Posted on 01/28/2006 8:21:45 AM PST by buccaneer81
His schedule is standard for non custodial parents- every other weekend plus one evening a week.
1. Weekends: Alternate weekends from Friday at 6:00 p.m. until Sunday at 6:00 p.m. This alternating weekend schedule shall not change, even when interrupted by holiday and birthday, summer and/or vacation parenting time. (See Section 5a below) 2. Weekdays: One weekday evening per week from 5:00 p.m. to 8:00 p.m. which shall be Wednesday unless otherwise agreed and designated herein as
5. Holidays (includes birthdays): In odd-numbered years, Mother has Spring Break, Memorial Day, Labor Day, and the first half of Winter Break. In odd-numbered years, Father has Martin Luther King's Day, Fourth of July, Thanksgiving, and the second half of Winter Break. In the even-numbered years, the schedules are reversed.
a. In the event of a conflict between regular parenting time and holiday parenting time, holiday parenting time prevails. The alternating weekend parenting time schedule continues, however, as if the holiday had not intervened. This means that one parent may have the children three weekends in a row. This process equalizes itself over the course of time for each parent
d. Hours for parents who can not agree are as follows: Martin Luther King Day (9:00 a.m. to 7:00 p.m.); Spring Break (6:00 p.m. on the day school is out to 7:00 p.m. the day before school recommences); Memorial Day and Labor Day (6:00 p.m. Friday to 6:00 p.m. Monday); July 4th (9:00 a.m. to 9:00 a.m. the next day); Thanksgiving (6:00 p.m. Wednesday to 6:00 p.m. Sunday); Winter Break (first half commences at 6:00 p.m. the last day of school before Winter Break begins, until December 25 at 1:00 p.m.; second half commences at 1:00 p.m. December 25 until 6:00 p.m. the day before school recommences).
8. Telephone Access: a. Children can call either parent as often as they wish, at reasonable times, so long as the call is collect, if it is a long distance call. b. In addition, the non-possessory parent shall be entitled to telephone communication with the children not less than three times per week for not less than 15 minutes per call. c. Possessory parent shall not interfere with or stop the telephone communication.
The court gave her custody because of my son's age (four at the time) and they said I worked too much! (Yeah..all the better to pay the big support order.)
What state is this, just curious? So in this state, 50/50 custody means no one has to pay support?
I respect you for that and I know your kids do as well. What a good feeling to be such a great role model for your kids and grandkids!
Agreed.
He should also stop whining to us and go get himself a lawyer, if his statements are true.
If he really cared about his kids and was a decent man, he would be fighting to see them and not hunting through the internet for stories about how he was wronged.
See posts #22 and #24.
I am sorry to hear about how it worked out. I understand now. The big paychecks are a problem. Sorry.
Just as a thought, don't know if it is feasible, but can you move closer to your son and petition for shared parenting now that your son is older and maybe the financial situation has changed? Maybe some people forget that the original order can be easily modified.
I've spent over $30,000 fighting for more time with my son. I'm broke. And I've been to jail for contempt of court (I told the judge she had no moral authority to deprive my son of his father and that she wasn't God.)
So I may be a whiner in your eyes, but I'm not wrong.
I could do that. But in order to modify custody in this state, its back to the court appointed shrinks and counselors and four to six month intervals between docket positions (if some lawyer doesn't ask for multiple continuances.) My ex can outspend me in court. After all, she gets $800 amonth tax free from me, and she earns $42k herself.
I agree totally! If any dad really cared about seeing his kids more, I cannot imagine any court denying him more visitation rights within the law!!! Given that many dads do shirk their responsibility, the court would welcome it.
And, if any mother denies visitation rights to the dad, or blatantly tries to turn the kids against the dad, she can lose all rights to the kids herself.
I would personally help any dad that wanted more visitation rights with their kids!
When I got a modification to the order, I just filled out paperwork. Of course, my ex- agreed to the modification and signed the paperwork. There were free advocates, especially for child custody cases, available for advice regardless of income. I got the impression in WA anyway, that courts do not favor attorneys either. Maybe your ex- would like you do see your son more now that he is older and would now cooperate more.
Maybe things have changed in the court system since you tried last. It would be worth the effort to look into it. I just can't believe that nothing can be done. If that were me, I wouldn't let anything keep me from my kids.
I'd be happy if the mother were required to provide proof that the child support money was spent for the child.
And sometimes the female moves 2,000 miles away while the male is deployed and doesn't tell him about it until the check is due, at which time she is kind enough to provide a P.O. box.
I know. That is the tragedy of the whole thing. I wish we could all had wonderful fairytale lives where everything is fair. But like I said honor your court-ordered duty (if you can't, get it modified)...be as much a father as you CAN be. You'll be better off for it and so will your kids.
I'm sorry the mother of your children cannot be a better mother and person. I'm glad you can be.
That's the Hobson's Choice, isn't it? You can have the kids if you're willing to give up the job you need to support them. Keep the job, and you get to give most of your earnings to a vindictive ex who can do whatever the hell she wants.
I see, you live in Washington. Every other weekend is standard for non custodial parents in Missouri as well. What is standard in your state?
Well, my son is 20 now and his mother can no longer interfere in our relationship. We've become very close since he's been able to shed her yoke.
Congratulations! There you go, eventually you will be rewarded for your good behavior...and those without good behavior will suffer.
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