch the comic on stage repeat the same jokes about masturbation that he's told for the last three years, finish your half drink and this time flag down the cocktail waitress, wait for the next comic to come on stage, have the waitress bring the drinks, have the wife yell at you because she thinks you were checking out the cocktail waitress, spill half your drink down your shirt when some drunk bumps into your arm just as you are taking the first sip, and then realize that the comic telling masturbation jokes was actually the headliner because you got there so late and the show's over. And you get to have your wife yell at you the entire walk back to the car in the rain, which is turning to snow.
Or, there's the passive aggressive solution.
Put the seat down and pee on it. ;o)
Simple.
Men have to live with women.
Sounds like an old joke I heard in high school:
Q: How did Helen Keller's parents punish her?
A: They put a plunger in the toilet.
Hawhawhawhawhawhawhaw
Wow....the ultimate double-edged sword.
No, but the best money I ever spent!
Really, how can you put a price on freedom?
And give her sticky buns.
with credit to Cheech and Chong for that one...
Because women make men WISH FOR DEATH!
Hehe, snicker.
That would be funny if it weren't so terribly close to the truth..
You can't.
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She could.
LOL
I'll drink to that.
Ping- just for fun.
Bud, I spent close to twenty years living that hell.
Fifteen years later, I'm here to tell you there is life after that slow death.
All the best! D1
Hitlery anyway - ol' bl*wj*b Bill hasn't been looking too good lately...
"Bud, I spent close to twenty years living that hell."
We are surrounded by failed marriages. I'm single and never been married, and I love my freedom. I get lonely--and don't believe in shacking up, not that I don't think about it--but that's the price of the freedom. Like I read somewhere: "Freedom means no home, Home means no freedom"...or at least not the kind of freedom the wanderer has.
Are you completely burned against marriage or do you see any hope there for yourself? I worry because so many marriages are failing, and I do wonder if singleness is the better option given these times of all the little gods and goddesses running around thinking they deserve to have the best of everything (i.e. full of pride, which is fatal to a marriage).
In my first marriage, I wasn't perfect. Hell, I'm not perfect now. Nobody is. Living with someone else is like living with two minds, never quite in sync.
Rationality is the key. If she's rational, you'll get along. If she's not, there's no basis for settling differences. And this doesn't mean victory. It can even mean, we agree to disagree amicably.
My first wife was as irrational a person as you'd ever meet. If we didn't have money, and money was tight then, her comeback was that she deserved to have whatever she wanted and that was that. To hell with the bills and whatever was important. The examples could be legion.
The scenario Dirtboy laid out was like a blow by blow from my first marriage. It almost brough a panic attack on. LOL, just kidding but seriously, what a waste of time.
I am married to one of the most level-headed people I've ever met. She is beautiful, extremely capable, and happy within herself.
I wish for any guy the same luck that I have experienced. It will be a blessing to them.
Don't go out looking. Be a little bit of a joiner. Meet people. Sooner or later you'll meet the right one.
My wife now spends time doing her thing, and I mine. But it's nice to have someone around for shared experiences.
Single life can been quite enjoyable. Some people perfer it, and if you do more power to you. If it gets old, here's to wishing you success in finding someone to "ENJOY" life with.
D1
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