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In Search of Chivalry
Did it sink with the Titanic?
National Review Online ^
| April 13, 2006
| Carrie Lukas
Posted on 04/13/2006 11:55:44 AM PDT by ReleaseTheHounds
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To: Nea Wood
They should, but they don't. Many women get depressed when, around a certain age, the "Miss" changes to "Ma'am." It's kind of a depressing moment for many of us, like finding the first wrinkle or gray hair.It is too bad, isn't it? I certainly agree that it's upsetting to realize one has passed the peak of one's physical beauty. Being quite nearsighted, I once thought for two years that the sun was lightening some of the strands of my hair. Then one day I happended to look into a mirror with my glasses on and got a terrible shock. I took to my bed with a box of Kleenex and a pint of chocolate-chip ice cream (calories don't count when you're crying).
To: American Quilter
Thank you. Such civility is still common down South.
To: ExpatGator
My reply to the request "don't call me ma'am" is always "yes ma'am." Kill 'em with kindness.LOL!
To: LoneConservative
All you dear men who keep chivalry alive..bless you. There are still plenty of us ol' gals who love being a woman and appreciate the gestures and manners and will reward you all with our brightest, sweetest smile, slight nod of the head, and a thank you.
To: ExpatGator
There is something about a southern gentleman saying 'Yes, Ma'am' that just melts my bones. Especially if it is a Texan. Call me old fashioned.
To: ReleaseTheHounds
My father was the personification of manliness, chivalry, and the manly virtues. Come to think of it--so is my son.
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posted on
04/13/2006 1:09:40 PM PDT
by
Savage Beast
(9/11 was never repeated--thanks to President Bush and his surveillance program.)
To: ReleaseTheHounds
Perhaps there are those women who truly do appreciate these things. If there are, I've not seen many. I will never cease my quiet courtesies, and should a woman snap at me for them ,as has often been the case, I will continue all the more stridently to remain chivalrous.
I am not a big, burly man by any stretch, but I know common courtesy when I see it. It's saddening to see lovely women who stand by the men they are with even when those men treat them like chattle. These women eat it up and I have NO idea why.
Is chivalry dead? No. Do nice guys finish last? In my experience, yes. In my specific history, always. Regardless it is who I am and who I shall remain come what may.
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posted on
04/13/2006 1:18:15 PM PDT
by
Romish_Papist
(St. Jude, pray for my lost cause. St. Rita, pray for my impossible situation.)
To: ReleaseTheHounds
Once in New York City - in Chinatown - I saw a Policewoman, hands full with cups of coffee, heading for her patrol car. I was right there, so, naturally, I opened the door for her. She looked at me - shock and suprise in her face. She knew instantly: I was a tourist.
To: LoneConservative
My one-time boss had to take the subway while 9 months along and couldn't get anyone, male or female, to give up a seat. She wouldn't have glared. Hell, she probably would've named her son after you :)
I personally don't think a man should have to give up his seat to an able-bodied woman, but I can't imagine anyone getting put out by a display of courtesy. And it goes without saying that everyone should give up a seat for the elderly or infirm.
To: Mordacious
In this day and age women want to be men fine....don't give up your seat because we would not wish to offend
To: tx_eggman
A totally unwatchable movie, never made more then a few minutes into it[my girls had a tape of it and it seemed to be always on] especially with that half man/boy Leonardo in it.If I want to see a good film version of it I will watch the one with Barb Stanwyck.
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posted on
04/13/2006 1:31:39 PM PDT
by
ABN 505
To: tfecw
I think that's more of a regional thing than an indication that people are ruder in NY, since even very well-mannered people up here don't use "ma'am." We still sometimes use "sir," but only when speaking to people like police officers.
To: tfecw
I'm a woman who has lived in New York City for thirty years and people get suspicious because I say please and thank you. They figure I'm either mentally challenged or a con artist. City people can be provincial, too. Don't let them change you.
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posted on
04/13/2006 1:42:55 PM PDT
by
joylyn
To: tfecw
The correct address to a young lady is "miss".
Also, one of the true marks of a gentleman, especially in this day and age, is a handkerchief. Have one handy at all times because when you address a lady with a term of respect, she will undoubtedly burst into tears!
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posted on
04/13/2006 1:46:22 PM PDT
by
ishabibble
(UNITED WE STAND DIVIDED WE FALL)
To: ExpatGator
My reply to the request "don't call me ma'am" is always "yes ma'am." Kill 'em with kindness.LOL! That's really the only proper response.
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posted on
04/13/2006 1:51:41 PM PDT
by
zeugma
(Anybody who says XP is more secure than OS X or Linux has been licking toads.)
To: ReleaseTheHounds; Just another Joe; dmz
I'm raising my two daughters (ages 12 and 11) as well as my 6 year old son to say, "Yes ma'am, no ma'am, yes sir, no sir, please, and thank you." It drives me crazy when some snotty brat says, "Huh?" of "What?" or "Yeah" to me or another authority figure.
Not only that but I'm constantly telling my son (and he is quickly getting there) to always look another man in the eye and shake his hand with a firm squeeze, smile and introduce himself.
My daughters are taught to wait on a door to be opened for them.
It's working.
At the Easter party today a little girl in my son's class lost her balloon while outside. My son gave her his balloon and went without. (That's a big deal at 6 years old). He will get ice cream tonight after we go to the batting cages!
It all boils down to upbringing. Here in the South, we know how to do it.
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posted on
04/13/2006 1:52:02 PM PDT
by
ConservativeBamaFan
(Ted Kennedy's car has killed more people than Dick Cheney's quail gun.)
To: linda_22003
Even many of the most prominent men aboard, including John Jacob Astor, IV, died.
To: Darth Malice
The True Origins of Chivalry:
http://www.sociallyinept.com/TheTrueOriginsofChivalry.htm
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posted on
04/13/2006 1:58:54 PM PDT
by
Junior_G
To: Restorer
I haven't gotten a negative response since the early eighties.
Since I will hold a door for men or women, I never in that big a hurry, I've found that most just walk on by without even a nod. The cell phone talkers act like I'm an automatic door.
The people who do respond, male or female generally respond with the sweetest smile and a nice thank you.
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posted on
04/13/2006 1:59:29 PM PDT
by
PeteB570
(Guns, what real men want for Christmas)
To: Young Scholar
And Isidor Straus, chairman of Macy's, whose wife Ida wouldn't leave him to get on a lifeboat, and went down with him and the ship.
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