Posted on 03/06/2006 9:51:00 PM PST by tbird5
It happens to the best of women. Here's Rosalind Wiseman, who has spent her entire working life teaching girls to treat each other decently. The script for the movie Mean Girls was based on her 2002 best-selling Queen Bees & Wannabes, a book that helps parents understand the drama and danger in the adolescent girl world. She knows the minefields that lie in gossip, jealousy, disloyalty and cruel judgments, and offers solid prescriptions for changing bad behaviour.
Yet despite her experience, she recently found herself sizing up two mothers who came to see her.
In her view, the women paid too much attention to their appearance, especially their hair. They seemed catty in their conversation, were micromanaging their kids' lives, and were silly.
"All these things came into my head. Why? They are antithetical to what I teach and believe," Wiseman says. "I was still judging these women."
Where does this nastiness come from?
Wiseman thinks it exists because it's supposed to exist. Being nasty to each other is one of the unspoken rules about how girls and women are supposed to behave; one of the rigidly enforced North American standards of what constitutes femininity.
"It's everything you know but haven't been sat down and taught," as Wiseman puts it.
When she judged the two women so harshly, it was as if she was acting out one of the observations she made in her book — that girls and women can be their own worst enemies.
(Excerpt) Read more at thestar.com ...
How do you feel about blondes?
complete idiocy doesn't deserve a response.
I have to say I like blondes!
Why do you ask? ;-)
"all flavors."
giggling here...I think I'm gonna fall out.
You at least smart enough to realize that a comment like that pretty much classifies you as an idiot, don't you?
Hmmm...then again, maybe you aren't smart enough...
And therein lies the problem. ;-)
Which, of course, will only reinforce my point. One of the defining traits of American women is their utter lack of accountability or introspection, and they whine; "Where are all the men?"
Answer: They're pursuing foreign women.
Good to know.
LOL!
I'll agree with that, but my time with ultra-alpha's is done. I'm not exactly an ultra-alpha male myself, and would prefer to be with someone similar.
Yes, generalizations are generally false.
BWHAHAHAHA!
I've gone rounds with him before...
As an adult, I look back horrified at things that were said and done to me in early adolescence and also EVEN MORE HORRIFIED by my own behavior!
Both of you---
GO TO YOUR ROOM (see, I got it right this time).
Glad you liked that one.
I'm simply not understanding you.
You must be single and lonely.
Bless your heart.
Yes, we do and my man says I am the best. Gulp.
American men who pursue foreign women don't have the cajones to handle an intelligent woman.
(see - I can generalize too)
EXCELLENT!!! A middle of the week banishment!
Thank you my dear! ;-)
Howling here........
Geez,you've got guts.
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