Posted on 09/22/2005 5:48:16 PM PDT by wagglebee
may not carry the stigma socially but....ya gotta answer to someone one day!!! Virtue is virtue and doesn't change with the times no matter who says what.
This article is nonsense. These two hacks are trying to hype their books sales with their nonsense. For a more reasoned look at the facts see:
Study finds most married Americans remaining faithful
I thought homosexuality was the biggest threat?
-ccm
-ccm
Not according to Jesus
Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
Actually, YOU are having it both ways. And you misread my post entirely.
Pro-life has nothing to do with what I was talking about.
You, as a God-loving person of conscience and belief, decided to have your child. Great and good and God bless the both of you. It is what I would wish for my sisters or daughters.
What I was referring to was the removal of the onus for children "born out of wedlock," as the quaint saying goes. That onus kept a lot of women from "going too far," as they knew the consequences were great.
Abortion, in the olden days of 25-30 years ago, was not a remedy for a bad situation like it's become today. It was relatively rare. When a woman of consience got pregnant outside of marriage, she toughed it out and raised the child, or gave it up to adoption (third option, unacceptable to both of us, she aborted it).
But what's going on today, with our "relaxed" society? Get pregnant? Abort. As people here know, abortion, for too many women, is not much more than a very late birth control application (and yes, damn their murdering souls). But now there's another option: Just have the kid. Cool. And I don't need a husband, because, in virtually every neighborhood in the US, no matter the income level, almost no one has the gonads to say, I disapprove of what you're doing.
It's all a complicated, confusing stew of morals and choices (and amoral choices!) coming out of the moral relativistic, feel-good, do what's best for me attitudes the left has--successfully--been foisting on us for two generations. Now you have millions of people who reflexively say, No one can tell a woman what to do with her own body!
Anyway, I appreciate your passion, which is born of your emotionalism for your situation and your child, and that is in no way any kind of criticism. I just think it led you to misinterpret what I was saying. You, I infer, are one of the exceptions--conscience, love, taking a moral stand.
Safe travel to you both.
And none of that stuff ever happened before the internet?
The article was very dishonest in the way it handled the topic and blamed the internet for something that has been going on forever to some degree or other.
There's also been hurricanes, tornados, and earthquakes forever. Mass media just brings them home more quickly.
Yet I never fail to notice that those folks that fit a nice little template as to who they are...are the ones so quick to judge anyone different than them.
Ignorance is comfortable in the moldy extremes of either political party. It is always quick to accuse and never around when it is time to step up and accept responsibility.
A few days ago, there was a post on bicycles and conservatives flocked out in high numbers to say they would enjoy driving their SUV over a cyclist. And a few weeks ago, there was an article on pets being rescued in New Orleans. Conservatives lined up to disapprove of any effort that could have otherwise been spent on humans.
I hope you and I don't know first hand, but I fear (yes fear)...that conservatives and liberals will stand side by side in hell. And each will wonder why and how they failed. And they will be angry. Angry that they did not get their way!
So there's that....
You neglect to mention that single motherhood is not only a result of unmarried and unprotected sex, but from deadbeat fathers leaving their children behind when they leave their marriage. I am sure you realize that this is pathetically common and is in no way to be construed as a "choice" made by the mother except for her initial decision to marry a loser.
Even the most amicable divorces with two parents who love the child often result in one parent having physical custody and the other ending up with visitation. This is another scenario for single-parenthood where the custodial parent may not have "chosen" their situation, but rather agreed to it or was ordered by the court to comply.
Because people today divorce because they want more out of life.... not ~less~.
Thanks for the ping!
----Not the ones I am involved with.
Out of curiosity, how many married men are you involved with?
That is why I have not remarried. In the end, I had to turn away each opportunity.
Moral Absolutes Ping.
If anyone marries thinking "this person will make me happy and change my life" he or she is in for a big letdown. If someone is looking for the perfect person, he/she is in for a big letdown.
If someone is looking for a life companion to help and be helped by, to go through life as a team, to care about that other person as much or even more than you care about yourself, to be faithful and loyal even when you see the warts (and guess what, they see yours), even when times are tough, to reach out your hand and help your spouse over the rough spots, to cheer him or her when she's down, to share the good times, to know when to talk, when to listen, and when to leave him/her alone...And to do it all because God says that's the way it should be - then it's very likely the marriage will be a good one.
If someone marries knowing that even when the outside ages, the inside is still eternal - and learns to see through the outside into the inside - that will be a good marriage.
If someone is looking for a sex object who will never get old, a meal ticket who'll always make lots of money, someone who's hair will never turn grey or fall out, don't get married.
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Note: Pornography ruins people.
It really does come down to selfishness ("I want") rather than maintaining one's integrity and vow before God and others.
We are a sad lot.
There is biblical reason for divorce and its the topic of thread. Why not remarry another if adultry was the cause for divorce in one's first marriage?
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