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Sorry, but my children bore me to death! (Feminism's highest honor, Grand Narcissism)
Daily Mail ^ | 26th July 2006 | HELEN KIRWAN-TAYLOLR

Posted on 07/26/2006 7:17:10 AM PDT by carlo3b

Sorry, but my children bore me to death!
by HELEN KIRWAN-TAYLOLR, Daily Mail 08:00am 26th July 2006

It's the start of the summer holidays, when millions of mothers despair at how to entertain their children for the next six weeks. What none of them dare say is that they would rather their children were still at school or, frankly, anywhere else. Helen Kirwan-Taylor, a 42-year-old writer, lives in Notting Hill, West London, with her businessman husband Charles and their sons Constantin, 12, and Ivan, ten. Here, she argues provocatively that modern women must not be enslaved by their children.

The lies started when my eldest son was less than ten months old.

Invitations to attend a child's birthday party or, worse, a singalong session were met with the same refrain: 'I would love to but I just can't spare the time.'

The nanny was dispatched in my place, and almost always returned complaining that my son had been singled out for pitiful stares by the other mothers.

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Kids are supposed to be fulfilling, life-changing, life-enhancing fun: why was my attitude towards them so different?

While all my girlfriends were dropping important careers and occupying their afternoons with cake baking, I was begging the nanny to stay on, at least until she had read my two a bedtime story. What kind of mother hates reading bedtime stories? A bad mother, that's who, and a mother who is bored rigid by her children.

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Am I a lazy, superficial person because I don't enjoy packing up their sports kit, or making their lunch, or sitting through coffee mornings with other mothers discussing how Mr Science (I can't remember most of the teachers' names) said such and such to Little Johnny and should we all complain to the headmaster.

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TOPICS: News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: childred; feminism; liberalism; motherhood; parenthood; selfish; soccermom
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To: carlo3b
I am afraid that he is problerably no better than she is..

That was not what I had in mind. I was thinking she does not really love the father and that contributed to the distance she keeps from the children she bore by him.

301 posted on 07/26/2006 8:38:33 PM PDT by af_vet_1981
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To: Samwise
Am I a lazy, superficial person because I don't enjoy packing up their sports kit, or making their lunch,...

Sam, I am well known as a chef at our school activities, and I am forever shocked whenever I have a mother come up to me and laugh, that they never use their stove or any other utensil in the kitchen because they never learned to enjoy cooking.. They should only know what I am thinking..

God, I hope these kids survive this curse..

302 posted on 07/26/2006 8:42:09 PM PDT by carlo3b ("Leave the gun, take the cannolis")
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To: af_vet_1981
Both are sad scenarios indeed..
303 posted on 07/26/2006 8:43:46 PM PDT by carlo3b ("Leave the gun, take the cannolis")
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To: OpusatFR
My grown children are an amazimg lot, especially around the dinner table when all are home. Brilliant conversationalists on many topics and accomplished in their fields.

That is your diploma.. Congratulations

304 posted on 07/26/2006 8:46:08 PM PDT by carlo3b ("Leave the gun, take the cannolis")
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To: BraveMan
I would gladly give away everything I possess, including all the rest of my days, in trade for just five minutes more with my son.

You are indeed a Brave Man my dear FRiend.. I cannot imagine the pain.. You will be in my prayers, and just remember you will have those 5 minutes and an eternity to hold him when the time is right..

305 posted on 07/26/2006 8:50:00 PM PDT by carlo3b ("Leave the gun, take the cannolis")
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To: carlo3b
My last boy is now going off to college, to make his own footprints, and someday emulate his upbringing, and be a dad to his kids.. His absence will be deafening, but I have the love of my other 4 kids and my fabulous grandchildren who live close by..

You'll have the love of the "last boy" too - college or not, love lives in the heart. :)

306 posted on 07/26/2006 8:53:51 PM PDT by GOPJ (Evolution: It's not "one" missing link - ALL the links are missing.)
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To: New Girl
Research increasingly shows that child-centred parenting is creating a generation of narcissistic children who cannot function independently. """Flame away but this part of the article is true."""

I would never flame you.. I never doubted that overcooking can spoil and good recipe.. But, if I will be wrong either way, please God let me err on the side of the angels.. :)

307 posted on 07/26/2006 8:54:36 PM PDT by carlo3b ("Leave the gun, take the cannolis")
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To: carlo3b
Well, now, I want you to know that I have a Granddaughter, too!!! In fact their names are Mitchell and Megan and I call 'em my M&M's!!!

God love ya, Carlo! You bees a great man as well as a great cooker-upper!!! (what's fer supper?)

308 posted on 07/26/2006 8:54:40 PM PDT by SierraWasp (Memo To: Uncle Sam Re: Terrorists, Insurgents and Illegal Combatants...NoUniforms... No Prisoners!!!)
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To: bmwcyle

I'm always late on these threads--
I was married once, and had mostly changed back to my maiden name but still had a few things in the married name, then my dad died. Within a week I had everything back to my wonderful Irish name. Should I ever get married again - which I just don't see happening, but should it - I'll hyphenate my last name in honor of my dad. It's a wonderful last name, and it's all I have left of him....


309 posted on 07/26/2006 9:10:42 PM PDT by justche (If you're afraid of the future, then get out of the way, stand aside. - Ronald Reagan)
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To: carlo3b

How horrible & hurtful she must be to her childrens' tender little hearts. She should NEVER have born them. I have no sympathy for this.


310 posted on 07/26/2006 9:27:21 PM PDT by Libertina
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To: carlo3b

Thanks for the ping!


311 posted on 07/26/2006 10:05:04 PM PDT by Alamo-Girl
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To: carlo3b

God bless all fathers everywhere.


312 posted on 07/27/2006 12:35:03 AM PDT by Dr. Eckleburg ("I don't think they want my respect; I think they want my submission." - Flemming Rose)
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To: EmilyGeiger

"Read "I love you forever" or "The giving Tree." You will become a puddle, the tears will be falling so quickly. :)"

I love those books!

I just ran across this thread, I hate it that I missed it when it was active. That woman is a sorry excuse for a mother. I have 5 kids, I only wish I had a minute of boredom!


313 posted on 07/27/2006 6:37:10 AM PDT by tuffydoodle (Shut up voices, or I'll poke you with a Q-Tip again.)
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To: tuffydoodle; Maximus of Texas

Ping

What do you think of this woman's attitude, Max?


314 posted on 07/27/2006 6:38:11 AM PDT by tuffydoodle (Shut up voices, or I'll poke you with a Q-Tip again.)
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To: carlo3b
have a mother come up to me and laugh, that they never use their stove or any other utensil in the kitchen because they never learned to enjoy cooking.. They should only know what I am thinking..

That truly is sad. I love cooking. I just hate cleaning it up. Pity you live across the country. My son needs to meet a professional chef for his cooking merit badge requirement.

315 posted on 07/27/2006 6:38:49 AM PDT by HungarianGypsy
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To: carlo3b; Samwise
I can't understand folks who don't enjoy making a nice home for husband and children. And children boring? Amusing, charming, maddening at times . . . but never BORING!

My mom can't cook (it just wasn't born in her - and her mom was a fussy perfectionist who never allowed her in the kitchen) but my dad is a splendid cook (only boy and youngest in a big family of girls - he can also sew on buttons, darn socks, and dynamite a bridge < g > - didn't learn that last one at home but in the Corps of Engineers). And he taught me . . . I need a cookbook, but nobody at our house ever goes hungry and our guests do seem to like the food. My husband is a chemist and says he cooks all day at work, doesn't need to when he gets home, but he's a good egg and I never wash a dish!

My girl goes off to college in two weeks, I'm sending her with a microwave cookbook (hot plates not allowed in the dorms) and a breaking heart . . . < sniff >

. . . but this means I'll have time to teach my son to cook! We'll start with grilling over charcoal, all men love that!

316 posted on 07/27/2006 6:47:56 AM PDT by AnAmericanMother ((Ministrix of Ye Chase, TTGC Ladies' Auxiliary (recess appointment)))
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To: justche
Me too!

I hyphenated my last name, not because I'm one of those kooky feminists, but because my dad had only girls and he's a splendid fellow and deserves to have his name carried on. The kids all carry his name too.

317 posted on 07/27/2006 6:49:32 AM PDT by AnAmericanMother ((Ministrix of Ye Chase, TTGC Ladies' Auxiliary (recess appointment)))
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To: tuffydoodle

I started reading "I Love You, Forever" to my now 4 year old when he was a few weeks old. When I read it we had a blue rocker recliner and I would rock him back and forth while reading it. Now everytime I read it he insists that I rock him back and forth through the story and after. Sometimes he will climb on my lap and say, "Mama, rock me back and forth and back and forth." He expects me to do it until he's asleep or my arms fall off.


318 posted on 07/27/2006 7:01:54 AM PDT by HungarianGypsy
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To: AnAmericanMother
I was thinking of trying to make some sort or beginning cooking class for my younger children (and a little for my older) if you want me to freepmail you what I come up with something. Maybe we can asked carlo to contribute. :-)

My mother also would not allow me in the kitchen. My dad taught me a little, then I learned the rest when I got married. The biggest problem people have with my husband's cooking ("what's a recipe?") is he will make something incredibly delicious, but never be able to duplicate it again, because he just throws things together.

319 posted on 07/27/2006 7:06:29 AM PDT by HungarianGypsy
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To: HungarianGypsy; carlo3b
Pingaroonie for a kids' cooking curriculum . . .

My dad is also a cook-by-the-seat-of-the-pants type guy. He's just a natural. Usually he remembers what he did though.

My curriculum (such as it is) includes - (1) how to mix and bake a typical drop cookie (and add different ingredients); (2) how to make biscuits (necessity in the South); (3) how to prepare and roast a whole chicken; (4) how to grill steaks and chops over charcoal and how to broil them in the oven; (5) how to boil rice (and how to add various things such as sauteeing the rice grains in butter first, adding chicken stock to the water, etc.); (6) cooking green beans or any other tender green vegetable by quickly parboiling and then sauteeing with onions, garlic, mustard seed, etc. (7) the whole egg deal, with variations - scrambled eggs, omelettes, French toast, pancakes, etc. My father teaches them how to make loaf bread, that's his particular area of expertise. And they have known how to mix and dress a good salad since they were 6 years old.

320 posted on 07/27/2006 7:15:17 AM PDT by AnAmericanMother ((Ministrix of Ye Chase, TTGC Ladies' Auxiliary (recess appointment)))
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